family stress

[teachmemath ICN Member Find all posts View Profile Close teachmemath]

Dealing with ic is hard. Dealing with my Dad is hard. Dealing with both feels impossible.
Stress seems to be a big trigger for me. My Dad is extremely pushy. He doesn't ask he tells....orders. He doesn't call and discuss plans ahead he calls and tells you I've already started and you need to get over here right now and you should just appriciate that i'm doing this for you when it's something you never even asked him to do. I would never ask him to do anything because I don't want him hanging it over my head the rest of my life. It doesn't help that he lives right across the road.

I'm so thankful for my husband who is so supportive and tries to protect me from all my Dad's crap.

Thanks for listening to me rant.

[dyno Support Leader Find all posts View Profile Close dyno]

Hugs, Family situations can be hard. Have you tried talking to your dad about it? Stress is a huge trigger for me too and I have learned I have to try to control it at all cost. Good luck.

[teachmemath ICN Member Find all posts View Profile Close teachmemath]

Thanks Jolene,
I'm already so stressed from trying to fight a flare for the last couple of months. I try to avoid stress as much as I can even with my four children.

It seems like just being in the same room with my Dad when I'm already so stressed is more than I can handle. I guess I antisipate the friction and pain. I try to just stay away as much as possible. He's been manic for the last 1 1/2 years and that makes him more difficult. He doesn't really listen to anyone very well. He thinks he's being so helpful.

Thanks for the Hugs. I miss my mother in-law so much. She really understood because she had Ic too.

[ICNDonna ICN Staff Find all posts View Profile Close ICNDonna]

It's too bad you can't just move, but with today's housing market that may not be feasible for a while.

Hang in there.

Donna

[callie0767 ICN Member Find all posts View Profile Close callie0767]

TEACHMEMATH that sounds exactly like my situation.my dad is the exact same and my mom is also but slightly better. i ended up just limiting my time with them to reduce my stress. i tried talking to them for years and they would be okay for a few days then back to their same old ways so i decided i needed to distance myself for my own well being and stress level. i hope it doesnt lead that way for you. i dont reccomend that but after years of abuse i had to do that for myself. i feel for you and hope your parents support you in the end. take care pm me if you need to talk because i can so relate to your situation.