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  • I was pregnant but lost it.

    Does IC have anything to do with that or would my endo????
    It has been a month since we lost our bean. I was 4 weeks pregnant so very early. I feel so guilty.

    Diagnosed with IC 3-30-2003

    Flare ups 1 time a month lasts for days.

  • #2
    HUgs to you, I don't think there is any concrete evidence that IC can cause a miscarriage. Have you spolen to your OB/GYN about what he or she thinks could have happened. Sending you a great big gentle hug.


    • #3
      I went to the doc and had bloodwork done to confirm pregnancy when my home tests were saying negative after all positives. They confirmed I was pregnant low number 7 but it was positive. Then the next day I started bleeding. I bled heavy 2 days after my period was due. I have not gone back....they just said it was a chemical pregnancy. I worry somehow what if I did not miscarry??? I mean today is week 4 after M/C. And not period yet. I am confused.

      Diagnosed with IC 3-30-2003

      Flare ups 1 time a month lasts for days.


      • #4
        You certainly shouldn't feel guilty here. Research now suggests that 31% of all pregnancies end in miscarriage... most in the first two months. Miscarriage is common for many women and most of us know others who have had one.

        I think it's important that you not beat yourself up here. Our body is so wise. It has amazing healing properties. It has amazing diversification. Just think that a tiny strand of DNA diversifies into a full functioning body. And... for women, our body also has the ability to determine if a pregnancy isn't viable for any number of reasons. When that occurs, miscarriage is the result. Many women don't even know that they've had a miscarriage because it's so early they don't realize that they are pregnant.

        This doesn't mean that you won't have children in the future. What it does mean is that right now, for any number of reasons, the time just wasn't right. Melanie, who wrote our pregnancy check list (, had a miscarriage very early in her first pregnancy... and she successfully had a baby just a year later.

        Carry hope in your heart. Big hugs!

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        • #5
          'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'


          • #6
            Thanks girls. I feel ok about it now....still slightly bummed and always will be. What sucks more is my husband realized he was not ready when we found out we were pregnant. So now he has the trying to conceive on hold. I appreciate the love girls. I know m/c are very common, but really felt confident about being pregnant.

            Diagnosed with IC 3-30-2003

            Flare ups 1 time a month lasts for days.


            • #7
              Big hugs headed your way. Jill's information is accurate. Speaking personally, I had endo(had not been dxed with IC yet)and multiple miscarriages and now have a great 6 year old. The pain will always be there, and the loss to some degree, but please don't feel guilty.

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              • #8
                So sorry for your loss. I hope you are healing and feeling a little better now. Hugs and warm thoughts headed your way.
                IC; PFD; possible Fibromyalgia; IBS;

                Symptoms: Frequency, Urgency, pelvic and bladder pain, bladder and pelvic spasms, difficulty starting urination, weak stream, incontinence, vaginal and urethral pain

                I've Tried:
                three Hydrodistentions, various Rescue Installments; 6 DSMO treatments; Pyridium Plus; Proced; Detrol (patch); Elavil; Uricet K; Elmiron; Nortiptyline; Ultram; Allegra; Ditropan; Ditropan ER; Vesicare; regular Lidocain; Neurontin; Lyrica; and few more I can't remember!
                Currently using:
                Valium; Vicadin; Proced DS; Claritin; Buffered Lidocain; Cymbalta; Baclofen; Prazosin @ night (also on Prednisone and Adderall for my joint pain and severe fatigue)
                Heating pads; frozen water bottles; A&D ointment; Poise pads; IC dieter since 8/06; yoga; imagery & relaxation CD, Mindfullness, self healing CD's; hot baths; seat cushion; prayer
                I am 28 yrs old, dx'ed in '06, still trying to get my health undercontrol!!


                • #9
                  Meds: Percocet PRN; Pyridium PRN. First symptoms Dec 2005. Diagnosed in March 2006.

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                  • #10
                    I miscarried at 5 weeks with our first baby. I was CRUSHED. It was helpful to know how common it was (b/c then there were other women I could talk to about it - and I needed to), but that did not make the pain any less. I'm so sorry you lost your baby. Your grief is real.

                    I went on to have 2 very healthy baby boys after my miscarriage and lots of other women I know went on to have many successful pregnancies after miscarriage. I hope this is true for you, too - whenever you and your husband are ready to try again.

                    P.S. If you ever want to talk about the m/c, feel free to PM, OK?

                    Diagnosed August 2001

                    Current IC meds: Elmiron (since 2001), Levaquin (one pill after intercourse to prevent UTIs), Effexor (for depression & anxiety)

                    Past IC meds: Amitriptyline (Elavil), Hydroxyzine (Vistaril), Detrol LA, Lexapro (for depression & anxiety, but also helped my IC) (They all helped, but I was able to discontinue them.)

                    I've been virtually symptom free and able to eat & drink whatever I'd like for about 8 years now.


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                    • #11
                      I am so sorry for your loss. It is not your fault, but I do know sometimes we blame ourselves over things we have no control of. I hope you are having a better today.

                      Sending hugs, Trishann


                      • #12

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                        • #13
                          I am so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, it is a fairly common experience. I know it hurts, but do not blame yourself. It was a long time ago, but I haven't forgotten. I lost my first at almost 4 months and my 3rd pregnancy ended in miscarriage very early on. The second pregnancy went full-term and beyond (2 weeks late---ugh!). Now my healthy "baby" is doing her post-graduate work in London and in 5 minutes I'm leaving to pick her up at the airport. She's taking a break from her dissertation preparation and coming home for a short visit. Can't wait to get her home, for a little while, anyway! Many of us who have experienced this loss have gone on to have normal pregnancies. I hope that will happen for you, too, when the time is right.


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                          • #14
                            Big Hugs
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                            • #15
                              I'm so sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))