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    Hey all,

    Some of you may know my relationship has been very, very tumultous to say the least. Greg has not been happy since being back and having to pay all the bills (about 4 months) and support sick me. He consistently threatened that he would leave, and he has (at my insistence.....the threats and constant verbal abuse were too much to bear).

    I'm not sure where life is gonna lead me, I'm sick as H***, have no income, no savings left, no health insurance and tons of bills that I can no longer pay. I'm gonna rely on my faith in God to help me through this, as well as all my friends.....both have already helped tremendously.

    I know what I have to do, and am gonna start making calls tomorrow (Monday) to try to locate some housing, food, etc.

    On the upside..... (yup, there actually IS one!), I have had a very calm weekend without him here!!!

    Thanx my friends for listening!! I hope y'all are having a low pain weekend!!
    Thank You all so much to everyone here for all your sharing, caring and support!
    < My "Bear"
    Started herbal teas 6/2/06 Marshmallow root, comfrey root, and catnip. 6/25/06 added Mullein Leaf Powder to tea.
    IC Diet
    Hydroxyzine 50 or 100mg at night (Is restarted)
    Zoloft 100mg 4/8/07 (Is restarted)
    Klonopin 1/2 mg 4 X Day (started 3/17/07)
    Past Treatments: Amitriptyline, Neurontin, Hytrin, Heparin instills (was Dc'd after 5 weekly tx's due to severe urethritis), Superior hypogastric plexus block, E-stim, Elmiron instills (started 4/18/06-Dc'd 5/30/06 due to severe urethritis/infection requiring foley cath @ home 4 days), Oxycontin (oxycodone) (4/18/06)-pain (Dc'd 5/31/06), Levsin S/L (hyoscyamine) (3/17/06)-antispasmotic (Dc'd 5/31/06), Elmiron (1/24/06)-(Dc'd 6/25/06), Prelief, Zanaflex 4mg for PFD (Dc'd 10/1/06), CystaQ 1 in am & 1 in pm with food(started 5/12/06-increased to 2 in am & 1 in pm 9/20/06---Dc'd 10/18/06), Lyrica (started 10/26/06 up to 600 mg-Dc'd 12/4/06 due to urinary retention), Vicodin (hydrocodone) ES PRN for pain (Dc'd 1/4/07); Cymbalta 30mg (start 1/17/07) up to 60mg in am (1/26/07) (D/c'd 3/17/07); Ativan 1mg(Lorazepam)- PRN Anxiety (changed to Klonopin 1/2mg 4Xday 3/17/07); Pyridium (phenazopyridine) PRN-bladder analgesic; MSM (6/12/06) 1000mg after breakfast & dinner (Dc'd 3/15/07); Acidophilus (Natrol) 100mg. 1 capsule 1/2 hour before breakfast (5/20/06) (Dc'd 3/17/07)

    Added BACK in - Atarax (hydroxyzine) (started 4/6/06 Dc'd 5/31/06) Restart 50mg at night 8/18/06, up to 100mg at night 1/4/07. Zoloft 100mg-Depression (Dc'd 7/25/06) Restart 4/8/07) 100mg.
    Dx'd: Dec 05 (Positive PST in November and positive cystoscopy in Dec) Symptoms: Pain, frequency, urgency & retention

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  • #2
    I bet you will start feeling a lots better with out the stress of Greg. see if you can get some type of bill consolidation, you can also write the creditors and explain your fininicial sitituation has changed and make pmt arraingements. Get them in writing..
    Sending you big hugs, now you can move forward with your life happily.
    'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'


    • #3
      Keep your chin up, this may just be the best thing for you in the long run


      • #4
        Well Chrissy, I am glad you feel better without him there, it is so hard to be sick and hurting and then have someone there giving you emotional pain to..Its just not worth it.. Yes make them calls tomorrow.. because there is so much help out there its just getting in touch with the right people..

        I will be praying for you and if you need to just talk, I am here for you..


