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Hey friends,
I've been doing pretty well with managing my IC on-and-off for more than a year now,and I've got a really lovely understanding partner whom I've been with for about a year and a half (woah!). I am having a really, really hard time getting my libido back up, though; it's never recovered from before I had IC. I used to enjoy sex and, while I didn't have a tonne of it, I liked it and sought it out from partners happily.
Now it feels like a tonne of work to even work up the idea of wanting it, even with a partner that I love and trust and am attracted to. I think it's because I'm always afraid it will hurt (and it often does a little bit) and that totally turns me off.
So I'm thinking of trying to get a book to help me out with this; something to do with IC and dealing with painful sex. What books do y'all recommend? I am thinking of "When Sex Hurts" by Dr. Goldstein, or "Silent Suffering", but I'm open to suggestions! What has worked for you guys?
I've been doing pretty well with managing my IC on-and-off for more than a year now,and I've got a really lovely understanding partner whom I've been with for about a year and a half (woah!). I am having a really, really hard time getting my libido back up, though; it's never recovered from before I had IC. I used to enjoy sex and, while I didn't have a tonne of it, I liked it and sought it out from partners happily.
Now it feels like a tonne of work to even work up the idea of wanting it, even with a partner that I love and trust and am attracted to. I think it's because I'm always afraid it will hurt (and it often does a little bit) and that totally turns me off.
So I'm thinking of trying to get a book to help me out with this; something to do with IC and dealing with painful sex. What books do y'all recommend? I am thinking of "When Sex Hurts" by Dr. Goldstein, or "Silent Suffering", but I'm open to suggestions! What has worked for you guys?