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    Found out this morning the male nurse leaves at the end of this month. I don't know why I even bother to try anymore. Life has always sucked and it always will. I'm alone now and I really don't care.

  • #2
    Men come and go.... you'll see. but yur deffinetly NOT ALONE!! You have all of us here for you! I know that right guy will find you. Don't worry.
    ***Rachel***

    Dance like no one is watching
    Love like you've never been hurt
    Live today like it's your last

    Dxd with IC in June '06

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    • #3
      I'm with petrie86 - this one probably wasn't meant to be - he's probably a weenie that he disguises well and this is the way of the Universe to protect you from him!!! No worries, dahhhhhling, just keep working on yourself and most likely when you least expect it - wham, Mr Right will come along and it will be up to you to decide if he's worthy of your affections!!!!
      Hugs,
      Tracey
      How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time...

      Harry arrived 2/23/09!



      *IC Volunteers are not medical authorities nor do we offer medical advice. In all cases, we strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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      Dx's:
      IC dx'd Nov 2004
      Lymphocytic Colitis dx'd July 2005
      Possible IBS
      Current IC Meds
      Vistaril 25mg in the evening
      Previous IC Meds taken:
      Cystoprotek - 2 caps 2x's a day
      Elmiron, 100mg 3x's a day
      Ditropan, 5 mg 3x's a day
      Others:
      Wellbutrin 150mg 2x's a day for Anxiety/IBS
      Pepcid 40mg a day for GERD
      Zytrec for Nasal Allergies
      Align Probiotic daily for IBS

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      • #4
        I concur with the other two ladies. I know you feel bad but don't think that the decision has anything specifically to do with you. I'm no Pollyanna but I do believe that positive thinking does help bring about positive results - even if it seems to take a while to happen.

        You're a good person and things will work out for you. Lots of hugs
        Namaste

        "You must be the change you want to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi

        "The most important medicine is tender love and care" - Mother Teresa

        Proud mother of Ahleia, born on April 9, 2007

        -----------------------
        Diagnosed with:
        IC, OAB, Congenital urethral stricture, IBS, Vulvar vestibulitis, Heart murmur, Congenital cervical stenosis...but otherwise doing great!

        Meds:
        Currently in remission, but took the following for 3 years: Elmiron 200 mg., Elavil 25 mg., Detrol LA 4mg, Ovcon-35

        Health treatments/practices:
        Kripalu yoga, Chiropractic, Massage therapy and Reiki

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        • #5
          nope you are not alone... you have us.. men are good for 2 things.. one being to take out the trash and cut the lawn.. the other is .. well you know and they make things for that ... ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))
          'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'

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          • #6
            Sorry that things didnt work out with this one. But, like the others said, I am sure it has nothing to do with you. Who knows? Maybe he will call you now that he has left there. Maybe when he found out you were interested, he knew he was leaving and just decided to wait until he is gone to call you, so as not to go against some sort of policy. But, even if he doesnt call, at least you are out there trying now, and the right man will come along. ((((((Mary)))) Sending you big hugs, Amy

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            • #7
              Mary...

              Look at it this way.. Maybe him leaving is a good thing. You will not be a patient for him anymore, so it would be ok now if he ask you out... I know you are wondering, well where he heck will I see him for him to ask me...Well ask where he is tranferring to..Just maybe your paths will cross again..
              If something is meant to be .. It will be....

              Oh and by the way... Whats this Im alone stuff..YOUR NOT ALONE!!!!! SO SNAP OUT OF IT

              We are all here for you..I know I am always!!!!
              Hugs
              Ronda

              ONE Second, ONE Bite, ONE Breath, ONE Pill, ONE Minute, ONE Teardrop, ONE Hour, ONE Sip.. ONE DAY! I will Prevail from this disease! IC Hoping for a Cure!


