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  • Katrina
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    CONGRATULATIONS!
    When I was younger I used to get UTI's from intercourse now that isn't the problem but I wonder if what is the problem currently may be impart why intercourse increases the risk of infection. Since intercourse now flares my PFD and that can cause retention which increases the risk of infections some of the self helps may lesson that risk somewhat.
    http://icandme.9.forumer.com/index.p...=ST&f=19&t=225 Katrina sex helps and resources

    Be extra careful going after sex that you don't have any retention...after going...stimulate your urethra a bit to see if there is any that didn't come out with that first stream.

    I know others have mentioned showering before but you may want your husband to do so as well!

    I do think that you may want to to discuss some of your options with your doctor. For me one thing that has helped me avoid flaring is being as relaxed as possible and a simple way to help me with that is using a dialator before hand. My urethra is pretty sensitive so I tend to use lidocaine gel on it before sex so that it is numb ....I also put some on after and that tends to avoid a lot of discomfort for me. Good luck!

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  • kuntrygurl78
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    I just wanted to say congrats on getting married. Im getting married in September so I know how excited and anxious you are!

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  • verdicries
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    First, congrats on getting married .

    Along with what everyone else has said (peeing before/after sex, washing, condoms, etc), I take a spoonful of d-manoose powder before & after sex, seems to help me. D-manoose binds to bacteria in the bladder and flushes them away during urination.

    DON'T force it, if it hurts then stop (it MAY be a bit painful, but if it's excruciating then stop!!) I know it wasn't very comfortable my first time (I don't think it got "comfortable" or "nice feeling" until after several times haha). But go slow. Explain to your husband the need to go slow and use a lot of lubricant!!

    Congrats and enjoy!

    Tracy

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  • JanL
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    Congrats! Like you I was a virgin when I got married. I did not have IC at the time. Sex does tend to make me flare a day or so afterwards, but it is worth it to me. God has blessed me with an understanding husband. I have found that a good lubricant really helps. Have fun and enjoy your life together.
    I am curious about where to find the AZO UTI test strips. What stores carry these and in what section? I have found that cystex works great for me when I get a UTI. It has antibacterial agents in it along with anagelsics for the bladder.

    Janice

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  • lnseagraves
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    Hey,

    congratulations on your upcoming marriage. You sound like me when I got married (2005). I, too was a virgin when I tied the knot and I was REALLY nervous about my IC on the honeymoon. We even picked a cruise so we knew there would be a nurses office available on board 24/7. I know you've already booked your trip though so I'll pass on a few other tips. When I travel, I always pack the AZO UTI test strips. if I think I have an infection, I can see first in the hotel room before I panic. If it IS an infection you should go to a clinic or the hospital to get it treated. OR if you have a good relationship with your doctor you can call his office at home and inform him that AZO strips came out positive and you can have him call in the prescription to a drug store where you are. That should work all over the US.

    The tips the others gave you are great, definitely pee after sex and shower frequently. I also would recommend water-based un-scented lube. Lube will make you more comfortable and it helps prevent my flares.

    The most important thing is to have fun. If youre not havng fun with sex, don't feel pressured to continue having it. You are married and will have a long time to have sex. Only do it so its comfortable for you.

    Congrats again!!!

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  • Berkshire Road
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    Are you just concerned about the possibility of infection, or about flaring on your honeymoon? For some, intercourse itself can trigger a flare, or make an existing flare worse. That's the bad news. The good news is that you and your fiance can talk this over in advance, and agree to begin your love life as gently as possible, until you know how you feel. It can take some time and experimentation to find the most comfortable position for both of you. Or, you might have no problems at all. But I really hope this is something you can discuss with your fiance; I assume he knows you have this condition, and presumably there are other reasons he wants to marry you, besides sex.

    You might spend some time over at the other site, whensexhurts.com, to pick up some tips, so you'll be ready if you do have any problems.

    Congratulations on your marriage! I'm sure the two of you will be able to have a close and joyful love life together, even if it takes a little time to figure it out.

