A newly wed and no sex...oouch!

[MelissaM]

You guys are right... it is soo good to have a such a supportive husband..and i am def going to talk to my Dr. about all the different options mentioned. Im glad i can bring some ideas to him instead of just not knowing what to say or do...
Thanks again!!!! This site is great!

[jesamyn]

To try to look at the positive side of the situation is hard, but having a partner in life means leaning on them when you feel ill or weak, or are in pain. This is something that I am still struggling with and I am getting married in 4 months! It's ok if you and your partner can't be together in a physical way...I am sure this is not why they are with you, or married you! Besides, there are other fun things that can be done:woohoo:

Give it a try, getting creative with your loved one can help bring back some control to the situation, to feel like you are taking care of that person and to ignite that spark that I am sure is there...I should take my own advice! It is hard, though...especially since so many women with IC feel isolated, don't give up!

Jesamyn

[MelissaT]

I know exactally how you feel. It doen't seem like anyone else understands how bad it hurts. I have suffered from ic for about 20 years. Just daignosed about 2 years ago. I also have a lot of pain with sex. My husband is great. Very supportave. My dr. has perscribed lidocane jell to make sex a little more comfortable. Also, I do home bladder instillations, which numb the bladder, about 30 minutes before. Pain medication also helps. I wish there was more I could tell you to do but this is all I know. I hope it helps.
Melissa

[MelissaM]

Thank you guys so much for all the great information and support.. sometimes you feel so alone..

[Sarojini]

Hi and

Many of us have problems with sex -- I get pain afterwards (sometimes during as well), but don't have the infection problem so much. However, others here definitely do experience that, and yes, they do take an antibiotic before/after sex just to try to prevent the infection in the first place.

Have you checked out the "Tips for Great IC Sex" thread here? It's at http://www.ic-network.com/forum/showthread.php?t=22522

There are a lot of tips listed, and other users have chimed in on what works and what doesn't work for them. There may be something that works for you there.

[tigger_gal]

Hi Melisa.
Please come join us at whensexhurts.com
When you join, you will have to be approved by the leader. I think you will get a great deal of info and help over there.

[MelissaM]

Thanks for the advice! I am definitly going to check out that website! I think i'll ask my Dr. about having some meds on hand... i didn't know you could do that..
The Dr.'s around here dont know alot about IC. I am from the Maritimes in Canada.. and no ones seems to know much about it here, which is fusterating. So hopefully i will be able to bring some information from this great website to my Dr and be able to help myself out.
Thanks again..

[GriffsMommy]

Melissa,
So sorry you're having so many problems as a newly wed. I can relate. I have had pelvic pain issues since around the time I met my hubby and we've been married a little over three years. It is def frustrating when sex hurts so much. I know there are some great threads in this section about things to make sex more comfortable, lubricant being one of them. There is also another website run by our fearless leader Jill www.whensexhurts.com you might want to check that out as well. I have also heard from other members that some are on preventative antibiotics that they take everytime they have sex to prevent an infection, you might want to talk to your dr about that. My main complaint is pain, not infection and using lubricant, taking some AZO before and some pain meds after have helped me a lot, still not totally pain free but a lot more comfortable.

[MelissaM]

Hi Everyone, I am a newly wed, i got married Feb 25th last year, the night of my wedding i remember... not having sex with my husband, but sitting on the toilet thinking i had to pee... cuz something wasn't right... i didn't feel right and fell asleep... turns out a few months later i was diagnosed with IC. My husband annd i are newly weds and we have had sex MAYBE 10, 15 times? Praise the Lord he is so understanding but this sucks! Everytime i get enough courage to try, it hurts soooo bad, OR if it doesn't hurt, the next day im peeing blood with an AWFUL infection.. anyone else get that?
What a nightmare for newly weds huh?