              Link to Patient Handbook:
              http://www.ic-network.com/handbook/

              Diet Reference Sheet:
              http://www.ic-network.com/diet/icndi...tsheet0909.pdf

              Meds For IC: Lyrica-25mg Glucosamine-500 MSM-500mg, Prosed Ds -When Flaring

              Other Meds: Levlite- Continious Birtcontrol, Micardis-40mg for High Blood Pressure

              Meds I have Tried:
              Topamax,Tofranil, Elmiron, Atarax, Cymbalta, Elavil, Enablex, Detral La, Prydium.
              Lexapro< Bad reaction to this med!
              Intstills, could not continue them due to some kind of reaction after 3rd instill. Tasted the lidocaine in my mouth, tongue and lips went numb then went into what seemed like a panic attack. Shaking, racing heart, tingling face/head, blood pressure shot up..

              Dx With IC in Nov 2006 with Hydro/Cysto
              Hydro/Cysto Caused Bladder to Rupture.

              Other Dxs-Vulvodynia,Fibro, Endo, IBS, HPV, Migraines, Spastic Colon, Mild Dysplasia.



              ICN Volunteers are not medical authorities nor do we offer medical advice. In all cases, we strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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              • #8
                I’m sure you are all right but I don’t think it was fair for him to do this to me. He has been there a long time and never once said anything to me. He is the nurse to the other doctors. Then out of the blue he talks to me, treats me nice and told the nurses he wanted to get me from the waiting room otherwise he wouldn’t see me. How would you have taken it? Now I’m being dumped once again. It seems I am always dumped by everyone. So now between the nurse leaving the other woman leaving and now him, plus normal life problems it will be a miracle if I don’t end up at the loonie farm. Guess I will just have to spend another week crying this out. Can only cry after going to bed since no one knows about this. I won’t let this happen again. If another guy starts to talk to me I am not bothering. It just is not worth it.
                I know I am being stupid but I really don't know how much more I can take. It seems all I do it cry. The thing I have to worry about is when will my Uro leave? I'll never be able to handle it.
                I'm pretty sure he won't be calling.
                thanks everyone......... I am just one big basket case.

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                • #9
                  Awww Mary....
                  I wish there were something I could do or say so you would not cry...You know I met my hubby on a online dating site.. we talked for 4 months before I decided to meet him.. by the time we met we already had feelings for each other.. have you ever thought about checking them sites out?
                  Hugs
                  Ronda

                  ONE Second, ONE Bite, ONE Breath, ONE Pill, ONE Minute, ONE Teardrop, ONE Hour, ONE Sip.. ONE DAY! I will Prevail from this disease! IC Hoping for a Cure!


                  Link to Patient Handbook:
                  http://www.ic-network.com/handbook/

                  Diet Reference Sheet:
                  http://www.ic-network.com/diet/icndi...tsheet0909.pdf

                  Meds For IC: Lyrica-25mg Glucosamine-500 MSM-500mg, Prosed Ds -When Flaring

                  Other Meds: Levlite- Continious Birtcontrol, Micardis-40mg for High Blood Pressure

                  Meds I have Tried:
                  Topamax,Tofranil, Elmiron, Atarax, Cymbalta, Elavil, Enablex, Detral La, Prydium.
                  Lexapro< Bad reaction to this med!
                  Intstills, could not continue them due to some kind of reaction after 3rd instill. Tasted the lidocaine in my mouth, tongue and lips went numb then went into what seemed like a panic attack. Shaking, racing heart, tingling face/head, blood pressure shot up..

                  Dx With IC in Nov 2006 with Hydro/Cysto
                  Hydro/Cysto Caused Bladder to Rupture.

                  Other Dxs-Vulvodynia,Fibro, Endo, IBS, HPV, Migraines, Spastic Colon, Mild Dysplasia.