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        • #5
          Hi Chrissy,
          Wishing you the best with the big changes! Sounds like things will be tough for awhile, but much better in the long run. Here is a link to an Oprah article on financial recovery from debt. If you browse around the site too, there are success stories as well that are very inspirational.
          The place for everything in Oprah's world. Get health, beauty, recipes, money, decorating and relationship advice to live your best life on The Oprah Show, O magazine, Oprah Radio, Angel Network, Harpo Films and Oprah's Book Club.

          Sending a hug & wishing you better days soon---

          I am not a medical authority nor do I offer medical advice. In all cases, I strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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          Current treatments:
          -IC diet
          -Elavil 50mg at night
          -Continuous use birth control pills (4-5 periods/year)
          -Heparin/Marcaine/Sodium Bicarb home instills at night 3-4x per week, more often if needed
          -Pyridium if needed,
          -Pain medicine at bedtime daily, as needed during the day several times per week
          -Antibiotic when doing an instillation to prevent UTI
          -Colace & SmartFiber to treat chronic constipation from meds, Fleet enema as needed
          -Dye Free Benadryl 50 mg at bedtime
          -"Your Pace Yoga: Relieving Pelvic Pain" dvd, walking, treadmill at gym
          -Managing stress= VERY important!
          -Fur therapy: Hugging the cat!


          • #6
            As sad as it is to have a relationship end in general, this I just have a feeling will be the best thing that's ever happened to you! It may test your strength, but I have no worries you will manage and do it beautifully!!! This is going to by YOUR time to shine and you will!!!!!!!! Just think of the peace you've already created!!!!

            Sending you lots and lots of hugs and positive thoughts!!!!
            How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time...

            Harry arrived 2/23/09!

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            Vistaril 25mg in the evening
            Previous IC Meds taken:
            Cystoprotek - 2 caps 2x's a day
            Elmiron, 100mg 3x's a day
            Ditropan, 5 mg 3x's a day
            Wellbutrin 150mg 2x's a day for Anxiety/IBS
            Pepcid 40mg a day for GERD
            Zytrec for Nasal Allergies
            Align Probiotic daily for IBS


            • #7
              I am amazed that you can see the bright side. Of course, your name, Chrissy Sunshine says a lot about your outlook. I wish you strength in the coming days. I imagine you will be happier without the abuse - what a terrible cross to have to bear. I pray that you find relief for your debt and some sort of compensation for food and housing not to mention insurance. Blessings


              • #8
                I urge you to apply tomorrow for public assistance. You should qualify with your health problems. And don't let anyone there discourage you from filling in the application.

                You're a strong person --- you'll be okay.

                Warm hugs,
                Stay safe

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                  • #10

                    I know you are going to get through this tough time

                    *Diagnosed with severe IC in 2004
                    *Also diagnosed with PFD, fibromyalgia, chronic myofascial pain, IBS, migraines, allergies/asthma, dermatographism
                    *Kept trying a million different treatments for all these things until I found what works, and I am doing okay these days with the help of a cocktail of medications and the InterStim, which was first placed in 2007. [I have had 2 revisions - one in 2010 when my battery died and had to be replaced, and one complete replacement (lead and generator) in 2012 after a fall on my stairs caused my lead to move.]
                    *Current meds include Atarax (50mg at night), Lyrica (150mg twice a day), Xanax (0.5mg at night and as needed), Zanaflex (4mg at night), hydrocodone (10/325, every 6 hours as needed), Advair, Nasonex, Singulair (10mg at night), oral contraceptives, home instills containing Elmiron and Marcaine (as often as I need to do them).

                    **I am not a medical authority nor do I offer definitive medical advice. I strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.


                    • #11
                      Honey, I have been through something very similar. Please have faith that your life will get better. i too, heard, "i'm leaving" long before it actually happened. i was scared and so worried about everything... after rasing 5 kids! I have had so many of the members here, take care of me online with their hearts and words of encouragement.
                      I hate IC, and I think we are coming close to a good treatment for all of us. My Doc really feels hopeful and that makes me hopeful.

