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    Hi everyone. I'm new here.. I have IC and my husband and I are trying to conceive our first child.. I also have endometriosis and pelvic floor dysfunction. The problem is, we've been trying for a few months but having sex is very difficult. We usually don't have sex at all because of the intense pain that we haven't been able to come up with a solution for.. I've tried physical therapy, exercizes, astroglide, preseed, different positions (the ones that feel OK - okay as in pain but not as bad - usually involve less penetration so are probably not very effective for TTC)..

    Does anyone have any tips for making sex more bearable for the purpose of TTC? A lot of tips are about ways to still be intimate, etc., but this is kinda different I guess and I figure there are probably many moms here who might have some advice. Thanks!

  • #2
    Well I have endo and now I have IC but I wasn't diagnoised when I got pregnant, not even sure if I had it then honestly since that was three years ago. I know that now one of the positions that is best for us that we actually discovered when I was very pregnant is spooning. Laying on your side and he is laying on his side behind you. This doesn't cause shallow penatration for us so maybe you want to try it. I know this may sound crazy for some but doggy actually works really welll for as well if I can angle my butt just right he totally misses my bladder all together and I really don't have any pain at all so this is one of my favorites. Hope this helps some and good luck !

    I have been diagnoised for 6 1/2 years now. I have taken a long break from the ICN but really miss helping out my fellow IC patients and want to get back into posting.
    1st hydro 4/07 showed no visible signs of IC but tons of mast cells in all my biopsy samples which did prove IC.
    2nd hydro 4/13/09 showed dark purple glomerulations and I had a capacity of 450 cc's. This hydro proved that my IC had progressed.
    I have tried every oral medication as well as rescue instills and DMSO.

    I have been lucky enough to see Dr Hanno, the top IC specialist in PA who has told me due to the fact that I have not responded to any "standard" treatments that I have a severe, end stage case of IC with a horrible quality of life (didn't have to tell me that last part!)

    Proud wifey of Shane, mommy to Griffin, and step-mom to Logan and Gage
    Also proud mom to the best Bullmastiff on earth, Claus


    • #3

      Have you talked with your Doctor about this? Perhaps He/She coud help you out with this.

      You could try just having sex at your most fertile point. You can learn how to chart your ovulation and time it just right so you are TCC near the few days before ovulation. You can also buy the fertility sticks that tell you when your most fertile days are. We TTC for 3 years and we only had sex when we absolutely had to. Having sex every day is a myth and it's really not necessary. It also depends on the sperm count as to when they suggest that you have sex. There are tons of books and websites out there to aid you along your journey. Private Message me if you'd like.

      Good Luck to You!

      Sending Baby Dust your way!

      Complex Case: Severe IC 1999, Interstim 2001, Endometriosis 2001, End Stage Refractory IC 2002, Bladder Removal (Cystectomy) 2002, Gall Bladder Removal 2005, Infertility 2003, Urethra Removal, Bladder Reconstruction (Urethrectomy/Indiana Pouch) 2006, Celiac Disease 2007, Adhesion Disease 2007, Pudendal Nerve Entrapment, Ovarian Cysts, Vestibulitis, Vulvodynia, Total Vestibulectomy and removal of both Skene's Glands, 2007 and Coccydynia 2007. Fibromyalgia and, Chronic Myofascial Pain Syndrome both in my neck and knees, 2007, PNE Decompression Operation May, 2009.Multiple Chemical Sensitivities, Anesthesia Awareness (to awaken during operations)Pudendal Nerve Decompression Surgery, Revrse Uterine Sling, Sept. 2011

      "One hour at a time, this was NOT my American Dream but it has to work out somehow."

      I also have some journals of my journeys, past and some present at: and

      Most of my Journaling now is currently on Facebook. These are old and my ICN Patient story is very old and outdated.


      • #4
        luckily dh and I conceived our two with just one sexual encounter each.. I tried to time it a few days before I conceived.. and I was lucky... lots of lube pain killers and the such.. and I was in a lot of pain afterwards, but I have my two kids now.. good luck to you hon
        Healing thoughts



        • #5
          talk to your dr. my ob/gyn is married to a urologist, so he understands more about IC than the average ob/gyn. if your dr is willing, perhaps you could do IUIs if sex is too painful. it's intra-uterine insemination. right at the time of ovulation (monitored with ultrasounds, blood work, and ovulation sticks), they can wash and spin the sperm to get just the best ones. then put them into your uterus through a small flexible catheter. no intercourse. but the "boys" get there just the same. it's a bit technical and not at all romantic. but it gets the job done with minimal pain. we've done a few IUIs, and the only pain i had was some cramping right after the procedure, and one time my cervix had shifted, so they had to really work hard to find it. unfortunately, i have uterus issues, so i'll never be able to conceive (learned that after several years of trying). but the IUIs were much easier on my body than traditional intercourse.

          the only problem with medical assistance is the cost. insurance usually doesn't pay. at least it didn't for us. so we could only afford a few cycles worth of treatment.

          my ob/gyn did give me a brochure about IC and sex. i don't know where he got it, but it had some great tips. you might ask your dr about it.
          IC dx in 2003 after depot lupron
          endometriosis dx in 2002 after years of infertility and pelvic pain
          graves disease dx in 1998 after thyroid storm


          currently trying vesicare and following the ho-hum "if it has any taste at all, spit it out" IC diet


          • #6
            ladies, please go and check out there are all kinds of boards for different aspects on things. I really think you would get a lot of great and useful information. We all like to joke and take it seriously, it is very comfortable there
            'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'


            • #7
              I am right with you....I too have endo and IC and now IBS>..

              my husband and I are trying to conceive too.....and I notice after a couple days of sex I start to get uncomfortable. I just deal with it cause there is nothing else that I know.

              Diagnosed with IC 3-30-2003

              Flare ups 1 time a month lasts for days.