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    It happened to me last week. Walking in I was fine. My doctor gave me 30days to lower my cholesterol, so I am dieting on top of waiting for a miracle to happen and find a doctor to help me with all of this pain. I have a appt. next week for a New Uro, last one was awfull!! My fiance was with me in the store. Running thru in a hurry, people all around, looking at fruits and I just started crying!! He freaked. I have been under so mych stress. He just had major back surgery in January. I have been dealing with this pain for 5 months. It's not getting any better. Trying to take care of him and my two children have just been to much. I have been in extreme pain for so long. My fiance does not understand. I am always the strong one...... the one who takes care of everyone... So now I feel like I am loosing it??? I am so tired and frustrated!!! I mean to have just lost it in WalMart????? Come on? So I cried the whole way home. I am praying everyday that something helps soon. My son spent the night in ER... this week. So here I am trying to be strong, but I am falling apart!! ?? Than on top of all of this my fiance ;;----he had the nerve argue with me today!!!! Can we say HELLO?????? I do everything for you and this house and the kid's animals, you name it?? Men fall apart and we pick them up. Who picks me up when I fall? A woman can only take so much?? , I did take a hot bath and write to ya'll, so I feel better now. Thanks for being here and being brave enough to let me see that we all have really bad days.

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      Gosh, I am sorry you are having such a rough time. Please dont be embarrassed about losing it in Walmart. I bet you half the people in Walmart, have lost it in a store at one time or another! (I know I have! Mine was Lowe's.)

      From reading your post, it sounds like you under alot of stress, trying to be all things to all people. But, you have to treat yourself just as well as you do everyone else.

      I dont know how old your kids are, but if they still need supervison, it might help to call a few of their friend's Moms and ask if they would be willing to trade off child care, and tell them that you arent feeling well, and see if they could keep the kids tomorrow. You definately need a break.

      I dont know if you are on an antidepressant, but if you arent, it might be time to call your Dr. and go on one for a bit. If you are already on one, you may have grown tolerant to the dose and need to have it upped a bit. Even if you havent grown tolerant, sometimes meds need to be tweaked during difficult times. I think you should call the Dr. on call tonite or tomorrow and ask them to put you on one, or adjust the dose of the one you are on currently.

      Women have alot of pressure on them from society, and even from themselves to be perfect. But, we are human first, and our other titles fall after that. Please be kind to yourself and treat yourself as well as you treat everyone else. You deserve it!

      I hope you get to feeling better soon.



      • #4
        I'm so sorry for all the stress you are under and how horrible you have been feeling. Don't feel bad about losing it in Walmart, I lose it at work all the time, not very professional. I have to work full time, have 4 kids at home, hubby and mil all in the same house. There are many days that I get to work in the morning and feel like I can't do it anymore and almost start to cry or do start to cry. I have learned though that as long as I make it through work and everybody gets fed for dinner nothing else HAS to get done. I used to be worried about cleaning, yea my house is a mess all the time now but it's not worth the stress to try to keep it clean when the kids will just destroy it again. Do what you have to and let the small stuff go sometimes to save your sanity.

        I have been diagnoised for 6 1/2 years now. I have taken a long break from the ICN but really miss helping out my fellow IC patients and want to get back into posting.
        1st hydro 4/07 showed no visible signs of IC but tons of mast cells in all my biopsy samples which did prove IC.
        2nd hydro 4/13/09 showed dark purple glomerulations and I had a capacity of 450 cc's. This hydro proved that my IC had progressed.
        I have tried every oral medication as well as rescue instills and DMSO.

        I have been lucky enough to see Dr Hanno, the top IC specialist in PA who has told me due to the fact that I have not responded to any "standard" treatments that I have a severe, end stage case of IC with a horrible quality of life (didn't have to tell me that last part!)

