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    it is really hard! man!
    I have a 6 week old new little man. He is the third child for us. We were so thrilled when he arrived.
    now that i am not pregnant and can focus on taking care of my severe pain,
    it is so deppressing. my mood and everything is not the same.
    I have had zoloft here for about 6 weeks. but havent taken it.
    i think i am going to try it in the morning. it is safe w/ breastfeeding thank god.
    better than percocet i am sure.
    just kinda wanted to vent.
    i have not alot of frequency and my cysto did not show all classic signs but where could this uretha and lower abodominal pain come from? uro wants to treat for Ic
    Crystal J. Skidmore

  • #2
    I can remember how exhausting the third child was on me. The second one was not that bad. I also believe this is a really hard time to have a baby when the darkness of night is so long.
    Just remember that it does take 3-5 weeks for the Zoloft to kick in. Take care Maureen


    • #3
      I had some postpartum depression after the birth of our second son. In retrospect I wish I had taken an antidepressant, but oh well... My IC started a month after he was born so I can definitely relate to dealing with all of that on top of depression and a new baby. It's tough.

      Hang in there and hopefully your uro will find something to help you. Did you have the cysto w/ hydro or just a cysto?

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      • #4
        Oh I feel for you. I didn't have post partum but a string of others things that did go wrong. I only have the one, he's 21 months.
        But I can't imagine having three and being in pain.
        Can you get some relief from family?
        Just know we're here for you if you want to talk, vent, kick, scream and cry... kissing
        Tons of support,

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        • #5
          Hi Crystal. I have two kids a 4yr old boy and a 6yr old girl. Although I dont have 3 kids my 4yr old is like 2 kids rolled into one (very active) and I call my husband my third child. Can husbands do anything on their own? Ha Ha. I started having pain just after my son was born and it was very difficult so I can relate. My mom is a psychiatric social worker ( she does psychiatric therapy). The best advice she ever gave me was to ALWAYS make sure you have time to yourself at least once a week. Even if its just to take a nice relaxing bath with soft music. She also has raised five kids and worked full time, so I think she has some good insight. Have you ever thought of scheduling time for yourself just like you would at a job? I know this advice probably sounds trivial for what you must be feeling right now but I know stress always makes my pain much worse and we have to treat ourselves the same way we would treat our kids if they were sick. My husband worked two jobs when Matthew (4yr old) was tiny so he couldnt help much so sometimes I would wait until Matthew was asleep and just bring him in the bathroom with me or give him toys to keep him entertained. One of things I have learned more recently is that ICers are VERY exceptional women. "So solitude, that crucible in which the heart is purified and cleansed . . . is a place of grace . . . where the spirit works gradually but surely to renew thy self." I wish I could help. Make sure you keep reaching out when times are tough. Take Care. Love and Prayers-Enders.....
          PS I had migraines as well as IC through both pregnancies, sometimes I had them every day and I still nursed a year for each child without being able to take meds. We are such strong women who still do the very best for our kids in spite of our pain. Glad you are still able to nurse, isnt it a wonderful experience?


          • #6
            Dear Crystal,
            Don't feel guilty if you need to take the Zoloft. My doctor says that your better off for both yourself and the child if you need to take it. It does take awhile to kick in so if you really feel like you need it you should start now.
            I have been taking Zoloft for over two years, during my last pregnancy, through breastfeeding and now with this pregnancy. It has helped me with a number of different things. At times I wish I wasn't taking it but I feel I'm a better mother since I've been on it. Before I was really on edge all the time with my other 3 children. I plan of breastfeeding the new baby and have heard mixed things regarding breastfeeding and Zoloft.
            I hope your feeling better soon, I know what its like to be depressed and just sink lower and lower. I'm already worried that after this pregnacy is over that my IC will come back full force. Right now its been in semi-remission. I'm so afraid of not being able to take care of my children if it gets too bad. I keep thinking that maybe it won't be as bad. Anyway, do what you have to do to make you feel better. In the long run it will be the best thing for both you and the baby.



