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anyone considering adoption out there? It is becoming very clear that that will be our route to parenthood. My husband is so "subfertile" (nobody says infertile anymore it seems because technoloogy can go so far to change nature, it's a bit unsettling to me)that in order to have even a fourty percent chance of impregnating me, I'd have to take fertility drugs like Lupron and Clomid and then produce twenty eggs in one cycle instead of the usual one. Frankly, the usual one is often too much for me. I"d also have to get off my meds again which I would do if we could just do this normally and then I wouldn't get off unless I knew I was pregnant. Anyway, that won't be happening and mostly- I'm fine with that. I really believe that we are meant to adopt.
Is anyone else embarking on this path? Does anyone else have discomfort with extreme methods of conception in spiritual and or medical senses? I am not judging people who choose to take drugs and do invitro and ICSI and all that. I am just saying it is so not for me. It feels like getting involved in something where I don't belong and it seems like I'd feel I was contributing to an imbalance in the enviromemt which is already very out of wack.
I am very interesting in communicating with people who have adopted newborns in open adoptions here in the states or from foriegn asian countries. Although my husband is Chinese-American and I am white Jewish American from eastern european descent, we are currently leaning away from China because we would both prefer to have a boy. What the hell- if we're on this adoption journey, we may as well put our dreams out there. We think we'd like an Asian or eurasiaon healthy newborn son. We will love him like crazy and he will have the best of life. Of course we'd love a girl like crazy too but at this point I figure I'd rather avoid the whole mother-daughter thing- I've had enough of that for this lifetime.
Any advice? Any people you would care to refer me to hear about their experiences? I'd really appreciate it. I think this summer is the time we will begin to get seriouc about things but we are in no rush. We want to do this right.
Is anyone else embarking on this path? Does anyone else have discomfort with extreme methods of conception in spiritual and or medical senses? I am not judging people who choose to take drugs and do invitro and ICSI and all that. I am just saying it is so not for me. It feels like getting involved in something where I don't belong and it seems like I'd feel I was contributing to an imbalance in the enviromemt which is already very out of wack.
I am very interesting in communicating with people who have adopted newborns in open adoptions here in the states or from foriegn asian countries. Although my husband is Chinese-American and I am white Jewish American from eastern european descent, we are currently leaning away from China because we would both prefer to have a boy. What the hell- if we're on this adoption journey, we may as well put our dreams out there. We think we'd like an Asian or eurasiaon healthy newborn son. We will love him like crazy and he will have the best of life. Of course we'd love a girl like crazy too but at this point I figure I'd rather avoid the whole mother-daughter thing- I've had enough of that for this lifetime.
Any advice? Any people you would care to refer me to hear about their experiences? I'd really appreciate it. I think this summer is the time we will begin to get seriouc about things but we are in no rush. We want to do this right.
sorry I just had to tell you how completely wonderful our experience has been and how much love we have for this little one. I hope that things will move quickly for you as they did for us. 
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