                  ICN Volunteers are not medical authorities nor do we offer medical advice. In all cases, we strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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                  • #10
                    That's funny that you mention that Rhonda because I met my hubby online in a chat room and we just met up to hang out for the afternoon and six months later I was moving in w/ him. If somebody would have told me when I was going to meet him that we would get married, have a house and the cutest kid on the face of the planet I would have said they were crazy. You really never do know when it's going to happen Mary. Have faith though that you will find someone, you are a great person, so it's just a matter of time.
                    Christine



                    I have been diagnoised for 6 1/2 years now. I have taken a long break from the ICN but really miss helping out my fellow IC patients and want to get back into posting.
                    1st hydro 4/07 showed no visible signs of IC but tons of mast cells in all my biopsy samples which did prove IC.
                    2nd hydro 4/13/09 showed dark purple glomerulations and I had a capacity of 450 cc's. This hydro proved that my IC had progressed.
                    I have tried every oral medication as well as rescue instills and DMSO.

                    I have been lucky enough to see Dr Hanno, the top IC specialist in PA who has told me due to the fact that I have not responded to any "standard" treatments that I have a severe, end stage case of IC with a horrible quality of life (didn't have to tell me that last part!)

                    Proud wifey of Shane, mommy to Griffin, and step-mom to Logan and Gage
                    Also proud mom to the best Bullmastiff on earth, Claus

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                    • #11
                      I met my husband on a blind date. It was about the 8th blind date I had been on, and the 5th for him. So, you just never know where you will meet the one you end up with. The point is, you just have to keep putting yourself out there. I cant even begin to tell you how many men I dated before I found the one. But, it took every single one of them, all the good and bad experiances to make me who I am, and also to be able to recognize the traits that I wanted in another person. You will find yours too! At this point, you still dont know if he will call when he leaves, which he may be planning on doing. We just dont know. After all, lots of places have policies that forbid staff from dating patients. Meanwhile, I hope that you feel better soon. Hugs, Amy

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                      • #12
                        Try to remain positive - you never know what might happen. Like I and the others have said, it doesn't sound like it has anything specifically to do with you. He may not have been able to divulge he was leaving for reasons that have more to do with the practice he works for and not because he wanted to leave you in the lurch, so to speak. My hairdresser of 8 years suddenly left the salon he worked at and actually forgot to tell me - and we're friends! So one day, I called to make an appointment and they told me, "Louie no longer works here" but they wouldn't tell me where he went. I was surprised, to say the least. But the funniest thing happened. I made an appt with another stylist because I didn't know where else to go, and she very quietly leaned over during my haircut and said to me, "I know you were one of Louie's clients. He is working at X Studio now. I totally understand if you want to go back to him after this haircut." And when I finally did contact him at his new studio, he felt so bad that somehow he never communicated to me that he was leaving, but it happened very quickly. So maybe this is something similar.

                        You never know - maybe he will call. And if not, at least there was someone who treated you nicely and with consideration, regardless of how the circumstances ended up. That alone should make you feel good - he saw something special in you and wanted to treat you well. And you definitely deserved that!
                        Namaste

                        "You must be the change you want to see in the world." - Mahatma Gandhi

                        "The most important medicine is tender love and care" - Mother Teresa

                        Proud mother of Ahleia, born on April 9, 2007

                        -----------------------
                        Diagnosed with:
                        IC, OAB, Congenital urethral stricture, IBS, Vulvar vestibulitis, Heart murmur, Congenital cervical stenosis...but otherwise doing great!

                        Meds:
                        Currently in remission, but took the following for 3 years: Elmiron 200 mg., Elavil 25 mg., Detrol LA 4mg, Ovcon-35

                        Health treatments/practices:
                        Kripalu yoga, Chiropractic, Massage therapy and Reiki

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                        • #13
                          I only had one date in my life and that was before I turned 20 years old. Proably have had the longest dry spell in the history of world. Men just don't come knocking my door down so I really have no experience to know if it was yes or no or what.

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                          • #14
                            Aw, I hate to think of you feeling all down. If I were closer I'd come get you and take you out!!! Who needs men anyways?

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                            • #15
                              I agree!! If I lived near you I would pick ya up and take you out!!! lol If you want you could be my Valentine!!!!... Men stink, they're stupid. Hope you have a great Valentines day Ladies!

                              Rach
                              ***Rachel***

                              Dance like no one is watching
                              Love like you've never been hurt
                              Live today like it's your last

                              Dxd with IC in June '06

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