            • #7
              HI. Thank you ALL for the encouraging replies.
              I did not take the zoloft.
              I have decided to just fight as hard as I can.
              I am so nervous about taking all these med's while breastfeeding, but that is so important to me and for the baby.
              I am in ALOT better spirits.
              Partly bc I am not hurting that bad.
              Altough today was a very rough day.
              I called Doc and asked for tylenol # 3 said no called in urimax, found out cant take it w/ breastfeeding so he gave in I guess and called in 10 pills of tylenol # 3 for me.
              It helped, I had to take two, but after 1 hr I was almost pain free which was nice.
              I had a hydro and cysto when I had surgery. I am going in mon for another procedue they will put a catheter in and wash my bladder something that will soothe my bladder he said.
              I am NOT looking forward to the catheter bc last time I had one it killed me. they did not even get it all the way in it was so bad.
              he mentioned trying to knock me out with some valium in the office while he does that procedure.
              That will be nice, never had valium before. How does it make one feel. Anyoneknow.
              ThANKS LADIES!!!
              Crystal J. Skidmore


              • #8
                I call valium the "don't give a whit" pill. It makes me feel very relaxed and calm, and sleepy. When I have surgery in a few days, I will have valium as a pre-op med.

                Warm hugs,
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                • #9
                  It's been a long time since I've logged in.
                  Good to be back on board! I am a mon of a nineteen month old girl, and I am so sick and tired of being sick and tired. I am in the process of waiting for a response from the government regarding my disability application,
                  I just got to see a new uro that I've been on a waiting list to see for 10 months, I've started
                  a weekly treatment called Urocyst(it has made a
                  difference for me in decreasing pain, but I still struggle with high frequency), I'm up 8-12 times a night to use the washroom, I can't leave the house without poise pads, my husband's family thinks very little about my disease, I feel like I'm gaining weight now that the summer is gone and I haven't been taking my daily walks, Yoga's not doing "it" for me anymore, my husband is always working, things around the house never get
                  done...bla, bla, bla. And I want another baby!
                  But I'm so scared of my IC. I guess I needed to
                  vent. Thanks to all who read this and understand!
                  sick and tired,


                  • #10
                    Hi Crystal. Its great to here that you are feeling better. I just wanted to let you know that when I was pregnant with my son Matthew I had terrible migraines and my OB (who also suffers from migraines) suggested that I take tylenol #3. I know you are no longer pregnant and I dont know about taking the tylenol while nursing but if your doctor trusts it then just use those motherly instincts. I was nervous about using the tylenol but when my pain was extreme on a couple of occasions I did use it. I didnt have IC while I was pregnant, thank God. I had migraines daily, I think God knew how much I could handle. The IC came after the birth of my son. After I wrote the reply to your post I talked to my mom and found out that zoloft is a commom med perscriped for postpartum. My mom is not an MD, however she does talk with alot of mothers who have been prescribed this med while nursing. I support your decision. I think if your feeling down you need to do whatever is necessary to make you feel better especially at a time like this but if you can do it without meds then that is great. Like you, I think nursing is very important for many reasons. I dont think I will have any more kids just because I cant handle having migraines and IC and not be able to take medication for them. Sigh... On a happy note I have a boy and a girl and I suffered a long time with those migraines but no one can ever take away those precious memories I have while staring in their beautiful eyes as they drifted off with that little bit of dribble on their cheek. My sister is nursing right now and she has another baby due in December. ( Shes really worried about that sitiuation!) Good thoughts being sent to you and your little one- Enders.....


                    • #11
                      Hi Everyone. I thought you might like an update and I wanted to say thank you to everyone for the replies and the support.
                      I did not take the zoloft. I stuck with it and I have felt better on my own for weeks now with out anything......
                      As for my IC it is getting worse. My pain is increasing. One thing I did not have was the frequency. I have noticed that it is really picking up too.......

                      It will be ok though. I have a good uro.
                      I had a flare, I guess my first one since I have know about IC (i hurt daily but this was killing me) Last weekend. I about went to hospital pain was so bad, but I stuck it out. Was worked in Mond. had an installtion done and I am WORSE!!!!!
                      any one have any experince with getting worse after an installation?
                      I am going to ask that question on the installtion bbs....
                      But emotianlly I am doing so much better. Stressed out about tons of other things. But doing very well thank GOD!!!
                      Hugs to you all
                      Crystal J. Skidmore