        Proud wifey of Shane, mommy to Griffin, and step-mom to Logan and Gage
        Also proud mom to the best Bullmastiff on earth, Claus


        • #5
          I teared up in Safeway today - I think it happens to everyone at one time or another. IC is stressful in itself, add another stressor in & of course it's too much.
          Sending a hug, wishing you better days soon--

          I am not a medical authority nor do I offer medical advice. In all cases, I strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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          -Elavil 50mg at night
          -Continuous use birth control pills (4-5 periods/year)
          -Heparin/Marcaine/Sodium Bicarb home instills at night 3-4x per week, more often if needed
          -Pyridium if needed,
          -Pain medicine at bedtime daily, as needed during the day several times per week
          -Antibiotic when doing an instillation to prevent UTI
          -Colace & SmartFiber to treat chronic constipation from meds, Fleet enema as needed
          -Dye Free Benadryl 50 mg at bedtime
          -"Your Pace Yoga: Relieving Pelvic Pain" dvd, walking, treadmill at gym
          -Managing stress= VERY important!
          -Fur therapy: Hugging the cat!


          • #6
            don't feel bad we all do it, I started bawling today when I got off the phone with the nurse practioner today.. I was never so insulted in my life gggggrrrrrr. sending you big big hugs.
            'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'


            • #7

              I have days like that to.. I think its all of us who have IC to say we have bad days like that... I have gotten better since I got on Cymbalta, but before I was crying almost every day...It will get better hun.....

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              Dx With IC in Nov 2006 with Hydro/Cysto
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              • #8

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                • #9
                  When your nerves go you have no control over them no matter where you are. Actually I do most of my crying at the stores. Won't cry around family since they don't seem to understand how I feel. I do wonder myself why when men get sick the whole world is ending but yet women get sick and they still have to plug along. Maybe you needed a good cry to help some of the stress and pressure off. Hope you are feeling better today.


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                    Tami the stress broke me down yesterday. I just lost it completley. I was even crying because the grass wan't green yet! (I live in Maine) We try to be so strong and then sometimes the straw that breaks the camels back happenes so to say, then we lose it. Its ok, and nothing to be ashamed of. I always feel better after a good cry, and quite frankly, I almost lose at Walmart every time I go there! Its just such a stressful place. Hang in there, you are a strong woman. Hugs

                    IC diagnosed officially via cysto/urodynamics 1/26/07

                    Grade II Endometriosis diagnosed via lap 12/11/07

                    "Fall down seven times, Stand up eight."

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                    • #11
                      Oh hon...We all have meltdowns. Seems we can take it for just so long and then we have to get it out of our systems. Stop beating yourself up about letting go. Crying is so good for you. It releases your stress level and helps you deal with things. I know it seems weak, but actually it is very empowering. After a good cry, I think I can handle just about anything.

                      I feel sorry for some men. They have been taught that it isn't manly to cry. It seems to me that we, as women, are very blessed to have that outlet.


                      Shopping??? Did someone mention shopping? I'll get my hat... ;-)

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                      • #12
                        Don't feel bad, I had my own breakdown this week also. I was having a terrible flare and when the pain goes through the roof, I find myself anger at everything and I had a good cry for two days and Amy (ihurtoo) really helped alot. Yesterday, I started feeling better and my mood also got better. I do take pain meds (low dose) so that helps, but when I am in a flare, pain at about a 15, pain meds do not help, so there I go, yelling at my kids, dog, anybody. So give yourself a break, I hope you are going to find a doctor that will be a good fit.


                        • #13
                          I fell better!!

                          Thanks for all of the replies. It truely feels better to know that I am not alone and crying in public is okay!! Okay that was some weird humor. I just feel better knowing that I am not alone in this battle. I did feel better after all of the crying! Wierd how that works. I guess just letting go helps. So thanks all, for sharing and supporting me again. Tami :woohoo:


                          • #14
                            nope you are all here with us that really flip out at times.. you know we all get together and go in in groups, this way there is more of us to blame,
                            'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'


                            • #15
                              I reckon "let it all hang out'! If there are people around you that know you, and they don't offer a shoulder then ..they can s'orf! And if its people you don't know, then who cares!
                              It is amazing how much better you can feel after letting the saftey valve go and having a good cry. I did mine at home in the plastic container cupboard two days ago Some silly straw had broken my camels back (couldn't find the right lid to a container)........Hahahaha must have looked comical, me thrashing about half in the cupboard and half on the floor...Tupperware flying in all directions!
                              I do believe that there are times when IC, kids, husbands, work, bills, etc etc etc. just get too much to handle and we go off like a shaken soda bottle. However, you know, it is a good thing that we can at least let it out............. saves taking the carving knife to the instigator of our frustration Do you think?