Help - I just don't know!

[Cali girl]

Ok. Here it goes. Today out of the blue my husband says that he wants to have another baby. Well if you could have only seen my face. I think I had that deer in the headlights look. eek But I just don't know if I am ready to have another baby. We have a daughter together. And I have a stepson too. But I am just not sure of having to come off of all my meds. I am doing really well on them. I am afraid I will go back to where I was. And trust me it was awful. Please someone give me some advice! It would be much appreciated.

Cali

[jen75]

I don't have any advice but I can sure give you sympathy. My husband said the same thing a few months ago. Since my IC started when I was pregnant I am terrified!

I hope the situation doesn't cause you to much stress and you can find a solution that puts you both at ease.

grouphug

Jen

[erinaj1997]

I think you really need to discuss your fears with your husband. It's your body and you'll be the one who is possibly suffering.

I was dx'ed after I lost a baby and it's only been a few mos. I had the symptoms before I got preg though. I know how you feel. I want a baby so bad but I'm scared of having to deal with a baby and IC. I did feel better when I was Preg though. It's a very hard decision to make. How did you feel during your last pregnancy? Did you have IC yet?

I'll be thinking of you, Erin
grouphug

[jaime15]

Cali,
It really is your body. Confronting your husband about having the IC with possible pain while pregnant is just not what you think is best right now. Best for you not him. (If they could carry them wonder how many people would only have one child? wink )
I did feel fine while pregnant, but we are all totally different. I wish I could say to everyone just enjoy it and don't worry about pain. But no one knows for sure.
I hope nothing but the best for you in what you guys decide. We're here for you! grouphug

[Leaping Frog]

Leaping Frog here. Well, gotta say...drugs are great! My life has much improved with the pain pills. Crystal. Thanks for the encouragement to take the pills. I have been able to eat a bit more than rice. I am not really gaining weight, but not losing it either. I still may end up on an IV. We will see. But, the big news is when the pain is bad I can find some peace in my little bottle. I can now say that without feeling like a drug addict. I have was reading some IC research which gave me some insight into pain control They said drug addicts take pills to escape life. IC patients take drugs to get their lives back. AMEN~ I will never feel guilty for finding peace again. For so long I resisted pills for fear of what others would say. Today, I really don't care! I feel more like living and that is all that matters.

To those of you who have husbands that are asking you to have babies.... Children are a family decision, but YOU alone have to feel the physical pain. And, if you are in pain, their lives will not be too fun either. Remind them of that. I go back to my earlier email to "melis". You may feel better (Some do), but you may be like me and get worse. Be prepared for either. If you don't feel that you can take 10 months of pain and giving up your life it may not be a good choice right now. Due to my health I have been confined to bed since October and may be until May. In a few weeks I may have an IV sticking out of my neck 24/7. Now, this does not happen to everyone, but it could be you. And, once you are in it, there is no backing out.

I hate to be down. I have one child already and I would do ANYTHING for him. I would go though all of this again for him. But, I just like to let people know what could happen so that they are informed.

Crystal, how do you find a "doula" and what do they do?

[Cali girl]

Thank you everyone for giving me advice. I didn't have IC before or while I was pregnant. I developed it 6 years after that. In fact for a lot of women there is increased frequency with pregnancy. But it wasn't until my last trimester that I had to get up once at night. And during the day I didn't notice any frequency at all. I think I will just wait and see how I am feeling a full year to two years after diagnosis. My husband is very understanding. In fact I was joking with him and I said OK to having another baby. But only if he gave birth this time since I have IC. He just laughed. Thanks again to everyone that posted. I really do appreciate it.

Cali