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A thousand worries, a thousand hopes
I just wanted to relay a story. I've wanted to be a mom all my life. For all his life Andy has wanted to be a dad. I've been the kind of person who thought about the logistics of TTC and Birth and Momhood all my life. Andy is the kind of guy that thinks about things when they happen. He doesn't waste time worrying.
Babies were just something that I thought about and he didn't. Then I got a lot worse with my IC. Suddenly the idea that I might never get pregnant or that my body might not be able to handle pregnancy made it an immediate issue. Andy and I talked and cried, and suddenly the man who was terrified to be a dad is saying that the moment we're sure I'm in remission we should TTC.
Yesterday I asked if it was okay with him that after I finished my current crosstitch if I could start one for the baby. He yelped and gave me a whole lecture about tempting fate and then conceded that I could start a crosstitch for the baby the "second" I started the second trimester.
He was so concerned and he's so excited. It's such a wonderful thing to see. He cares. He really does. A month ago I wouldn't have been sure that he wouldn't just shrug and say "whatever".
Anyhow, it's just so hopeful. When I get pregnant I can be 100% sure that mommy AND daddy want the baby with all our hearts. It's nice that he suddenly cares, you know?
It's keeping me cheerful while I'm laying on my back. [img]smile.gif[/img]
Babies were just something that I thought about and he didn't. Then I got a lot worse with my IC. Suddenly the idea that I might never get pregnant or that my body might not be able to handle pregnancy made it an immediate issue. Andy and I talked and cried, and suddenly the man who was terrified to be a dad is saying that the moment we're sure I'm in remission we should TTC.
Yesterday I asked if it was okay with him that after I finished my current crosstitch if I could start one for the baby. He yelped and gave me a whole lecture about tempting fate and then conceded that I could start a crosstitch for the baby the "second" I started the second trimester.
He was so concerned and he's so excited. It's such a wonderful thing to see. He cares. He really does. A month ago I wouldn't have been sure that he wouldn't just shrug and say "whatever".
Anyhow, it's just so hopeful. When I get pregnant I can be 100% sure that mommy AND daddy want the baby with all our hearts. It's nice that he suddenly cares, you know?
It's keeping me cheerful while I'm laying on my back. [img]smile.gif[/img]
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