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    Braedley
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  • Braedley
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    hi little erin..unfortunately, I don't think you can do a reversal..I had 2 babies, ended up with a c section the first time, and scheduled a c section for baby #2 as I didn't want to go through a hard labor again only to end up having another section..my OB/GYN and I talked about a TL with baby #2 and my husband and I said yes to having one done; if it was only going to take an extra 10 min during my planned section, that was fine..
    but she asked me repeatedly, even on the surgery day, and stressed that it was permanent, and we of course stuck to it and had it done..
    we're in Nova Scotia, and we were told it was not reversable maybe you can get your doctor's insight and see what they think..
    I applaud you for not having children in an abusive relationship, having watched friends go through that-I am sorry though that you had the TL done so young!
    a co worker of mine had to fight and go to 3 docs to get them to do one on her, and she was almost 30 and was adamant that she did not want more children..
    I hope you can get it reversed, keep us posted, PM if you ever need to talk

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  • gsd715
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    shame on that doctor, he should have never done it. I dont know of anyone who has had a reversal, sorry I cant help. Have you asked about it on baby/fertility websites? Are you sure they are always bladder infections? meaning are you having a urine sample tested? I understand what you mean about wanting to feel the child in you, its not selfish at all, its human nature. I really hope you get the answers you need and find the best way for you to have a family.

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  • little_erin
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    Thanks for replying! I am still hoping to hear some positive stories from people who have had successful pregnancies after a tubal reversal....
    I had the tubal at a very low time in my life. I was married to a man who had a horrible temper and I felt he would hurt children if we ever had them, and my IC was so bad that I really believed that i would never be able to carry a baby. I imagined I would be in agony, and my Doctor agreed. So, the tubal was done. And i do regret it. I divorced my first husband and I have become so healthy that I can work and go for walks, bike rides. I know i could carry a baby. It may be difficult and i worry about it because I constantly have bladder infections, but I would like to try.
    Everywhere I look, i see happy families and i want one so bad. A surrogate, although expensive, would definitely be another option, as would adoption. I know it sounds selfish, but I would really like to have a little me, and i would love to experience the miracle of having a little person growing inside of me.

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  • gsd715
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    Hey Erin, so why did you have your tubes tied? Most doctors (given Im speaking from the US) wont tie tubes unless you have had at least one child and are of a certain age to due the issue of women regretting the surgery down the road. Im sorry your husband and you are going through a hard time but in a sense he is pressuring you, he is the one who told you he is torn between a life with you minus children or a life with someone else with children. Is there a doctor or a therapist that could help open up the discussion of your choice, his possible choices and alternatives routes to having a child? I know you said you want to feel pregnancy but what if you have a surrogate? or adoption? Sorry to hear your having a hard time, I have not had tubal ligation or reversal so I am no hope there but I wanted to reply to you because the "child subject" is very familiar to me due to me not wanting to children and my husband deciding if that is ok with him which thankfully it is but it was a hard conversation to have and it took some time. ~Marie

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  • little_erin
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    Tubal ligation reversal

    This is going to be a long one. Sorry.
    I have had IC for as long as I can remember. My Mom and Dad started taking me to see doctors because of my pain when i was as young as 4 years old. The doctors blamed my bubble bath, told my parents my urine was infection free, etc. They could not explain my screaming in pain, bedwetting and constant need to urinate. The doctors weren't always nice to my Mom and as I got to be a teenager, they weren't always nice to me. I was pretty much dismissed.
    I was finally diagnosed after a scope by a doctor in another province when I was around 22 years of age. It was nice to finally put a name to what i was experiencing.
    I got married at a young age - 19. I was in constant pain and things were so bad that i was literally just rolling off the couch and urinating in an ice cream bucket. It hurt to do anything and i felt suicidal. I could not imagine having much of a future.
    My husband could be abusive. He never hit me because I never, ever argued with him. He punched holes in walls, broke things and yelled in my face. He threw my hamster into the wall and killed it, and almost killed my kitten with a broom handle. I chose to stay with him and decided that it would never be a good idea to have children with this man. I was so ill that it didn't seem to be a possiblity. I went to my urologist and asked to have my tubes tied, which he did. I was 23 years old.
    However, I did eventually get out of my marriage. I even met a wonderful man and he married me 5 years ago, knowing that I was unable to have children. He has been very supportive and I have managed to become so much healthier!
    Last week, he confessed to me that he is torn between staying with me and never having the opportunity to be a father or leaving our marriage so that he can find someone to have a family with. I am heartbroken. He says he loves me, but he doesn't know if that is enough. I know how much he loves kids and i know he would be such a great father. I had looked into the prospect of tubal ligation reversal in the past, but was afraid that my IC would not allow me to carry a baby. The doctor had thought so too, but that was before I became so much healthier.
    My husband and i had talked about adopting on and off for years, but neither of us really moved on it. I was concerned about the cost,the time, having an agency nosing around in my personal business and maybe even telling us we weren't good enough.
    I want to feel what it is like to experience a pregnancy! I want my own baby from my own body and i know my husband does as well. To top it off, my sister is pregnant, and although I am happy for her, I am also kind of sad.
    My doctor has sent in a referral to a fertility clinic that does tubal reversals.
    I don't yet have the money, but i just wanted to get the process started.
    My husband barely wants to talk to me about my decision as he feels like i may just be doing this for him - like he is pressuring me. He is worried about how sick i could get and the possibility of me miscarrying.
    The only pressure I am feeling is the fact that I am going to be 37 years old this year! I have managed to ween myself off of all of my medications the past year in preparation and i feel ready, but scared.
    Has anyone here had a successful tubal reversal? I have been reading about how the people on this forum have dealt with their IC while being pregnant and it has given me hope.
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