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  • kellymh
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    I feel for you! I've been there. I tried to have children for 7 years. I went to several fertility dr's and no luck. They kept telling me different things. I went to mayo clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, which is 10 hours from me and I went throught their fertility clinic. They tell you when you are done if you are able to have kids and if they can help you. I had a minor outpatient surgery and than they told me to wait a month to try, and the first month I was pregnant. I had a beautiful daughter, she is now 19 years old and in college. I spent thousands of dollars at other places. If you live by any mayo clinic they are a terrific place. I wish you good luck, they heart ache of going through infertility is almost unbearable. I will pray for you.

    Kelly

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  • ABliske
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    One more thing - I know you said you think your parnter has a good sperm count, but it wouldn't hurt to abstaine from sex for a few days prior to your peak fertility time. Then, the sperm count may go up and you'd have of a better chance of getting pregnant I think!

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  • Papillion
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    Shena,
    I am so sorry to hear that you have been having trouble getting pregnant........I have been there......I can imagine what you are going through. It took us 6 years......a lot of tests and finally deciding to go through in vitro fertilization.
    As soon as you find a reputable doctor in your area......See how much it would be for a consultation. I would have your husband checked out first, then see what your options are.......there are different price points for different services.......depends on what your needs are......
    Where are you from?
    Lily

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  • chainsaw
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    Shena...Sorry to hear about what you are going through. My husband and I had been trying to have kids for about 5-6 years, then he was tested, and we found out that he had low sperm count. Then we just forgot about it. About a couple years later we tried Donor Artificial Insemanation, but that did not take either. So then we assumed there was something wrong with me, so we just gave up. It wasn't until we moved from OH. to PA. that we started thinking of adopting. We started the paperwork the end of May "03" and then on Feb. 28, 05 we adopted our daughter from China. She was 15 months old then, now she is almost 3 1/2. So I guess what I am saying is that if God forbid you are not able to have a baby, there is always adoption to consider. We are so glad we did. Sure, she is a handful and I am not a young person (I am 48) but I would not trade her for anything.
    Kim

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  • Kara29
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    It may be a thought to check your area. Some Doctors have special programs for people that don't have the funds. There are also people who donate eggs and sperm if that is what is needed. You could put in a search for your area and make some calls to see what programs they have available.
    You can try calling OBGYN's to get some names of fertility doctors. Many OBGYN's also work with some infertility couples. If it gets complicated then they will refer you to a specialist appropriate for your needs.

    Good Luck with contacting someone in your area.

    Kara

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  • shenapoo
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    Thanks for the information. Do you know of any reasonable fertility docs?

    shena

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  • Kara29
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    Shena,

    I would have a doctor do your testing for You and your Partner.

    We had my Husband checked as one of the very first tests. It explained some of the mystery of why we weren't getting pregnant.

    Erika and Aly gave some great advise as to safe things that can be monitored on your own.

    Kara

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  • ABliske
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    Okay, this is going to sound bizarre. You said you have no money for testing. Well, when I wasn't sure why I was in pain all the time. I had this idea to swab off some vaginal tissue and look at it in a microscope. I just didn't believe the doctors saying everything looked okay. Well, it didn't work, but my husband checked his semen and the count looked good.
    I just thought you probably don't have a microscope lying around and that might be more expensive than a doctor's analysis and way less accurate.
    I have heard that a woman's fertility level goes up in her early 40s. HOw old are you?
    I wish you the best of luck!! I will keep you in my thoughts. I want to have children as well.

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  • shvlnose
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    Do you chart?

    I agree with Kara... Knowledge is power!

    Do you do any fertility charting - with your waking temperatures, cervical fluid, and what not? Do you use an ovulation predictor kit? If not, then you might want to start.

    There are some basic hormonal/cycle issues that can be ruled out or considered based on just your charting/ovulation kit results.

    I would totally recommend the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" as a good starting point.

    Also, if you've been activity trying for 5 years... have you had your partner do a semen analysis? My husband and I tried for 6 months with no success. Got a SA done on him and his numbers weren't bad, but they were marginal. Raw numbers were OK, but the motility was killing us (they all died after about 3 hours). We made some lifestyle changes and now I'm pregnant (it took 10 full months of trying and 4 months of being SURE that we were getting the timing right).

    Hang in there and don't give up hope!
    Aly

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  • humpieumpumkin
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    Hey there! Just a few things to try, although you may have already...
    1) ovulation tests/monitors and/or basil thermometers
    2) raising your legs with pillows after sex. The gravity can sometimes give the little fellows a better chance.
    3)sperm friendly lubes-such as egg whites, yuck I know
    4)Make sure your partner has an adaquate sperm count-and discourage drinking which can lower sprem count

    Hope this helps

    Erika

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  • Kara29
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    Shenapoo,

    Knowledge is power. I found that arming myself with as much knowledge as I could was the best way to get through my Infertility. I found this site to be very comforting and helpful. There are lots of ways you can work on understanding your body while you wait to see a specialist. http://www.webwomb.com/tcoyf.htm

    I will say some prayers for you.

    Kara

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  • Berkshire Road
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    I'm sorry, I can imagine how hard it is on you. IC doesn't seem to make it any more or less likely that you will conceive; it's not a disease of the reproductive system.

    My cousin Jill was ttc for 15 years before she had her beautiful, healthy baby girl two years ago -- so there is always hope. I'll be hoping along with you.

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  • shenapoo
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    Having trouble, Want baby

    I have been trying to get pregnant for the past 5 years. I was diagnosed in Nov of last year. I keep telling myself that I will be able to have children. I have had the dye test that makes sure that everything is flowing ok. It was. I am almost at my end. I don't want to give up. But everyone tells me that when I stop wanting a baby I will get one. I can not make my head and my heart work together. I believe that I have been pregnant before, But I think that I am having trouble carrying a child not getting the child. I am not financially able to go get the proper test. So I guess I will continue to pray. i was hoping that You all could pray for me as well. If you have any ideas for me to try please don't hesitate. to contact me @blackplanet.com using the username Shenapoo.

    shena
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