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  • #16
    More than you give yourself credit for.

    Be encouraged by my experience. I know what it is like to be laid out and feel useless, but I have found that God can still use my weakness and turn it into strength.

    Not being able to cater to my kids has made them grow exceedingly. They can do laundry, wash dishes, make dinner, babysit, etc. From a very young age they have learned to be responsible, unselfish, self-controlled, caring, helpful, hard working kids, because life demands it.

    People comment how thoughtful and respectful they are. My 7 yo cleaned my friend's entire kitchen by herself without any help or anybody asking, because that is just what she does at home. Children are a blessing and a reward from the Lord. Train them right and they will bless you!

    I know when I was growing up I was spoiled by my mom who did everything for me (girl scouts, dance lessons, elaborate parties,a maid who cleaned my room, etc.). And I became a self-centered disrespectful brat because it was "all about me". Now what mom deserves a kid like that!?

    It wasn't untill I was on my on my own and eventually became a parent that I learned what sacrifices parents make.

    Now that mommy is "sick" my kids have learned the discipline it takes to manage a home. Although they aren't perfect, they are miles above thier peers. Obtaining lifeskills is far more pertinant to reality than what most kids get. I think you may give your kids a lot more than you give yourself credit for. You will be stronger and so will they.
    Last edited by ICmomx5g; 03-26-2007, 05:47 PM.

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    • #17
      Being a mommy

      This is from my perspective, so no offense to those who might believe otherwise...

      The first thing that tips me off that you are going to be a good mother is that you CARE...

      Your children are a precious gift from God, in my experience, you care/struggle with something, look up, and God helps in a way never expected. Not to say that life won't get you down, but I firmly believe God will pick you up...
      (I have been on FMLA for 10 weeks now, my husband is a student (in other words we have NO income) and we have been financially as well off as we are usually!)

      I wish the best for you, and deepest congratulations on your pregnancy!
      Dx's:
      IC -February 2007
      PCOS - August 2005
      Asthma and Allergies - 2003
      Depression - 1997
      Scoliosis/Sciatica/arthritis - 1997
      Hip Replacement -2001
      Possible IBS -2006

      Current IC meds:
      Elmiron, 100mg 3x's a day

      Other Meds:
      Metformin 850 mg/2x a day
      Singulair 10 mg/1x a day
      Albuterol and Advair
      Femara (infertility)

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      • #18
        Originally posted by Judith56 View Post
        Emma,
        having a mom with IC I feel actually has made them more understanding towards people with health problems.
        I agree! Yes it may be hard some days... or even most days. But with a loving and supportive husband, those days wont seem so bad. And as your children get older, they will be more understanding and sympathic towards others who are ill. I think that the fact that you Are worried about it, and how it may affect your children, it shows what a wonderful and caring and compassionate mother you are. I definitely think that you are a great mother, and IC cannot effect that.

        Good luck with everything, I hope you days get brighter soon!
        I am Jenny.
        "Karma is affiliated with the Neopagan law of return or Threefold Law, the idea that the beneficial or harmful effects one has on the world will return to oneself."

        Dx:
        -UTI's and Kidney infections: Since 6 months of age
        -HPV: November 2005
        -Advance high-grade pre-cancer cells found in cervix: January 2006
        -LEEP procedure: January 2006
        -IC: January 2007

        Medications (Began Treatment 3/27/07):
        -Elmiron 100mg 3 x per day
        -Elavil 25 mg
        -Hydroxyzine HCL 10mg
        -Sanctura 20 mg 2 X per day (added 07/24/07)

        Weekly Instillations @ Doctor (Starting 07/31/07 instillations will be performed by self at home - Wish me luck!)
        -20cc Lidocaine 2% Plain
        -2cc Sodium Bicarbonate 8.4%
        -1cc Heparin (10,000 units/cc)

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        • #19
          thank you everyone for continuing to offer me kind words.....i have been feeling GREAT that last couple months and i am sooo not looking forward to going back to the sick, painridden, useless person i was.

          hubby is trying to make it easier for me though, we just bought a brand new recliner chair that is super soft and comfy so i will have somewhere other than my bed that i can relax and feel comfortable in when the pain is at it's worse
          Erika
          wife to Jeremy
          mom to Emma (3-8-05)
          and Natalie (7-23-07)


          Meds i'm currently taking:
          Lortab as needed for pain


          Meds that did not help:
          Detrol LA
          Lexapro (caused urgency)
          Amatryptaline 10mg once a day (helped IC but made me feel like CRAP)



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          • #20
            That's great!! I love that you have another place to go to be comfy during those rough times Good luck with everything! <3 It sounds like you have a very supportive and loving husband, and we are always here for you too!
            I am Jenny.
            "Karma is affiliated with the Neopagan law of return or Threefold Law, the idea that the beneficial or harmful effects one has on the world will return to oneself."

