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    Well, to start from the beginning to give a better understanding of whats going on, my husband and I separated back in August. We had some issues with trust and obsessive behavior that after 8 years of marriage, just would not work themselves out. No matter what I said to try to reassure him, he wouldn't listen. So, I decided to leave and give him some time to think about things. After all, if you cant trust your spouse, whats the point?
    Well, we have been kinda seeing each other off and on since then. Going out sometimes and I have gone out there and stayed weekends with him trying to work things out. Well, I got pregnant and I guess he just assumed I was going to come back right after that. We had talked about the issues still at hand and even though I was pregnant, those things still had to be resolved. Since, he's started going to counseling once a week. I have been going since before the separation and continue to go every couple of weeks. The last month or so has been awesome!!!!! He's really proved to me that although he still has some issues that need to be worked on, he's willing to continue to work on them. So, as of right now if things continue to go well, we will be moving back in together on March 1st. I really REALLY love this man. If I didn't I wouldn't have tried to work things out. I just pray that things don't go back to the way they used to be. So, keep your fingers crossed for me.

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    Revelation 21:4
    "And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes, and death will be no more, neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore. The former things have passed away."

  • #2
    Hi Kelli, keeping my fingers crossed,and hope that everything works out well for you and your husband. From y0ur post, it looks like you have both been working on getting issues resolved, and working to save your marriage. Good luck and lots of prayers to you and your hubby, hope everything goes well for both of you, hugs Iris. hi angel grouphug
    Today and every day you are loved, so don't be anxious about tomorrow, God will take care of you tomorrow; Live one day at a time.


    • #3
      Wow, Kelli. GOod Luck. I am glad you two decided to work things out.

      My hubby and I seperated after 7 years of marriage - right after our anniversary. My choice. This was before my Dx of IC, but I had it hten. Anyway, it was fun for awhile, and we dated, each other and others, and worked things out. We've been married for 12 years now.

      (of course this last 6 months have been he**)

      But we still love each other deeply and are growing in our faith and trust daily.

      Good For You! You're n my prayers.


      • #4
        Good luck, Kelli!

        Diagnosed August 2001

        Current IC meds: Elmiron (since 2001), Levaquin (one pill after intercourse to prevent UTIs), Effexor (for depression & anxiety)

        Past IC meds: Amitriptyline (Elavil), Hydroxyzine (Vistaril), Detrol LA, Lexapro (for depression & anxiety, but also helped my IC) (They all helped, but I was able to discontinue them.)

        I've been virtually symptom free and able to eat & drink whatever I'd like for about 8 years now.


        “We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.” ~ Viktor Frankl

        “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” ~ Brian Tracy


        • #5

          I hope everything works out well. Good luck with getting back together and the baby!

          Hugs and love,
          Jess grouphug kissing
          Mommy to 2 crazy, wonderful kids and wife to the most amazing man in the world!


          • #6
            I believe that everyone deserves a second chance.
            It's easier to just throu in the towel and walk away, thats why so many marriges fail ( my guess )
            My hubby and I have been married for 10 years now, and yes we 2 had our ups and downs... but hey, that comes with the teritory...right
            Don't let that cute face of mine fool you, I can be a real butthead 2 live with sometimes... lmao
            But hey, I'm worth it and so is my huppy kissing
            Hang in there girls.... grouphug hi
            I promise not to laugh... if you promise not to cry

            Christine .....The GERMAN GIRL ( who can't spell )


            • #7
              Im kinda new here but i jsut wanted to say good luck to you and our husband kelli...good luck with the baby too!!!

              Laura E


              • #8
                Im kinda new here but i jsut wanted to say good luck to you and our husband kelli...good luck with the baby too!!!

                Laura E