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  • Unbelievable appt with doc...was called an ADDICT & that I need rehab...plz read!

    Hi all..
    I see a psychatrist monthly to help manage a mood disorder I have & she is usually super understanding & supportive of my life & how I live it.
    Well I went yeserday to see her & was telling her how my IC pain has been pretty bad last few weeks & Ive been flaring daily (ALOT of stress in my life lately).
    I am upfront with her on all meds I take. I advised her that I have been needing to take a pain pill every day for the last few weeks due to the pain...ONE pain pill per day. Well, she was all over me, calling me an addict, saying that she isnt going to feel sorry for "the poor little girl who has a bladder problem", how I am going to need a rehab program, how I am a poor excuse of a mother...OH MY it went on for a good 15 minutes. I was in shock.
    I have had IC for 10 years now, I was granted disability for IC last year, I pee 30 times a day, I have days where I cant WALK thanks to the burn, I spend alot of time with a heating pad & ice pack..not to mention I have deal with. I have a father dying of cancer, I just moved houses & am taking care of my 3 children. I think I have been doing PRETTY darn good.
    To be told that she isnt going to feel sorry for me & that I am a poor excuse for a mother really blew me away. I NEVER want sympathy, i want to be normal like everyone else, but that isnt the way my life is. I am an excellent mother to my children, pushing myself DAILY to fulfill their needs.
    I guess I just needed to vent to you all because I know that you all know the pain I feel, I know some of you have been called names & addicts & pill seekers when all we really are are people in pain hoping to live a semi normal life!!!!!
    I am still as upset today as I was yesterday over this callous treatment...what do you all think about this??
    Currently Taking:
    20 mg Celexa
    fentanyl patch 12.5 mcg chgd every 3 days
    morphine IR 15 MG, up to 3x daily
    Xanax 1mg as needed (not taken daily)
    900 MG Oxycarbizine (mood disorder)
    300 MG Welbutrin
    Tizanidine 4 mg up to 20 mg daily as need
    Prevacid 30 mg
    Ambien as needed

    my heating pad is my best friend, use daily on my lower back & pelvic area
    blessed to be able to receive massage & Amma , along with Avazzia therapy 3x weekly

    Been diagnosed for 10 years now, consider myself pretty well versed in this disease & would love to help out with new IC sisters or brothers, feel free to message me.

  • #2
    I think it may be time to look at getting a different counselor. I'm so sorry this happened to you.

    Warm hugs,
    Stay safe

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    • #3
      i totally agree with Donna.....when will physicians understand this disease we live with???? your med list almost mimics mine.........and although i see an ic doc here in NC, i cringe when it's time to pick up my meds for fear of what the pharmacy people think of dare they judge us......until they have walked in our shoes or lived in these bodies for a week, they have no idea what it's like!!! i am sure you will find another doctor who is much more understanding!

      Dx's: Moderate IC, PFD, Infertility, ADHD, Anxiety/Depression.
      Current Meds: Zoloft, Adderall, Seroquel, Gabapentin, Hydroxyzine, Claritin, Pyridium, At-Home Instills, Macrobid, Lidocaine Gel
      Meds that Didn't Help: Ultram (Severe Retention), Tylenol 3 (Itch), Paxil, Effexor, Cymbalta.
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      • #4
        I wouldn't see her again if it was me. How long have you been seeing her? If this is completely out of character for her there could be a sore spot in her life.

        IC, endometriosis, cervical dysplasia, bi-polar, trichotillomania (hair pulling disorder), scoliosis, fibroid breast disorder, chronic fatigue, arthritis in hands, temporal lobe seizures
        buspar 30mg, atarax 100mg, norco 10mg 30/week for pain, vimpat 100mg 2/day, trileptal 600mg 2/day
        flare strategyestrace cream, lidocaine jelly, and ice pack on urethra. ativan .5mg for severe flares only

        Life's not about waiting for the storm to pass. It's about learning to dance in the rain.
        (and looking for rainbows)


        • #5
          Something is wrong with that! I would find someone else and maybe call someone else and see if you should report her. That just really sounds off the wall nuts to me. I am so sorry that happened.
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          • #6
            I would find another counselor and look her up on the net and do a rating of her.

            She should not be a counselor at all, counselor are supposed to be understanding and helpful.

            She insulted you mentally and emotionally and you may want to find a lawyer for a free consoltation about this.

            Especially if you suffer depression because her words must have hit hard on you.

            People like her need to have thier license revolked.

            Sweety I am feeling your anger and this person she has apparently no mercy or humanity.

            I wish you well and you just remember you have alot of IC brothers and sisters on this forum to support you.

            Don't let anyone put you down they are clueless as to the torture we go through.Lots of hugs coming your way.
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            • #7
              I believe that would be the last time she had the opportunity to tell me ANYTHING, good bad or indifferent!!!
              Katie-46 yr old female dx'd with IC after 15 years of symptoms off and on long term antibiotic use, GERD,IBS and now IC diet, gallbladder removed, endometrial ablation w/tubes tied
              Lexapro-20 mg
              Ambien-as needed
              Percocet-7.5 up to 3 per day as needed
              Valium-10 mg x2 per day
              Phenergan-1 at night
              Prelief w/everything
              Now recovering from acute pancreatitis

              Currents treatments that help somewhat:
              Heating pad
              Hot baths
              Being VERY still while lying down with legs elevated


              • #8
                Wow, I'm in shock. I wouldn't go back if it was me. How would you be able to trust her again? She violated your trust and you would probably be thinking "what is she really thinking?" if she was sympathetic again. At least thats what I would be thinking.
                Maybe she was trying to "help" you in some way by shocking you but calling you a poor excuse for a mother when she is the one who is supposed to help you with your life problems is pretty pathetic.
                This tirade was clearly about her and not about you. Sorry that happened to you.

