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  • kiffy313
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    dandy8,
    I agree with the others. My hubby is not real outspoken, either, although he is learning...You could tell the Dr. he may discuss anything EXCEPT your pain control with your mom and then he can ask to speak privately with your husband. It might be a good idea, tho, for him to tell your mom the sometimes severe pain we ic'ers suffer and what measures have to be taken for us. One of the ic articles I read here likens the pain to end-stage cancer pain; might be good for her to read some of the articles, etc., from here from the various medical professionals. Good Luck to you, let us know how you are when you can.
    Kandy

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  • Dianne
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    One of our admission questions at our hospital is to ask the patient if it's ok to discuss their condition, etc. in front of family members. I would write a note in advance about your wishes and discreetly pass it to the nurse. He/she should also be able to run interference for you and/or prompt your Dr. also. We do it all the time.
    Dianne (RN)

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  • Tami Stambaugh
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    I forgot to mention something last night in my post---You also need to make sure your husband gets your prescriptions filled and have him to put them out of her sight. IF she has access to them will examine them and see how many you are prescribed and how many you take, etc. If you need to take extra (which you probably will) you are the only one who will no if this is needed. IF she sees you doing this she will just be more involved in your business. I agree with Donna, if there is no other way around her not being there have your doctor to call and talk to your husband. I also think that sending the kids to her house is a great idea!!! Suggest to her taking care of the kids and if she wants to do something for you ask her to cook your family a nice homecooked meal!!!

    Tami angel hi

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  • SheriG
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    Just an idea...perhaps instead of going to her house after surgery, send your kids to her house. That way, you have privacy, and can rest better in your own home, and she gets a day of fun with her grandchildren! This is what we ususally do when I have surgery. This will also keep your mom's knowledge of your pain control at bay. Best wishes, and please let us know how you do! grouphug

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  • ICNDonna
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    The others are correct. If you ask your doctor to discuss your condition only with your husband and not in the presence of your mother, he is pretty much obligated to do just that. Many times the physician will telephone the waiting area with the report --- that might be a good solution --- then he can just talk with your husband.

    Warm hugs,
    Donna

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  • Tami Stambaugh
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    If you don't want your doctor discussing your medical condition and various information about your pain meds. then I would definitely tell him before hand to just discuss the results with your husband. That is your right as his patient. If he isn't willing to do that then I would come up with a reason for her to stay home. Something that would give her a reason to stay home and maybe get things prepared at her house for your overnight stay. Good Luck with everything!!!!!!!!!!! Tami

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  • vm
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    Definitely talk to your doctor beforehand to explain the situation. Have him give a minimal amount of info in front of your mother. If necessary, ask him to call you a couple of days after the procedure to communicate anything that isn't urgent or he could write down some instructions or findings from the cysto/hydro.

    He really has to respect your wishes, especially with all the new privacy rules.

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  • buffy
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    You can handle this 2 ways, one way is to ask your doctor not to mention pain meds when your mother is present. You said your mother is outspoken, and will ask questions. This may be the best time for your doctor to explain that your IC pain is chronic, and more intense than anything she can imagine. She might believe your doctor, even if she doesn't believe you. If that doesn't work, then you will have to agree never to talk about pain meds again.

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  • auntiedeb
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    Talk to the dr before your procedure and tell him that you prefer him to talk to your husband alone without your Mother. Thats all I can suggest. I don't know what else to tell you. Maybe someone else will be able to help you. Let us know how you do after the procedure.

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  • dandy8
    started a topic How to exlcude my mother from my procedure results?

    How to exlcude my mother from my procedure results?

    I'm not sure where to post this. However, since I posted recently about being "a pain pill addict" I guess this is the place.

    This Thursday I'm having another hydro/cysto done.
    Since it's under general anesthesia my husband and mother plan on being there. Afterwards I've decided to go stay at my moms house for one night. This because of much needed rest that I can't get at home with my kids.

    My problem is this. Since my mom feels so strongly about my "pain pill problem", I would prefer that my uro doesn't discuss the outcome of my procedure with her. Nor do I want him to discuss my pain managment. How can I ask my doctor to exclude my mother when he will have to speak to my husband?

    I don't want to cause hard feelings between me and mom, I just don't want her involvement with my pain stuff.

    Also, I should mention that my dh is not a good communicator. He would never ask my doctor questions. He would just sit and listen to my doctor speak. My mother however is very outspoken and I know she would ask a LOT of questions.

    What can I do????

    Thanks!
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