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  • Does your S/O understand??

    Does your signifant other understand what you are going through?? Or do they get frustrated that you are in pain.

    Diagnosed with IC 3-30-2003

    Flare ups 1 time a month lasts for days.

  • #2
    My husband does understand. He is always here for me with a hug and understanding.

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    • #3
      It took my husband a while to completely understand; it took making him accompany me to a Dr's appt and seeing/hearing for himself the discussion between me and Dr.

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      • #4
        My husband has been there from the beginning he seen what I went through with the hydro/cysto and when my bladder ruptured..He has went to almost every visit and seen pictures of what my bladder looks like..So I will say he understands completely...

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        • #5
          My husband understands but I still don't think he "really knows". I mean this causes problems with our sex life together sometimes. And I feel bad. I mean there are times when I can not have anything inside of me cause of the burning and pain. Not the way I am sure he wanted our relationship to go.

          Diagnosed with IC 3-30-2003

          Flare ups 1 time a month lasts for days.


          • #6
            I think my hubby trys to undestands, but he just don't understand the extent of the pain I am going thru.
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            • #7
              My hubby also "tries" to understand, but doesn't really get it. I mean it's been 13 years and he will still ask me what's wrong when I'm in pain. Or why can't we do this or that. It's really tough, sometimes I tell him that I just wish he could go one week feeling what I feel, because I know he would go completely out of his mind!


              I'm 47 years old, married 27 years. I have two wonderful boys and two wonderful grandchildren. I was diagnosed in 1994. Life has certainly thrown me many many surprises, all of which I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful, and I try to think about my blessings not my misfortunes, when possible. Stay Strong!


              • #8
                I am very fortunate, my hubby is very understanding and compassionate. He is always doing as much as he can to help me to feel better, I mean he will go out of his way and not even ever complian. He is a God send to me. I do as much as I can for him as well, well what I am able to do. He is a teacher and I organize all his grading on the computer system which saves him alot of time. I also do alot of his grading for him. So we are a good team I would say. I could not do it without him.


                • #9
                  I too am fortunate to have a great supportive spouse! Makes things easier and he would do anything in the world for me


                  • #10
                    I wound up losing my spouse after the IC diagnosis and its effect on our sex life. We had other problems too, and he was not ever remotely understanding. I am actually thankful he is gone now so when I do find someone, it is someone who loves me for who I am.

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                    • #11
                      My husband has a good understanding of chronic pain because he has really bad problems with his ears so they ALWAYS hurt. But somehow he has adjusted to the pain where I just can't adjust and live with pain, I want it to go away.

                      The sex part can really suck and he understands why I can't do it sometimes but it is hard for him of course. There are so many days that I wish I was a normal wife

                      I have been diagnoised for 6 1/2 years now. I have taken a long break from the ICN but really miss helping out my fellow IC patients and want to get back into posting.
                      1st hydro 4/07 showed no visible signs of IC but tons of mast cells in all my biopsy samples which did prove IC.
                      2nd hydro 4/13/09 showed dark purple glomerulations and I had a capacity of 450 cc's. This hydro proved that my IC had progressed.
                      I have tried every oral medication as well as rescue instills and DMSO.

                      I have been lucky enough to see Dr Hanno, the top IC specialist in PA who has told me due to the fact that I have not responded to any "standard" treatments that I have a severe, end stage case of IC with a horrible quality of life (didn't have to tell me that last part!)

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                      • #12
                        My husband does the "trying" thing too. It goes as far as "how are you feeling today" ..."OH--what's for dinner?" After being sick himself recently he has been alot more understanding. In his own way I do see him trying, which makes me feel better. I would think all S/O's get frustrated when you don't get better. It's hard on everyone.


                        • #13
                          That is how mine is too. Unless I am almost in tears he does not truly truly understand. He is a good man though. I do wish we could have our S/O feel our pain and discomfort and how we live. Just for one day.

                          Diagnosed with IC 3-30-2003

                          Flare ups 1 time a month lasts for days.


                          • #14
                            Ditto Inlove I feel the same way


                            • #15
                              I've been blessed with a amazing hubby, he now can see the pain in my eye's , and aske's what he can get me for relief.
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