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  • (Cricket) Our Loved Ones Carry A Heavy Load

    "Pray don't find fault with the man who limps
    or stumbles along the road,
    unless you have worn the shoes he wears
    or struggled beneath his load.
    There may be tacks in his shoes that hurt,
    though hidden away from view,
    or the burden he bears, placed on your back
    might cause you to stumble too.
    Don't sneer at the man who's down today
    unless you have felt the blow
    that cause his fall or felt the shame
    that only the fallen know.
    You may be strong, but still the blows
    that were his if dealt to you,
    in the selfsame way, at the selfsame time,
    might cause you to stagger too."

    ~Author Unknown

    When family and friends let you down, show them compassion.

    We all know how hard it is to live with chronic illness. Think about how hard it must be for those who love us, and who care about us, and who can do nothing to take the illness away. As difficult as it is for us to live with the physical pain, I think it's much more difficult for those who care about us to live with the emotional pain of watching us suffer.

    As supportive as some loved ones may be, or try to be, how frustrating it must be for them. There was a time when my husband's kind, and loving, and tender support was, over the years, replaced by anger and rage. When he finally opened up and poured out all that he'd been holding inside, I understood how much heavier his burden was/is compared to mine. He told me how inadequate he felt as a husband, and as a friend, because there was nothing he could do to take the pain away. All he could offer me was support, and instead of letting him know that he gave me strength, I took his love for granted. I added to his burden by failing to tell him how much I appreciated his hugs, his kisses, the gentle and kind words. I focused on myself and was blind to his suffering.

    We aren't in this alone. Everything we do affects those around us. We know how heavy our burdens are. Now is the time to take a moment to think about how heavy the load is for those who love us. You can take away a little of their burden by letting them know that even the tiniest bit of support helps a lot.

    "You may be strong, but still the blows
    that were his if dealt to you,
    in the selfsame way, at the selfsame time,
    might cause you to stagger too."

    With Love,
    "The beauty of the human mind over the body is that if you can't run, you can walk; if you can't walk, you can crawl; if you can't crawl - stay still and imagine getting there. ~ Johnnetta B. Cole ~"

  • #2
    Cricket --- you are soooo right. I didn't realize how difficult it was for my husband until he had some surgery and said to me, "Now it's your turn." I must have looked at him like he might be crazy because he just smiled and said he meant it was my turn to worry.

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    • #3
      Thanks for the reminder Cricket (or I should say, thanks for the kick in the a$$)

      hugs my Friend~
      Courage does not always roar. Sometimes, it is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow".


      • #4
        Thank you Cricket ~ you are so right. I have realized lately that, since my father-in-law has been having severe heart problems, every time I talk to my dear mother-in-law, I always ask about him, sometimes w/o even thinking to ask about her. I know my hubby goes through the same thing. I have started making a point of being more caring and loving to her, the one who loves and supports my FIL so well. Our loved ones suffer too, and sometimes feel guilty about their pain, as if they have no right to suffer. Thanks so much for the reminder - I think I need to give my dh a huge hug and kiss when he gets home tonight. You are such a blessing, Cricket. Sometimes the truth is painful to look at, but truth is life to those who seek to be made whole!
        Blessings and gentle hugs,
        "It is God who arms me with strength and makes my way perfect. He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; He enables me to stand on the heights."
        Psalm 18:32 - 33


        • #5
          Thanks Cricket for reopening my eyes about these things. I try to tell my husband and daughters how much I appreciate the love and support they give to me, but fall way short at times. My daughter works at a cancer center and she was trained to not only treat the patient,but the family as well. I cannot tell you how many hugs and thanks she has gotten from the families of sick ones. It makes her job alittle easier at times. Thanks again and I will promise to do better in the future. Love, TX-Brenda


          • #6

            I haven't been showing my appreciation either lately. I think I'll go give my hubby a giant hug right now.

            "The first time her laughter unfurled it's wings into the wind....
            We knew that the world would never be the same."
            ~Brian Andres

            Baby Kaitlyn was born on 07/08/01 after a successful pregnancy with IC!