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This is going to be a long one. Sorry.
I have had IC for as long as I can remember. My Mom and Dad started taking me to see doctors because of my pain when i was as young as 4 years old. The doctors blamed my bubble bath, told my parents my urine was infection free, etc. They could not explain my screaming in pain, bedwetting and constant need to urinate. The doctors weren't always nice to my Mom and as I got to be a teenager, they weren't always nice to me. I was pretty much dismissed.
I was finally diagnosed after a scope by a doctor in another province when I was around 22 years of age. It was nice to finally put a name to what i was experiencing.
I got married at a young age - 19. I was in constant pain and things were so bad that i was literally just rolling off the couch and urinating in an ice cream bucket. It hurt to do anything and i felt suicidal. I could not imagine having much of a future.
My husband could be abusive. He never hit me because I never, ever argued with him. He punched holes in walls, broke things and yelled in my face. He threw my hamster into the wall and killed it, and almost killed my kitten with a broom handle. I chose to stay with him and decided that it would never be a good idea to have children with this man. I was so ill that it didn't seem to be a possiblity. I went to my urologist and asked to have my tubes tied, which he did. I was 23 years old.
However, I did eventually get out of my marriage. I even met a wonderful man and he married me 5 years ago, knowing that I was unable to have children. He has been very supportive and I have managed to become so much healthier!
Last week, he confessed to me that he is torn between staying with me and never having the opportunity to be a father or leaving our marriage so that he can find someone to have a family with. I am heartbroken. He says he loves me, but he doesn't know if that is enough. I know how much he loves kids and i know he would be such a great father. I had looked into the prospect of tubal ligation reversal in the past, but was afraid that my IC would not allow me to carry a baby. The doctor had thought so too, but that was before I became so much healthier.
My husband and i had talked about adopting on and off for years, but neither of us really moved on it. I was concerned about the cost,the time, having an agency nosing around in my personal business and maybe even telling us we weren't good enough.
I want to feel what it is like to experience a pregnancy! I want my own baby from my own body and i know my husband does as well. To top it off, my sister is pregnant, and although I am happy for her, I am also kind of sad.
My doctor has sent in a referral to a fertility clinic that does tubal reversals.
I don't yet have the money, but i just wanted to get the process started.
My husband barely wants to talk to me about my decision as he feels like i may just be doing this for him - like he is pressuring me. He is worried about how sick i could get and the possibility of me miscarrying.
The only pressure I am feeling is the fact that I am going to be 37 years old this year! I have managed to ween myself off of all of my medications the past year in preparation and i feel ready, but scared.
Has anyone here had a successful tubal reversal? I have been reading about how the people on this forum have dealt with their IC while being pregnant and it has given me hope.
I have had IC for as long as I can remember. My Mom and Dad started taking me to see doctors because of my pain when i was as young as 4 years old. The doctors blamed my bubble bath, told my parents my urine was infection free, etc. They could not explain my screaming in pain, bedwetting and constant need to urinate. The doctors weren't always nice to my Mom and as I got to be a teenager, they weren't always nice to me. I was pretty much dismissed.
I was finally diagnosed after a scope by a doctor in another province when I was around 22 years of age. It was nice to finally put a name to what i was experiencing.
I got married at a young age - 19. I was in constant pain and things were so bad that i was literally just rolling off the couch and urinating in an ice cream bucket. It hurt to do anything and i felt suicidal. I could not imagine having much of a future.
My husband could be abusive. He never hit me because I never, ever argued with him. He punched holes in walls, broke things and yelled in my face. He threw my hamster into the wall and killed it, and almost killed my kitten with a broom handle. I chose to stay with him and decided that it would never be a good idea to have children with this man. I was so ill that it didn't seem to be a possiblity. I went to my urologist and asked to have my tubes tied, which he did. I was 23 years old.
However, I did eventually get out of my marriage. I even met a wonderful man and he married me 5 years ago, knowing that I was unable to have children. He has been very supportive and I have managed to become so much healthier!
Last week, he confessed to me that he is torn between staying with me and never having the opportunity to be a father or leaving our marriage so that he can find someone to have a family with. I am heartbroken. He says he loves me, but he doesn't know if that is enough. I know how much he loves kids and i know he would be such a great father. I had looked into the prospect of tubal ligation reversal in the past, but was afraid that my IC would not allow me to carry a baby. The doctor had thought so too, but that was before I became so much healthier.
My husband and i had talked about adopting on and off for years, but neither of us really moved on it. I was concerned about the cost,the time, having an agency nosing around in my personal business and maybe even telling us we weren't good enough.
I want to feel what it is like to experience a pregnancy! I want my own baby from my own body and i know my husband does as well. To top it off, my sister is pregnant, and although I am happy for her, I am also kind of sad.
My doctor has sent in a referral to a fertility clinic that does tubal reversals.
I don't yet have the money, but i just wanted to get the process started.
My husband barely wants to talk to me about my decision as he feels like i may just be doing this for him - like he is pressuring me. He is worried about how sick i could get and the possibility of me miscarrying.
The only pressure I am feeling is the fact that I am going to be 37 years old this year! I have managed to ween myself off of all of my medications the past year in preparation and i feel ready, but scared.
Has anyone here had a successful tubal reversal? I have been reading about how the people on this forum have dealt with their IC while being pregnant and it has given me hope.
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maybe you can get your doctor's insight and see what they think..
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