Would you have another baby if IC weren't a problem?

[Michelle in KC]

My 5 YO son, Justin, and I were talking about fishing. I told him that we couldn't go fishing because the fish were hibernating. (I know they have been talking about hibernation in his preschool class and they made bears and put them under a table covered with a brown blanket so their bears could hibernate) Anyway, he informed me that hibernating meant waiting for a baby. He then asked me if I was waiting for a baby. I told him No, that he was my baby. He then informed me that he wanted a baby. I've had my tubes tied since he was 9 months old. I have my 2 children, Emilee will be 11 and Justin just turned 5, and have miscarried 3 times. I'm done. But, I'm turning 30 in a couple of months and am feeling a little crazy about it. I want to know, if IC weren't a problem, would you have another baby? baby

[vm]

I have some other issues that keep us from trying again (bicornuate uterus, preterm labor with #2 and placenta detaching w/ #2), BUT - my IC is the big thing keeping us from having another one. I have had two c-sections, my symptoms started after the last one, and I just won't risk this IC getting worse b/c of a 3rd... frown

[jaime15]

My IC was tolerable during pregnancy. But I had difficulties w/him. I developed toxemia, led to pulmonary edema, ending w/cardio myopathy. I'm lucky to be alive. But to me he was worth it. Him being born starting my 33rd week was the most difficult though. I wouldn't have a baby again if I knew I couldn't carry him to term.
I had my tubes tied when he was 4mths. But if I were to be a mom again, IC or not, we'll adopt or maybe even surrogacy?
Jaime

[scootermom]

This has been on my mind a lot. Prior to my recent diagnosis, my husband and I wanted to try for a third this summer (my boys are 4 and almost 2), but now I am not sure. I just started Elmiron and Paxil, and I would have to go off of both. Also, I have had some big issues with my pelvis which may have triggered my symptoms and my Physical Therapist said having another baby would only weaken me that much more. So we are really seriously considering adoption, which we wanted to do anyway. I have baby fever big time right now!

Sara

[LDS]

I have a 19 year old and a 3 1/2 year old. The 3 1/2 year old is adopted, as my body could not handle having a baby at this point. He's a true blessing and I can't say enough about how important adoption is. It is hard, sometimes, however, I have an extremely supportive and involved husband. Without that, we could not have had this second child with my IC. There are many children who need good homes so I wish you the best of luck in your journey.

LDS

[JTHEART]

I want another baby really badly. My son will be 3 in May. I have been sick his whole life. Many days I feel really bad about this. All the medicines help reduce my pain but make me lathargic. He has so much energy. I don't think I'm meant to have another baby. Even if I could carry a baby how will I ever have the energy to take care of two children and deal with IC I just keep praying that God will help me know what is best for me and my family. And I am so thankful for my Son he is my miracle.

[SheriG]

I think that if you sometimes "hate being a mom" as you recently posted, you most definately should not have another baby. I have three kids, and having three can be tricky, especially if some are years apart as mine are (13,11,6) and if I read your posts right, you have a five yr old and an older child.There are days that I don't think I will make it through with this IC crap, but my kids are the reason I get up in the morning,and am able to get thru each day. Enjoy them, try not to stress, and treasure every moment, cuz they are each a blessing. Sheri

[Amanda]

Although I have no children, I think I have to add this---

When Michelle mentioned she 'hated being a mom,' she was referring to hating to having to watch her child getting shots at the pediatricians, which I think any mom hates. I do not think that should have any weight when deciding weather or not to have another child.

Amanda

[Alyson]

Michelle,
I turned 30 in August and I have two kids(three and almost five). My hubby and I really wanted three kids, but to be honest with you, my IC is so painful that there is no way I can do it! Also, I had toxemia with my first and my second was born nearly six weeks early, so I'm somewhat of a "high-risk" anyway. We are seriously discussing adoption. We want to wait a couple years until we are in a bigger house, etc, but we think we may want to go that route for our third baby. I can't imagine being pregnant and giving up any of my meds. My hubby says he can't watch me face the possibility of "starting all over again" with the pain and stuff. I am very happy for those that are able to have great pregnancies, though!
Alyson

[Michelle in KC]

Amanda,

THANK YOU VERY MUCH for coming to my defense. My hunny asked me why I was in such a bad mood last night when I got off the computer. I didn't tell him, but that's why. Obviously she didn't read the message, just the headline. I hate seeing my children in pain. It still brings tears to my eyes when I think of having to wrestle my son down for shots. It was truly awful. However, instead of replying hotly to the previous post, I just logged off and took a break. Sometimes I can have a hot head, ya know?? Anyway, Thanks again, Amanda. You're truly a great person.
kissing
Michelle in KC

[Amanda]

You're welcome Michelle.

Hang in there.

Amanda

[pineland]

Oh how I'd love to have another baby. In spite of being in an IC flare the entire pregnancy, in spite of bedrest, hospital stays, pre-term labor, gest. diabetes, preeclampsia, etc. etc., I was ready as soon as she was born!! Unfortunately, it's not that easy as we struggled with infertility for 13 years before we were blessed with Olivia. Olivia is so worth everything. Hopefully we will be able to have another if it's in God's plan for us. And hopefully we can at least go without the preeclampsia this time as that's about the only thing we have a chance of not having again. We'll wait and see what happens.

Best to all,
Darcy grouphug

[SheriG]

Michelle...I certainly never meant for my reply to upset you. I don't think there is a mom on Earth who likes to see her kids hurt..we all would take those shots to spare the little arms. I am sorry if I came across in a way that made you mad and upset....never meant to. I just sensed, from a few of your posts , your frustration of trying to juggle kids/ IC, which I know can really suck! I was merely trying to point out that another child will not improve that situation. Best of luck whatever you decide. I hate it that IC has to dictate so many of our life decisions!!! Again, please understand that I didn't intend to upset you with my reply. God Bless, feel better kissing hi

[SheriG]

Oh, I almost forgot...having worked in a pediatrician's office...it is your right if you dont wanna be the bad guy to hold down your son during painful procedures, to ask for someone else to do it, and either stay and rub his hand or face, comforting him, or step out til they are done! Don't let em bully ya! Sheri

[princess66]

I am currently preg. on #3. I have had IC since 1998 and had #2 with IC very painful because taking vitamins which made my condition worse.

Now I'm on #3 and have good and bad days. I watch my diet and with the help of God I am getting thru this preg.

I would like another child but yes, it is hard coping with this IC and then you're family at the same time. Sometimes I feel helpless when I have a flare.

I am also 40 so I guess no more children. I currently have two boys and will be having another boy. I really would have liked a girl but you can win it all.

Good luck to you.

Princess angel