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  • LeeAnn
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    Congratulations!!



    I've had IC since age 19 and I've only had one UTI ever---after being in the hospital. My mom told me to always get up and pee after sex (not a problem when you have IC and always gotta go!).

    I do tend to get yeast infections and have accidently passed them to my poor husband. I've noticed that being in a swimming pool gives me yeast infections almost 100% of the time. Anybody else have this? I wonder if all the chemicals in the water kill the "good" bacteria & allow the yeast to take over???? I did an internship at a facility that practiced aquatic therapy and after 3 months I had to say, "no more pool" for me b/c I couldn't stand it. My supervisor was annoyed! Like EW! Who wants to swim in a pool with me when I have a yeast infection. Ick!! I don't think she believed me.....anyway.....

    Eating yogurt irritates my bladder so instead I take acidophilus every day and it keeps a healthy supply of "good" bacteria down there to prevent the yeast from taking over. It's a cheap way to help prevent them.

    I didn't know about AZO yeast! Ladies, do you use this product to prevent or "after the fact?"

    I hope you're not so nervous about UTI's and yeast infections that you can't enjoy your wedding night! I agree that you should talk to your doctor about this and perhaps if you have some strategies in mind beforehand you can relax and enjoy yourself.

    Congratulations and many wishes for a happy marriage! God bless.

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  • lauraheather
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    Thank you all for your kind replies. We are staying in the states for our honeymoon. I am going to just talk to my uro about this and see what he recommends. But I think I will definitely have AZO yeast and UTI help available. Thanks again for caring enough to answer my kind of strange questions.

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  • ABliske
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    Where are you going on your honeymoom? If it's out of the country I think maybe you should try to get an antibiotic to have on hand just in case. You might have to really work hard to convince your doctor to prescribe them, but it'd be worth it. Or you can take some over the counter AZO with you to take away the burning feeling. I get really naseaus from those pills though.
    congrats!!!!

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  • vm
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    I get UTIs from intercourse - used to anyway, before I started taking an antibiotic after sex each time. But, some of the things I read about and tried include ---- drinking water before and after sex and showering before and after. During intercourse bacteria can get "pushed" up into the urethra. Making sure you pee right after sex helps flush bacteria out of the urethra.

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  • leelee88
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    I always take a bath or wash up really good after having sex..I also take Azo yeast guard before and after sex.. You can also start taking these a couple of days before..If you can stand latex using a rubber will also keep infections away..
    I hope you have a long and happy marriage

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  • dg2901
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    I would suggest discussing your UTI concern with your URO. Perhaps he/she could prescribe you a prophylactic antibiotic to take after intercourse.

    Other than that about the only other suggestion is to make sure you follow all of the 'rules' for preventing a UTI; cleaning front to back, shower before/after sex, avoid taking baths-showers only, urinating before/after sex, etc.
    I'm sure others will post to share their experiences/suggestions.

    Hopefully you'll get all of you concerns addressed so you can relax between now and your wedding date.

    Congrats.....
    Diana

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  • Cardholic
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    I don't have any answers to your questions, just wanted to say CONGRATULATIONS!!!

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  • lauraheather
    started a topic Getting married - need advice

    Getting married - need advice

    I wasn't sure where to post this. But I really need some guidance from some of you who have gone this route before me. I have IC. It is not a horrible case. I just deal with urgency, burning, and pain. The pain is manageable most times but every few months it just gets out of control.

    I am getting married soon and I am worrying about our honeymoon. I don't want to give too much info here, but we haven't slept together yet. And I am scared to death that I am going to flare on our honeymoon. I know that for some newlyweds, they get urinary tract infections alot.

    So I was just wondering some tips on how to be careful not to get an infection and also what to do to avoid a flare during that time. I was even wondering if maybe I should see if my uro would give me antibiotics to take w/ me just in case I got an infection. But antibiotics seem to make me flare too. SO I just don't know what to do.

    Sorry to ramble. I just really need someone to tell me how I should proceed. Thanks for listening.
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