Medical Power of Attorney

[Teri Registered User Find all posts View Profile Close Teri]

I am wondering how many have signed a durable medical power of attorney? I have been thinking about it alot lately and tonight talked to my hubby about it and found out that my wishes would NOT be followed thru by him so I am definately going to fill out the paper work. I also informed him that he'd better get his in order because after listening to him, I don't think that I could follow his wishes either.

I have had absoluately no control over so many of the things that have happened to me in my life but I DO want some control over how it should end (if given the chance)........

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[SelenaandAj'smommy Member Find all posts View Profile Close SelenaandAj'smommy]

(((TERI)))) I cannot understand why your husband wouldnt want to follow your wishes. I do have a living will as of a year ago. I made it when i was pregnant with my last daughter just in case something hhappeded to me god forbid. This is very insensitive of your husband in my opinion [img]frown.gif[/img]

[ICNDonna ICN Staff Find all posts View Profile Close ICNDonna]

The most important part of this is being sure your family is aware of your wishes --- it is they who will have to make the decisions when your time comes.

Warm hugs,
Donna

[Teri Registered User Find all posts View Profile Close Teri]

We lost my mother in 1993, she was only 63 when she died but she had 6 months to get her 'things in order'. There was me and my 2 sisters left to handle things. For as long as I can remember my mother never wanted to be buried. She wanted to be cremated. Well, my one sister (who was always mom's favorite) could not bear the thought of not having a proper place to go visit my mother so against all of my mothers wishes not only did my sister have her buried, she had her buried in a dress......there was no fighting this sister, she would not budge, right down to the head stone on her grave. My other sister and I completely understood why my mother didn't want to have a plot in the ground that was her resting place....she wanted to be free and to fly with the winds. BUT, my mother never put any of her wishes in writting and had she, she probably would have trusted the sister who did not follow her last request so it wouldn't have mattered anyways.

TO ME IT MATTERS!!!!!!!!!!! I have a very healthy attitude regarding death. I believe it is just a part of the journey we are on. My husband has a gigantic fear of death, he doesn't consider it a nature part of the cycle. He has a grandmother who has been in a nursing home for 15 years now and she doesn't recognize any one in her family. All's she talks about is going home and why won't the Lord let her.....my husbands family thinks she means the 'home' that she lived in before the nursing home. So, I can't be too hard on my hubby because he fears death but I CAN make sure that my wishes are followed!

Darn it!!!!! I have suffered enough over the last 10 years. I can not imagine what my existense would be if something really horrible would happen to me and all of the decisions were left in the hands of a man who completely fears death.

I was with my mother while hospice cared for her and she died with her dignity. I was with my very best friend in the world while hospice cared for her and she also died with her dignity....they both died at home instead of some cold hospital. Now that my daughter has been working in the ICU unit these things are really becoming personal to me and making my wishes known and followed are very very important to me......

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