Husband Wont Post

[Kelli]

I had been talking to my husband about coming on here and posting his feelings about what it's like taking care of someone with IC. What his coping strategies are when I go through a flare, and one of the most important questions for me to have answered, is does he feel ripped off in his marriage.

He did however tell me some things about how he feels and that it's hard for him to see me hurting and knowing he can't do anything to help me. He also told me it wasn't my fault and it wasn't like I had asked for this to happen. He promised me through sickness and health and thats just what he's going to do he said. But I oftentimes wonder if they just say those things because it's what we want to hear, and for him to come in here and say how he feels would mean I would read it and see how he really feels. I'm not saying he's not being honest with me, I just fear that he isn't. We are both young, I am 26 and he is 29. I know that at this age a man has needs. Heck a man at any age has needs, or at least they think they do.....lol I have been hit with the two worst flares I have ever been in right back to back so it's been about a month since we have been able to have intercourse. I know he's getting frustrated and when I have been intimate with him it seems like it's not enough and I don't think he could come on here and say that openly. Just for the simple fact that I could read it if I wanted to. Sometimes he can be the sweetest most caring man I know, other times he's just a man!!

[kenzycodi]

Hey,

I see it like this. He's with you isn't he? Are you feeling insecure about him or insecure with not being the wife you think you should be. If he shows his love and doesn't pressure you to be intimate then I'm sure he means what he says. I will tell something my hubby told me. When I feel bad and it's been a long time I try to be intimate in other ways and he would sorda withdraw. He finally told me that if he can't be with me the way he wants to then he would wait. I guess all that playing around made things worse for him, if you know what i mean... wink As long as your hubby tells you how he feels then don't worry. You may sometimes feel inadequate but to him your not and that's a blessing in itself. Sometimes it takes something like this to know how much you really mean to each other. Sounds like you got a good one and so does he. Take Care!!

Kenzy

[Kelli]

Thank you Kenzy grouphug