Teasing, Not!!!

[songbird7]

This is about friends. They like to banter and tease . They tried it with me about the way I folded some towel *wrong* in their opinion and didn't want to learn how to do it *right*. I totally lost it. I told them they had no idea how it was for me trying to get through each day. The teasing felt like criticism and I let them know to me this is not fun. Another friend said, "you're just too sensitive." What do you all make of this

[Ruthie]

Hi songbird,

Sometimes we all get sensitive, especially when we have the feeling of having to have to urinate night and day.

Yep, I am sensitive too... I have heard it all my life from my family especially.

Got teased alot in childhood, you know glasses, geek, four eyes. Stupid huh! Kids can be so darn mean.

Your friend probably didn't mean anything by it, You are you, accept yourself for the way that you are.

I felt bad when I ran into an old friend, a comment was made that hurt my feelings too, lately it seems with the things I have dealt with, that I can sometimes be too darn sensitive.

Anyway, hugs to you, we are all human, and some of us I guess, are more sensitive than others.

You just have to let it go and don't sweat the small stuff...




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Ruthie : )

[yvette]

Oh Dear Songbird, Your friends seem to be a bit hmmmmmm.......IMMATURE!!! OK so you're a little sensative...so what?! C'mon kids, we're talking TOWELS, who cares how a towel is folded, if they think its so important tell em they can fold all your laundry. Personally I would have told them where to stick that towel....behave Yvette!

Laura's right, don't sweat the small stuff--and its ALL small stuff! I think you're entitled to feel how you feel witht ridicule, that's what friend are for, to support you, not tear you down. If they really are your friends, I'm sure they don't mean to hurt you, they're just being playful. I think its just they don't have to think about IC everyday and every moment which leaves them a little insensitive as to your mood and feelings. At the same turn, with all the pain from IC, its hard to be a litte thick-skinned when you're actually feeling quite raw and vunerable from life in general. Hang in there, and don't be afraid to give em a zinger right back!!!
Lots of comforting hugs,
y.

[songbird7]

Thank you everyone. I'd been feeling terible and guilty because I kind of jumped down these people's throats. I later told them I was sensitive from chronic illness but hadn't heard anything back from them. These are casual friends but still, I don't want bad feelings between myself and them. I had been so exhausted all day from coping with IC. You are right. Better not to even mention chronic illness. They don't get it and they don't want to. Because IC is *an invisible disability* people just don't get it.