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Tip and IBS, I respect your opinion and welcome your comment.
I do respectfully disagree, however, and maintain my position that I should have been allowed the chance to give informed consent to this procedure.
The doctor had a choice whether or not to let med students in, and to do pelvic exams on me while I was under. I had no such choice. I should mention that this procedure does NOT call for a pelvic exam. Nor was it done for my benefit - it was done PURELY to train medical students. There is absolutely NO reason the doctor could not have ASKED for my consent beforehand.
I was not given a choice, however. I was violated while under anesthesia. My only choice now is - do I report it or not? And I choose to report it, in order to save other women this assault.
A similar situation exists in regards with sexual abusers. I was raped by family members growing up, from the time I was a small child. Over and over again, repeatedly. They laughed at me when I cried. The men greatly enjoyed making me suffer.
Many people (mostly men, to be honest) tell me to forgive and forget and not tell anyone about the abuse. They are uncomfortable with my anger and with my lack of letting it slide.
The only way to make changes happen for the better in this world is to fight for them.
It is wrong for men to rape women, in my opinion.
I was medically raped under anesthesia. I have the right to report that and to fight on behalf of others.
It's okay for you to feel sorry for the doctor, to feel sorry for the abusers who raped me as a child - to try to tell me that I shouldn't speak up, shouldn't try to push for changes - but it's also okay for me to disagree with you, and for me to do what I think is right for me and right in a moral sense.
I have read studies about this, and consistently it is found that men don't see the "big deal" with child sexual abuse, rape of women, etc. They just, by-and-large, don't "get" it. They think women should just let it slide, they think women should just change their attitudes and learn to enjoy being raped.
Not every man feels this way, but a great many do - the majority do, according to studies. I find that distressing and unfortunate, but it's a reality.
If you asked those same men, how would you feel if you found out a male homosexual doctor had violated you while you were unconscious - you would likely get a reply along the lines of, "I wouldn't like it very much."
Blessings,
Lori
I do respectfully disagree, however, and maintain my position that I should have been allowed the chance to give informed consent to this procedure.
The doctor had a choice whether or not to let med students in, and to do pelvic exams on me while I was under. I had no such choice. I should mention that this procedure does NOT call for a pelvic exam. Nor was it done for my benefit - it was done PURELY to train medical students. There is absolutely NO reason the doctor could not have ASKED for my consent beforehand.
I was not given a choice, however. I was violated while under anesthesia. My only choice now is - do I report it or not? And I choose to report it, in order to save other women this assault.
A similar situation exists in regards with sexual abusers. I was raped by family members growing up, from the time I was a small child. Over and over again, repeatedly. They laughed at me when I cried. The men greatly enjoyed making me suffer.
Many people (mostly men, to be honest) tell me to forgive and forget and not tell anyone about the abuse. They are uncomfortable with my anger and with my lack of letting it slide.
The only way to make changes happen for the better in this world is to fight for them.
It is wrong for men to rape women, in my opinion.
I was medically raped under anesthesia. I have the right to report that and to fight on behalf of others.
It's okay for you to feel sorry for the doctor, to feel sorry for the abusers who raped me as a child - to try to tell me that I shouldn't speak up, shouldn't try to push for changes - but it's also okay for me to disagree with you, and for me to do what I think is right for me and right in a moral sense.
I have read studies about this, and consistently it is found that men don't see the "big deal" with child sexual abuse, rape of women, etc. They just, by-and-large, don't "get" it. They think women should just let it slide, they think women should just change their attitudes and learn to enjoy being raped.
Not every man feels this way, but a great many do - the majority do, according to studies. I find that distressing and unfortunate, but it's a reality.
If you asked those same men, how would you feel if you found out a male homosexual doctor had violated you while you were unconscious - you would likely get a reply along the lines of, "I wouldn't like it very much."
Blessings,
Lori
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