I hear people saying "you know the time when you are ready..." (like marriage, or kids). What does this mean when people really say " being ready "? Is it the times when people can live thier lives with single income without worrying about money all the time??? or is it the times when people are mentally, physically, emotinally mature enough to take care of thier responsibilities???
My hubby and I have been married for over 4 years now. Now everybody keeps asking us when we have our kids, especially my hubby's parents. I know that they are dying to see a grandkid from us.My hubby told me about his parents story about how they had my hubby. I think our generation is lot different from back then. I don't think we can apply the same situation to his parents when it comes to bring a child into the world. I know that my hubby is dying to become a parent. However, I don't think he's ready for that responsibility yet. The reason why I am saying is that my hubby has been so streessed about his job lately, and now he wants to go back to his old job. That means that we'll have less money coming in, so our financial situation will be very uncertain. He can barely manage job stress. If he cannot really manage his job stress, how can he manage a kid??? I know that I shouldn't be so negative about him. Our plan was to become parents before hit 30. My hubby is 30 and I am 28(will be 29 soon). I know that we cannot plan everything. Plans change all the time. I am sure everybody goes through different choices every day.
Well... last night, I had a talk with my hubby about my starting another contraceptive method pretty soon.The reason that I want to start to this contaceptive thing is ... I think we are definetly NOT ready for a kid yet because neither of us has a career. We have JOBs, but not a CAREER. Do you know what I mean??? I' ve been thinking about giving up my dream about going back to school to support my hubby. If we have to chose being parents, I think we need to sacrifice something instead. Yes, I heard people saying " we got it all!!!! " I know some people are very fourtunate to have a life like that. I know what I am capable of, and what my limitations are. I am NOT a superwoman. I cannot do it all unlike some pople.
what do you think about your decisions when it comes to become parents???or people who have kids already, what was your experience when you became parents??? Were you ready?? or you weren't ready, but somehow managed???
My hubby and I have been married for over 4 years now. Now everybody keeps asking us when we have our kids, especially my hubby's parents. I know that they are dying to see a grandkid from us.My hubby told me about his parents story about how they had my hubby. I think our generation is lot different from back then. I don't think we can apply the same situation to his parents when it comes to bring a child into the world. I know that my hubby is dying to become a parent. However, I don't think he's ready for that responsibility yet. The reason why I am saying is that my hubby has been so streessed about his job lately, and now he wants to go back to his old job. That means that we'll have less money coming in, so our financial situation will be very uncertain. He can barely manage job stress. If he cannot really manage his job stress, how can he manage a kid??? I know that I shouldn't be so negative about him. Our plan was to become parents before hit 30. My hubby is 30 and I am 28(will be 29 soon). I know that we cannot plan everything. Plans change all the time. I am sure everybody goes through different choices every day.
Well... last night, I had a talk with my hubby about my starting another contraceptive method pretty soon.The reason that I want to start to this contaceptive thing is ... I think we are definetly NOT ready for a kid yet because neither of us has a career. We have JOBs, but not a CAREER. Do you know what I mean??? I' ve been thinking about giving up my dream about going back to school to support my hubby. If we have to chose being parents, I think we need to sacrifice something instead. Yes, I heard people saying " we got it all!!!! " I know some people are very fourtunate to have a life like that. I know what I am capable of, and what my limitations are. I am NOT a superwoman. I cannot do it all unlike some pople.
what do you think about your decisions when it comes to become parents???or people who have kids already, what was your experience when you became parents??? Were you ready?? or you weren't ready, but somehow managed???
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