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    I have not been on in a few days, after 30 years of marriage my husband tells me I am to sick and he don't love me anymore.

    This crushed me after I gave him my best as a wife all those years.

    I knew something was up from they way his behavior was for the past three months.

    I cried a quite a few tears and of course I am still in shock.

    I pray to GOD for strength and guidence, that is one thing my husband can not take from me.

    I eventually will survive this and I will be stronger, i will not be a victim no more.

    He is coming back tomorrow to colect the rest of his things for his nice sweet condo.

    This may sound crazy but I do not hate him, I kind of feel sorry for him.

    He had a very faithful wife and good mother and friend and he through it all away for pure selvishness.

    I was wondering if this happened to anyone else because of thier IC?
    Link to the patient information, everything from What is IC? to Disability

    American Urological Association Clinical Guideline
    Diagnosis and Treatment of Intersitial Cysitis/Painful Bladder Syndrom

  • #2
    Linda, I reposted this for you in a new thread under the depression and anxiety tab. That way other's will see this and can respond and give you support.

    I am so sorry this has happened to you.

    I am praying for you. Do you have family near to be with you? I know this is devastating. Not to sound ugly but please get yourself an attorney asap. Make sure that you are ok, financially.

    I know that someone else has been through this before. Not sure if she is still on the boards though.
    Link to the patient information, everything from What is IC? to Disability

    American Urological Association Clinical Guideline
    Diagnosis and Treatment of Intersitial Cysitis/Painful Bladder Syndrom


    • #3
      Oh Linda, I am so sorry to hear this. I am sure others who have been through similar situations will come forward to offer support. It isn't easy to live with a chronic illness let alone worry whether our spouse will still love us.

      You are right to feel sorry for him. But in time you might get mad too. And that is perfectly ok.........

      Sending you hugs...........

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      • #4
        Linda, I am so sorry this is happening to you! I will keep you in my prayers that God gives you strength & comfort during this difficult time.

        "The happiest people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the best of everything they have."


        • #5
          I'm so sorry this is happening to you Linda.

          Sending gentle hugs,
          Stay safe

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          • #6
            Linda, I am so sorry. I wish I was there to give you a hug. I just don't know what to say except that you will be in my thoughts, hopes and wishes.
            Katie-46 yr old female dx'd with IC after 15 years of symptoms off and on long term antibiotic use, GERD,IBS and now IC diet, gallbladder removed, endometrial ablation w/tubes tied
            Lexapro-20 mg
            Ambien-as needed
            Percocet-7.5 up to 3 per day as needed
            Valium-10 mg x2 per day
            Phenergan-1 at night
            Prelief w/everything
            Now recovering from acute pancreatitis

            Currents treatments that help somewhat:
            Heating pad
            Hot baths
            Being VERY still while lying down with legs elevated


            • #7
              Of course you are in shock Linda. I have been through this with many of my friends. Unbelieveable pain. The best advice yet is get a good attorney now! This horror is right up there with the loss (death) of a loved one. It gets worse before it gets better but it does get better and new doors open. Many of my friends made it more easy by joining support groups. Many thought they would return only to find out a new woman entered the picture. Protect yourself right away. You have the support and concern of each of us here. Hugs, Ziggy


              • #8
                Linda, I am so sorry. Julie is right, it's definitely ok to be mad, but it just shows how good of a person you are that you feel sorry for him.

                My ex-boyfriend left me as well because I was "too sick." I know that doesn't compare to 30 years of marriage though. I moved back home where I had family to support me. I ended up finding someone who really loves me (and treats me better than he ever did) and who doesn't care that I have IC. I went back to school and my ex is still unemployed and alone.

                Things will get better, though I know it's hard to believe right now. If you want to talk, feel free to PM me.