I just wanted to vent...(I hope I posted in the appropriate section)
I first off have to say that for the most part, my husband is very supportive. He takes me to all of my Doctor appointments, he doesn't complain when we are traveling and I need to use the bathroom frequently.
That being said, I had abdominal surgery in March, and since then, my IC has flared and hasn't stopped. On top of that I'm still having some type of nerve pain from the surgery, and I lost my job. So, stress has been high in our house. My hubby injured himself at work, so he's been home, too.
My hubby can't sit still, even though he is injured- he doesn't let anything stop him. He loves going to concerts, festivals, etc. plus we have a 12 year old that doesn't sit still either....
My problem is, My Dr has me trying all kinds of new meds. It's hard to deal with the side effects, especially when I don't know what they are yet. They make me drowsy, cause headaches, dizzyness, etc. I'm not always able to go out and 'have fun'. I tried a new one last night even, and I'm so dizzy today, I did some things around the house, but I need to sit!
I understand hubbys frustration with me not wanting to go places, or saying I'll go, then at the last minute, backing out. Or just not committing at all, and saying 'maybe I'll go'. It totally frustrates him, and he takes it out on me.
He says things like, 'well I guess we're not going to have any fun this summer'. or 'do you just want to sit around all summer?' or, 'we haven't done anything fun all week'.
I tell him to just take go out and have fun, it's okay. I'll stay home and do yoga, or watch a movie, rest, relax, etc. I really don't mind. But he will NOT go without me. He will stay home and mope instead.
So, last night, I went out when I shouldn't have. I was in so much pain, and was so out of it! (The bathrooms were dirty and out of toilet paper)but I felt it was the lesser of two evils. (to go out in pain vs. stay home and listen to how boring I am, and how I'm never going to do anything this summer, etc)
So, I need an outside perspective...Am I wallowing in self pity, or do I deserve a break? Is this medication clouding my judgement? Is my hubby being childish? Is this verbal abuse? How do I get him to understand?
Please Help by giving me your opinion. thanks for letting me vent :)
I first off have to say that for the most part, my husband is very supportive. He takes me to all of my Doctor appointments, he doesn't complain when we are traveling and I need to use the bathroom frequently.
That being said, I had abdominal surgery in March, and since then, my IC has flared and hasn't stopped. On top of that I'm still having some type of nerve pain from the surgery, and I lost my job. So, stress has been high in our house. My hubby injured himself at work, so he's been home, too.
My hubby can't sit still, even though he is injured- he doesn't let anything stop him. He loves going to concerts, festivals, etc. plus we have a 12 year old that doesn't sit still either....
My problem is, My Dr has me trying all kinds of new meds. It's hard to deal with the side effects, especially when I don't know what they are yet. They make me drowsy, cause headaches, dizzyness, etc. I'm not always able to go out and 'have fun'. I tried a new one last night even, and I'm so dizzy today, I did some things around the house, but I need to sit!
I understand hubbys frustration with me not wanting to go places, or saying I'll go, then at the last minute, backing out. Or just not committing at all, and saying 'maybe I'll go'. It totally frustrates him, and he takes it out on me.
He says things like, 'well I guess we're not going to have any fun this summer'. or 'do you just want to sit around all summer?' or, 'we haven't done anything fun all week'.
I tell him to just take go out and have fun, it's okay. I'll stay home and do yoga, or watch a movie, rest, relax, etc. I really don't mind. But he will NOT go without me. He will stay home and mope instead.
So, last night, I went out when I shouldn't have. I was in so much pain, and was so out of it! (The bathrooms were dirty and out of toilet paper)but I felt it was the lesser of two evils. (to go out in pain vs. stay home and listen to how boring I am, and how I'm never going to do anything this summer, etc)
So, I need an outside perspective...Am I wallowing in self pity, or do I deserve a break? Is this medication clouding my judgement? Is my hubby being childish? Is this verbal abuse? How do I get him to understand?
Please Help by giving me your opinion. thanks for letting me vent :)
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