Family dinner Blowup!

[Marsupials]

Before i start screaming Ill give you a short history to understand my family. My parents my husbands paretns and my hausband out ver supportive of my IC. My brother is 29 and im 25.
yesterday a tottal blowout happend at family dinner. I was already havinga horrible day. went to church stood for 2 hours in heals back up singing for song service and tehn proceeded to stand a teach my childrens church class. then we had a family picture time which im sure everyone knows sucks enough especially with 2 dogs! After that i was starting to have horrible pain. but still proceeded to try and be nice and play video games with my brother and husband. (Which my brotther always begs me to do) ANyway so iwas trying my best to hold myself together we were called to dinner and when i got up it hurt more . so i went inot the kithcen and kinda squated on the floor. now on teh verge of tears my brother comes up and kicks me. i ask him not to do it again. and he proceeded to say" whats wrong with you!" my father said she dosent feel good. since i was on the verge fo tears already im sure all of you know that if anyone touches you it justs sets you off. i said to my brother "you try liiving withh this desease !" and i ran out crying in pain and frustrated . my husband came with me trying to console me. Im in a difernt room now and my btother is yelling tp my parents."i have gone trough stomach pain back pain and things for years and i deal with it" he kept going and i actually had to plug my ears i coulnt take it anymore. teh thing is i ahve never asked for sympothy from my brother or any help at all . all ia sked was not to be kicked when i didnt feel good. and i realize that other people have problems too. but again i wasent asking him for anything! why dosent he understand????????? ti drives me crazy!!!!!!!!
when he said hes had problems to most of his life, well i can say to that so have i! since i was 16 i have all kinds of problems!!!!!!!!! he is so insensitive!!!!! and he dosent understand!!!
when it comes to my brother hes imature insinsative, and he just dosent get it. i feel like im talking to a wall when i speack to him most of the time. <img src="graemlins/banghead.gif" border="0" alt="[banghead]" />

anyone have family members like this?

thanks for letting me blow of steam. i know i had allot.

[Missie]

(((((((((((((((Marci)))))))))))))))))))))

I am so sorry your brother was being so insensitive. Besides my mother, dad and husband..the rest of my family kinda just ignores me and my disease. In a way I'm glad.
I hope you get to feelin better soon!
Sending lots of hugs,

[Maureen]

Not to say your brother was insensitive but some people do not know how to say sorry and feel embarrassed when they do something stupid. They then try to back paddle by making a comment "well I have pain or whatver too..".
Just a thought.

[yvette]

Is your brother retarded? What grown man of the age of 29 KICKS his sister. His chronically ill sister at that!

If my brother ever pulled a stunt like that, let me tell it would go over like a lead ballon. You should've turned around and sucker-punched him in the family jewels...I've heard IC for men is akin to something like that. UGGGHHHHH,

Sorry, just makes me so mad to hear you got treated like that. You should just at least ask him what his major malfunction is.

GRRRRRRRRR!! <img src="graemlins/cussing.gif" border="0" alt="[cussing]" /> [img]mad.gif[/img] <img src="graemlins/cussing.gif" border="0" alt="[cussing]" /> [img]mad.gif[/img] <img src="graemlins/cussing.gif" border="0" alt="[cussing]" />

[Kara]

My hubby used to bite me for fun. After I got IC, I told him he had to stop biting me b/c it hurt more than ever. I think when we are in pain our bodies pain responses are at their highest, like were are in a fight response and then when someone comes by and touches us or kicks us or bites us, we respond with horrible OUCH PAIN!!!!!
I know how you feel.....It sucks when family doesn't get it. One of my best friends from college asked me once (even though she knows I have been through hell and back) "why do you have to sit on the toilet for so long? What's Wrong with you???"

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I tell ya!!!

It sucks,

Kara [img]frown.gif[/img]

[Teri]

{{{{{Marci}}}}} First of all, yvette and I, even tho we have never even met, are identical twins when it comes to our mouths <img src="graemlins/cussing.gif" border="0" alt="[cussing]" /> [img]biggrin.gif[/img]

While reading your post all's I wanted to do was be sitting with you. I had an episode today, that I caused myself by pushing way too hard and ended up having a cry fest for about an hour...KNOWING that I've got the holidays with the same kind of family your brother is ahead of me. What helps me the most is this board, being able to remind myself that when I've collapsed in a heap and am crying my eyes out, there is another ICer doing the exact same thing somewhere.

My heart aches for you because I have the same insensitive A.H. son/stepsons as your brother and they are just a tad bit older than him. Maybe a group of us could get them all in a room and squeeze the family jewels until the neighbors call the police because of the screaming coming from the house.....maybe then they would get the hint and even if they didn't, we'd at least have had a good time [img]wink.gif[/img]

You are not alone and never will be again.....

tons of gentle hugs~

[Marsupials]

Thanks for all teh replies. I think that was the first time i have laughed today.
unfortunantly my brother is still imature and treats me like were still kids. oh , for the day that he actually grows up!

[Patrice]

Sweetie, I don't have family like that thank God, but I do have coworkers who said behind my back things like Suck it Up, she thinks she's the only one with problems, it's all in her head, blah blah blah. Thing is I've had back pain, stomach pain, surgery pain, and NOTHING compares to this. I tell people it's like earache or sinus infection pain times 10 (if asked). Also, I never bothered those people with my problems, they just eaves dropped on phone conversations or saw me walking slowly (for dramatic purposes of course!). Anyway, hopefully your brother was just having a dorky day. Sounds like your parents are good! Just wanted you to know I understand!

[Prinny Joy]

Sorry to hear!

My in-laws haven't been very nice at all. My being sick has made them wher I am beneath my husband. Discrimination unfortunatly occurs w/ family. I'm sorry for your heart and I have had a heard time w/ how I feel as well regarding this issue so I will hope you feel better as I know I am famous for my snapping when I'm in that situation. Be well and PEACE and JOY I do understand.

[dancemomof2]

I am in total aggreance with Yvette, what a moron to kick you feeling so crappy. Even if you were totally healthy what a moron at his age he know better then that. Hey tell him th WV hillbilly wonder is PMS'ing and would love to tackle him for you.

[ICNDonna]

This is a very old thread. Hope things have worked out by now.

Donna

[July]

Hi Marsupials! We are neighbors! Wheaton is right next door. So sorry to hear about your rude brother. Sounds like a little kid who is looking for attention. Hard to believe he is going on 30.

[mayray518]

Ask him how he would like to pee 50 times a day and have his "you know what" burn and ache all the time. You can also read my story on this site "Never Give Up" by Teresa; I think it will give you some insight into the fact that we have all gone through this with family members. I am glad your husband was supportive of you.