                      Never worry about writing to this wonderful group ogf IC friens. I have needed them and they have helped me. Keep in touch and there is an answer to almost everything here!
                      Love, Katheryn


                      • #12
                        HI, I've been in your shoes with my first husband. He said he was leaving...then didn't.......then did......but he came back for a cpl months when I had to have back surgery. Then he finally moved out. It was awful......but looking back it was the best thing that happened to me. He wasn't a great father or husband. I had IC back then but didn't have a diagnosis, just pain on and off thru the years. I was married for 17 years to him and made my life miserable......Probably part of the IC pain was from having a stressful marriage!
                        Life isn't easy after a split, esp. if there's kids involved, but life does go on and things WILL get better. Use your support system and if you need counseling find a good counselor. Many are sliding scale if you don't have money. Good luck to you! Roxie

                        Double Spinal Cord Stimulator surgery 8/09
                        Unsuccessful MiniArc sling surgery 12/07
                        Dx'd Hypothyroid
                        Dx'd Chronic Axonal Neuropathy & Myopathy
                        June 2007
                        Dx'd IC May 2006 (after suffering for 25+ yrs!)
                        First Cysto 1979
                        First Hydro 1981 (Many treatments since then!)
                        Collagin"Durasphere" injections for urethra
                        Gall bladder surgery Aug. 2004
                        Gastric Bypass Dec. 2004
                        Dx'd: Barrett's Esphogus July 2004
                        Dx'd: Vaginal Atrophy 2005
                        Bladder surgery 2000
                        Dx'd: IBS 2000
                        Hysterectomy (fibroids) 1999
                        Laminectomy 1989
                        Dx'd: Degerative Disk Disorder 1989

                        For IC I use Elmiron, Elavil and Freeze dried Aloe Vera (it works likes Elmiron, but naturally)and Azo as needed. I also take Zegerid, Randitine for Barrett's Esophagus. (which causes me to have constant yeast infections!)I take Cymbalta for Neuopathy/Myopathy pain. I use the Climara patch for menopause symptoms. I'm on a very strict diet because of the IC, IBS and Gastric Bypass. I take Primal Defense Probiotics and whole food Iron.
                        I no longer have the awful urethral pain! I've been using MSM gel now for 4 mo. and haven't had a flare up or the urethra's amazing stuff!!:woohoo:


                        • #13
                          I'm sorry to hear this but if you are happier or calmer without him there then maybe you are better off. Donna is right about the public assaitance. Not sure where you live but you could also get Medicaid and they will pay for all your medical needs. Lots of paper work but well worth it. Medicaid is how I get all my medical needs and meds paid for. Good luck with everything. You might try for Section 8 too. (they pay the rent) They have a list wait but you would be a special case since you need a home soon.


                          • #14

                            dont be so quick to tell everyone they can get medicaid, apply for low housing, etc. I live in the dc suburbs where the cost of living is astronomical. you are considered poor if you dont make over $60,000 as a single person. when i got ic i spent almost a year finding a doctor to diagnose me and when i got disability it was only part of my salary. i eventually applied for social security and got it 2 years later. when i got medicare i found out it did not cover prescriptions and elmiron was very expensive. anyway i was not making enough money to live around here but because i had worked all my life they said "I made too much to qualify for medicaid." so i was between a rock and a hard place. they also said i made "too much to qualify for housing but, in reality, did not make enough to survive without roommates, etc." you have to look at each individual situation. I got a real rude awakening as to what happens to people who get chronically sick.
                            Last edited by mayray; 03-23-2007, 03:43 AM. Reason: spelling


                            • #15
                              She has no money of any kind or a place to live. She could go into one of those housing places for battered women and from there they would get the housing support going. I do know not everyone can get medicaid if you are working but if you have no money at all you can get it. I get SSI and still have the medicaid. Just depends on how much the person makes but worth a try. I know people who have Section 8 and they drive brand new licolns and those suburban things. They make a good living with the jobs they have.