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                Macrobid after sex
                Prilosec, continuous birth control pills
                synthroid .088mg, mucinex-d, restasis

                Supplements: Desert Harvest Aloe vera, Cysta-q, prelief, magnesium and calcium, Vit D, flaxseed oil

                Diag Mild IC Jan 11 but have had symptoms for 25 years. Also have GERD, TMJ, IBS-C, chronic dry eye syndrome, hashimotos thyroiditis, non-allergic rhinitis.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Jamey
                  If this is completely out of character for her there could be a sore spot in her life.
                  That's what I was thinking too,...sounds like your psychatrist needs her own psychatrist!

                  Yeah, if it were me I doubt I'd be going back to her. I'm sorry this happened to you.

                  "The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have."


                  • #10
                    well ive always heard from a few people i knew that worked in mental health that there are a few in the field that are crazy themselves and need a psych themselves. this lady sounds horrible and im so sorry that happened to you. i know words can hurt. i wouldnt go back if i was you.fresh start,new psych.i agree with Katieb's post completely.
                    Last edited by flowerangela; 02-16-2011, 09:07 AM. Reason: added more
                    Newly IC diagnosed as of February 2011.

                    Medications I'm on that seem to work:
                    Zoloft- one once a day

                    Failed Meds:
                    Elmiron-after 4 months,digestive side effects got to be too much
                    DMSO treatments(5-6)

                    THERAPIES:gardening,cooking,IC Diet,Counseling,Lots of warm baths,stress reduction,heating pad or ice packs,meditation/deep breathing,listening to relaxing music,having fun on pain free days,drinking chamomile or peppermint tea,pelvic floor physical therapy
                    Village Naturals Aches and Pains Peppermint Bath Salts
                    Johnson and Johnsons Lavender Melt Away Stress Body Wash/Lotion

                    Significant pain relief so far.

                    MAY TRY:yoga,swimming/hydrotherapy and anti-candida diet if i can kick my sugar addiction

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                    Lord, make me an instrument of your peace;
                    where there is hatred, let me sow love;
                    when there is injury, pardon;
                    where there is doubt, faith;
                    where there is despair, hope;
                    where there is darkness, light;
                    and where there is sadness, joy.
                    Grant that I may not so much seek
                    to be consoled as to console;
                    to be understood, as to understand,
                    to be loved as to love;
                    for it is in giving that we receive,
                    it is in pardoning that we are pardoned,
                    and it is in dying [to ourselves] that we are born to eternal life.


                    • #11
                      Still shaking my head

                      Wow how can a counselor be like that? I am astounded. I agree with everyone way would I go back. She was out of line treating you the way she did. You didn't deserve to be treated in such a manner. There is the right one out there you just have to find him or her. My thoughts and prayers go out to you. Just know that you are a person and a wonderful person at that and don't let anyone tell you any different!


                      • #12
                        Put a rating on her you can do that most doctors and such have a rating chart on the net.

                        Look her up and if you can not find her I believe there is another way of doing this.

                        She should not be counseling anyone else ,it is good that you are a strong person, stay strong sister.

                        However, the next person she talks to like that might not be as strong and may commit suicide.

                        That is why I say you need to rate her or possibly seek free consultation.

                        I hope and pray you find the right councelor.

                        Hugs your way love to all our brothers and sisters.
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                        • #13
                          Karen put that session behind you and close the door. You seem too ill to deal with such a callous person. nothing hurts more then being hit in the heart by someone you trusted. Share this experience with your next Psychiatrist. I think that person will validate your feelings. This has made me so angry that I am trying to mentally close the door on her myself! Unbelieveable!!! Hugs, Ziggy


                          • #14
                            I agree is would be the best for her to close the door and find another counselor.

                            However in the best interest of another fellow human being, she needs to be reported.

                            The next person might go off into the deep end, and I personally would do my best to report her at least to the BBB or something.

                            Do what you feel in your heart thats right, this is only my opinion.
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                            • #15
                              Please ignore this, it has come out of ignorance. If she normally is understanding, maybe she was having a bad day, I am not excussing her behavior, just guessing, it is no reason to act unproffesional.

                              I myself would report her, but that is just the way I am.

                              But what ever you do you need to put this behind you, chalk it up to garbage, none of it is true. Do not let this get you down, she is not worth it.

                              A big problem of many IC sufferers is finding someone who know's anything about IC, or will to learn about it. Obviously she is neither of theses.

                              If talking to someone helps you, then by all means find someone new, easier said than done, but put the effort into finding a new one. I would be forward and tell new therapist about your expirence, and you need someone to listen to you, not judge you.

                              Your meds are between you and your prescribing Dr. he/she believes your pain or would not rx you the pain meds, and one a day is a long way from being an addict.

                              Sorry you have had to deal with this on top of everything else.

                              My are with you all. May you all find a way to peace and joy in your lives.