As many of you may remember, I had a cystoscopy this week which has basically thrown me into a flare that is still going strong. My poor hubby was really in need of some lovin' if you know what I mean. Even though I knew it was probably going to make my flare worse I told him I wanted to have sex.
Here's where the frustration comes in.....about a month ago the doctor put hubby on Paxil because he was having ALOT of anxiety. The paxil has worked wonders on his anxiety, he feels a lot better and he is sleeping the best he has the whole time that we've been together. But from what we have read paxil has one of the highest risks for sexual side effects of all antidepressants. Sooooo, hubby has no probably become aroused but he can't climax. So we had sex for almost an hour and I'm hurting like crazy, feeling like I'm going to die and he doesn't even feel like he is close to finishing. He asks if I'm okay, I really can't lie at this point, so I say, I'm not okay, so of course he wants to stop because he feels horrible that I'm in pain. But then I feel horrible because he didn't climax and hasn't in over a week. I tried to help him manually but this didn't work either. Now he's depressed and upset and I'm in pain and didn't even make my hubby happy for my pain!!!! He mentioned this to the doctor and the doctor basically said it might get better but he feels that he reallys needs to stay on the paxil and doesn't want to change it. UGH!!!!!
Here's where the frustration comes in.....about a month ago the doctor put hubby on Paxil because he was having ALOT of anxiety. The paxil has worked wonders on his anxiety, he feels a lot better and he is sleeping the best he has the whole time that we've been together. But from what we have read paxil has one of the highest risks for sexual side effects of all antidepressants. Sooooo, hubby has no probably become aroused but he can't climax. So we had sex for almost an hour and I'm hurting like crazy, feeling like I'm going to die and he doesn't even feel like he is close to finishing. He asks if I'm okay, I really can't lie at this point, so I say, I'm not okay, so of course he wants to stop because he feels horrible that I'm in pain. But then I feel horrible because he didn't climax and hasn't in over a week. I tried to help him manually but this didn't work either. Now he's depressed and upset and I'm in pain and didn't even make my hubby happy for my pain!!!! He mentioned this to the doctor and the doctor basically said it might get better but he feels that he reallys needs to stay on the paxil and doesn't want to change it. UGH!!!!!

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