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When Sex Hurts
I just wanted to share this with everyone.
When we think of sex hurting we automatically think of a physical action,
but let me share this, when sex hurts its not only physical it can also be psychological. Sex is a strong word in a relationship, we grow up thinking that sex is just a part of relationship, and that we are just suppose to do it.
Sex is a powerful tool. It can mess with your mind and body in all sorts of ways. When we think of sex hurting we automatically relate it to penetration, but in some people that’s not the case at all. I believe that sex plays a powerful part on our emotions.
When we have sex with our partners and we both are pleasured we get a since of achievement, but when only one of us are pleasured then sometimes resentment builds up. And when this happens then it can start affecting our relationship. So this is one way sex can hurt, when the other just thinks of themselves not worrying about helping the other achieve their goal.
When your partner goes outside of the relationship.
This can really play with our minds, I think the first response is to blame ourselves, thinking we did something wrong or maybe was just not satisfying our partners enough. But that is not true at all, when a partner strays. I really believe it’s just a selfish act on their part, or it could truly be something more severe like an addiction, sex addition is real and does happen. And it can ruin a marriage or relationship, so this is another way sex can hurt.
Another way sex can hurt is when one or the other has a difficult time getting aroused; this can stir a lot of emotions. It can make us start doubting our self worth and make us feel like less of a person. When this happens we seem to pull away from our partner, sometimes we even feel like our partner would be better off without us.
Pain during intercourse can be caused by a number of problems, including IC, endometriosis, a pelvic mass, ovarian cysts, vaginitis, poor lubrication, the presence of scar tissue from surgery or a sexually transmitted disease. A condition called vaginismus is a painful, involuntary spasm of the muscles that surround the vaginal entrance. It may occur in women who fear that penetration will be painful and also may stem from a sexual phobia or from a previous traumatic or painful experience. And yes sex hurts if you have any kind of physical pain with any of these conditions.
I guess my point being is I would hope that people would read this and realize there are so many ways sex can hurt us. Jill has worked hard on building the WSH website and I hope you all would consider joining so maybe you could share your experiences with people who have become down and depressed and who need some emotional support. When sex hurts it’s a whole body experience. Sex does not mean just intercourse..
I hope you come and check out the wonderful site WSH.
Thanks
Ronda
I just wanted to share this with everyone.
When we think of sex hurting we automatically think of a physical action,
but let me share this, when sex hurts its not only physical it can also be psychological. Sex is a strong word in a relationship, we grow up thinking that sex is just a part of relationship, and that we are just suppose to do it.
Sex is a powerful tool. It can mess with your mind and body in all sorts of ways. When we think of sex hurting we automatically relate it to penetration, but in some people that’s not the case at all. I believe that sex plays a powerful part on our emotions.
When we have sex with our partners and we both are pleasured we get a since of achievement, but when only one of us are pleasured then sometimes resentment builds up. And when this happens then it can start affecting our relationship. So this is one way sex can hurt, when the other just thinks of themselves not worrying about helping the other achieve their goal.
When your partner goes outside of the relationship.
This can really play with our minds, I think the first response is to blame ourselves, thinking we did something wrong or maybe was just not satisfying our partners enough. But that is not true at all, when a partner strays. I really believe it’s just a selfish act on their part, or it could truly be something more severe like an addiction, sex addition is real and does happen. And it can ruin a marriage or relationship, so this is another way sex can hurt.
Another way sex can hurt is when one or the other has a difficult time getting aroused; this can stir a lot of emotions. It can make us start doubting our self worth and make us feel like less of a person. When this happens we seem to pull away from our partner, sometimes we even feel like our partner would be better off without us.
Pain during intercourse can be caused by a number of problems, including IC, endometriosis, a pelvic mass, ovarian cysts, vaginitis, poor lubrication, the presence of scar tissue from surgery or a sexually transmitted disease. A condition called vaginismus is a painful, involuntary spasm of the muscles that surround the vaginal entrance. It may occur in women who fear that penetration will be painful and also may stem from a sexual phobia or from a previous traumatic or painful experience. And yes sex hurts if you have any kind of physical pain with any of these conditions.
I guess my point being is I would hope that people would read this and realize there are so many ways sex can hurt us. Jill has worked hard on building the WSH website and I hope you all would consider joining so maybe you could share your experiences with people who have become down and depressed and who need some emotional support. When sex hurts it’s a whole body experience. Sex does not mean just intercourse..
I hope you come and check out the wonderful site WSH.
Thanks
Ronda
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