            Dx:
            -UTI's and Kidney infections: Since 6 months of age
            -HPV: November 2005
            -Advance high-grade pre-cancer cells found in cervix: January 2006
            -LEEP procedure: January 2006
            -IC: January 2007

            Medications (Began Treatment 3/27/07):
            -Elmiron 100mg 3 x per day
            -Elavil 25 mg
            -Hydroxyzine HCL 10mg
            -Sanctura 20 mg 2 X per day (added 07/24/07)

            Weekly Instillations @ Doctor (Starting 07/31/07 instillations will be performed by self at home - Wish me luck!)
            -20cc Lidocaine 2% Plain
            -2cc Sodium Bicarbonate 8.4%
            -1cc Heparin (10,000 units/cc)

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            • #21
              my husband may drive me crazy at times but he is always here to help and suport me when i need it! He's such a wonderful man i think i would have died without him
              Erika
              wife to Jeremy
              mom to Emma (3-8-05)
              and Natalie (7-23-07)


              Meds i'm currently taking:
              Lortab as needed for pain


              Meds that did not help:
              Detrol LA
              Lexapro (caused urgency)
              Amatryptaline 10mg once a day (helped IC but made me feel like CRAP)



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              • #22
                I definitely feel as though I had IC before I got pregnant. However, I had not yet been diagnosed. I did great after my twins were born. I tried goind on Birth control pills about a year and a half after they were born. They gave me headaches and I gained weight so I stopped taking them. Then my bladder went wacko again. This is just a thought but maybe having a baby is kind of like re-booting a computer and our bodies sort of re-set and do what they are supposed to do. Anyhow, I wish I would have just stuck with condoms for birth control. I really feel like birth control pills affected my body in a way that was detrimental to my overall, as well as, bladder health. I was fine before them. This is purely my opinion but I thought I would throw it out there in case it might help you. Best of luck with the new baby! -Vicki
                Blessings and Hope

                Current Meds.
                OFF MY MEDS
                Vivelle Dot: .10 changed every 72 hours
                Compoounded Progesterone 25mg/night

                Current Supplements
                Hydroeye: 2 pills AM

                Diagnosed
                1995: Endometriosis
                1998: Interstitial Cystitis
                2006: Bladder Endometriosis, Total Hysterectomy and Bowel Re-Section
                2008: Removal of Ovarian Remnant and Endometrial Cyst That was Obstructing Ureter
                2012: Laparoscopic Removal of Adhesions and Staples

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                • #23
                  hubby and i chart my fertility to avoid pregnancy, i hate taking birth control and i will avoid it at all costs...it makes me mean, and moody and feel like im not myself
                  Erika
                  wife to Jeremy
                  mom to Emma (3-8-05)
                  and Natalie (7-23-07)


                  Meds i'm currently taking:
                  Lortab as needed for pain


                  Meds that did not help:
                  Detrol LA
                  Lexapro (caused urgency)
                  Amatryptaline 10mg once a day (helped IC but made me feel like CRAP)



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                  • #24
                    you have a lovely family. Congrats on your pregnancy. I have had IC for almost 4 years and I am pregnant with my first child due in a week. It was rough but I somehow got through it. Hang in there!!! I will pray for you and keep you in my thoughts. I have the same fears as you do. I don't know how my IC will be post pregnancy. I don't know if I should have a c-section due to the fact that I have IC. I am perplexed.

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                    • #25
                      Hi Basia,
                      Do you have a choice as to how you deliver your baby? I know it depends on how things are at the last minute.... my experience was, no IC with three vaginal births...IC with 2 c- sections...but I think truly it was the large catheter used in the preoperative procedure...you can know to tell them about using smaller... and we are all so different in our response to surgery!!! I think anytime one can safely deliver w/o surgery..better...but, it all depends, as you know...on the choice of safety on baby and you. GOOD LUCK and hooray for wonderful babies!!! You will do great; I bet, and congratulations on going through pregnancy...that is no easy thing!
                      Katheryn

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                      • #26
                        Yes I do have the choice but I'm not sure what is the right choice. From what you are saying is that you got IC after your c-section due to the catheter as the post op procedure. Have you had IC while pregnant with your first 3 children? I already have it and I don't want to do anything that might make it worse.

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