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**Dixiefireball** · 07-29-2003, 11:24 AM

Teri,
I like your idea! you may like a post i added to off the topic area. it was kind of funny it might make you laugh. Love you take care of your self! grouphug

**Cricket** · 07-29-2003, 01:01 PM

{{{{{Teri}}}}} I know exactly how frustrating it is trying to find a 'proper' place to post. Once upon a time, some people were offended by just about everything I posted, mostly saying that my attitude was "too positive". And others didn't think I should post any messages at all because I don't have IC. What I did for a while was, I put my name on the subject line so those who were offended by my posts could avoid reading them. So, what you could do is make "male bash" part of your subject. Those who are offended by that topic would know immediately to avoid your post. Then if they chose to read it and were offended, it's their problem, not yours.

Take care and know that you're in my thoughts and prayers daily.

With Love,
Cricket

**ICNJess** · 07-29-2003, 01:35 PM

Teri-
I like your idea. I just posted on the romance and sex board about how sex is so much more and what not...but I know that there are a lot of people out there having problems. And heck, I love my husband bunches, but somedays I would like to gripe about him. :p Hehe...great idea. I definitely think there should be a board about relationship problems...the romance and sex is a great board, but I don't think it has enough vent power for some IC patients out there that are really frustrated.

Hugs,
Jess

**Teri** · 07-29-2003, 02:22 PM

Thankx Cricket

Jess~I never thought about the WHOLE parts with the new catagory until you brought up the sex. There have been times that I've been attacked because I'm not doing ALL I can to please my man. Well, I'm not willing to go thru all the pain and I refuse to take more pills just to get me thru the act of it.
And, I do think this should be seperated from the romance board because it discouraged people to talk.....

Cone on Jill, come on Diane or Donna.....can we have the new catagory?????????????????????????

**dancemomof2** · 07-30-2003, 05:15 AM

Teri,

I am the queen male basher. I am all for your forum. I have the most scatter brained hubby that I vent about all the time. I am all for this.

**Iris** · 07-30-2003, 07:42 AM

Hey I think its a great idea, way to go, high five for it Iris wink

**ICNJess** · 07-30-2003, 01:45 PM

Yowza!!! I see conflict!!! Can we meet somewhere in the middle? Maybe like, a place not to bash, but to vent about partners...a specific place, not the venting board, but like "Difficulties with Partners" or something like that. There are men on here that have venting about women not understanding, I have read a few posts. Before anything gets ugly here, I am sure there can be a compromise. Personally, I have issues with my husband sometimes about not being able to perform, with being in pain and all. Although he is patient, I know that it is affecting him. Somedays there are upsetting comments, others there are not. And I know for the IC guys, there can be a lot of hurtful women out there, too. Anyway, just wanna say that I support the idea of partner venting, and I also see the side of maybe male bashing being offensive to some.

Hugs,
Jess

***ICNDonna*** · 07-30-2003, 02:01 PM

We already have a board for venting --- and one for dealing with family. I know some are hving difficulties with spouses, but I honestly don't feel good about a board for male bashing --- or female bashing for that matter.

As a compromise, if you really want to do some venting about your significant other --- you can use the venting board and title your post so those who don't want to read it will know --- as Cricket suggested.

Donna

**kenzycodi** · 08-01-2003, 03:22 PM

I have mixed feelings about the topic. I agree Male bashing is not an appropriate name for a forum but to respond to Teri I think it would be a good place for us to express our feelings about our mates. The vent board is full of vents of different problems. It may not help IC but it may those who are having a hard time express how they feeling and get support from others who have had or are having the same feeling. Like Teri said those who didn't like it would not have to go there. I was insulted in the chat room so I very seldom go there. There were people I loved to chat with but choose to not go there becuase the ones who offended me are frequent chatters. So if Teri or anyone else needs to talk about their partners I think a designated place to go would be appropriate and not offend anyone. That's my opinion.

Kenzy

**ICNJess** · 08-02-2003, 04:06 AM

I am really for the idea of a partners venting board. Does venting help IC? Maybe, maybe not. It does good to let it out though. The venting board has all sorts of vents like Kenzy said. Whether it be doctors, pain, bladder problems, etc. There is a singles board, and I've seen many vents on there. Why not a married board, or a partners board??

**tigger_gal** · 08-02-2003, 08:06 AM

my partner is a major problem!
brat

**ICNJess** · 08-02-2003, 09:14 AM

LOL Brat, I hear ya!!! Anyways, I'm not saying let's make a board that's just for bashing our partners. Having IC is difficult enough...but then you are puting your life partner through your IC pain, and sometimes, they don't always understand, and problems rise. I'm just saying, there is a site for Single W/ IC...and I usually see topics about how hard it is to date with IC...well...it is also to be married with IC, or to be in a serious relationship with IC, or whatever the case.

**kenzycodi** · 08-02-2003, 03:31 PM

I'm with Jess on this. Noone wants to be catered to just a plave where they feel comfortable talking a certain issue. If it had it's own name then it could be passed by by those who were not interedted. So many people frequent the venting board that it's almost impossible to get more than a few replies because there are so many posts to reply to. I think it would be a good idea to have a special place to get those feelings out without feeling you are being judged.

Kenzy

**Teri** · 08-02-2003, 04:14 PM

I do believe that the block I was asking for was "PARTNER PROBLEMS". The topic I am talking about is
a place were we can come and blow completely into 10 thousand different places because we are so tired of hitting our head against the same stone and nothing changes.

Yep, WE sure could use the relations or family sections to do this in.......too bad in the last couple of months we have been told that these were not the appropriate place to be putting these things.

I Only read the topics I"m interested in now. I just don't have the time in a day to read every single post. Thing's have changed for me in the last couple of years and sitting long enough to read all the posts is just physically too painfull for me Having this stashed behind some other name would completely hide it in the background where so many want it to be hidden.

Yes! We do have men here. And, I'm sure that alot of them have been treated as badly as alot of us women with regard to sex. Or, what do you mean you slept all day, where's dinner! Or, you didn't iron my favorite blouse! You know I wanted to wear that to my meeting in the morning! ...........this is a place for all to blow off some steam, women, males, gay....I don't give a crap who it is!!!!!!!!!!! I still think there is a need for it and if somepeople think that my original post was mean in spirit, sorry about that. It wasn't meant to be. Things are going along just fine here for now~

I brought this suject up to show there was a need for it.......I like the name you came up with Jess kissing

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