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    Wow so I asked to use the washroom at a&w & they wouldn't let me so I even told them I had a medical condition & really needed to use it & the guy just stared at me & said it was their policy for customers only & I'm like can I buy something after & he's like no you have to line up & buy something first which I didn't have time to do. After arguing for like 10 minutes he finally let me use it but so reluctantly & was like okay this time but if you come here again I really need you to buy something first. I had to persistently ask like a crazy person, he was so rude.

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    Re: Public washrooms

    Wow. I have experienced this too many times. Unfortunately, we still have a lot of educating to do when it comes to IC and other medical problems.
    I am not sure in what state you live (or if you even live in the States), but in some states they have passed versions of Ally's Law which requires stores to allow you restroom access, even if they only have private restrooms instead of public restrooms.
    It also really helps to carry a restroom access card; I believe the ICN shop sells some as well as the ICA.
    If you do not have a card and you cath, carrying catheter practically doubles as carrying restroom access card or is even better from my experience because it supports the fact that you do indeed have health problems and also because it makes some people uncomfortable! If the guy at the A&W saw me whip a catheter out of my purse and had to listen to me explain my bladder problems, he would probably be so uncomfortable, he would just let me use the restroom to get out of the situation! LOL.
    Hopefully, you live someplace where Ally's Law has been passed. Do not be afraid to tell stores/restaurants/businesses about the law, telling them you are going to report them to authorities, following through, and telling them you are going to pee on the floor! Do they really want a mess on the floor and with their lawyers?!
    Tierney
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    I am not a medical authority; I do not offer medical advice. Talk to your doctor, and if you are not comfortable talking to your doctor, find another one. It is OK to advocate for yourself as well as not be satisfied with your doctor! You deserve the best medical care.

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    • #3
      Re: Public washrooms

      Originally posted by domv View Post
      Wow so I asked to use the washroom at a&w & they wouldn't let me so I even told them I had a medical condition & really needed to use it & the guy just stared at me & said it was their policy for customers only & I'm like can I buy something after & he's like no you have to line up & buy something first which I didn't have time to do. After arguing for like 10 minutes he finally let me use it but so reluctantly & was like okay this time but if you come here again I really need you to buy something first. I had to persistently ask like a crazy person, he was so rude.
      If I had to pee, there's no way I could make it through a 10 minute argument. I'd have peed my pants already!

      "When you gotta go, you gotta go!"

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      • #4
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        I live in Richmond, BC. I've been trying to look up if Canada has a similar law but I haven't been able to find it. I ordered some restroom access cards, but I'm pretty sure if I'd shown him a card, he would have still had the same reaction. I even tried explaining to him that I didn't have my medical card with me and I tried to pull up the information on my phone and he still just stared at me blankly. I don't have to cath, thank God, but I think I have a few disposable catheters I got as samples just in case. I guess I could carry one around, but that would be even more embarrassing to whip out a catheter in public. And I'm pretty sure the guy would have still just been like it's our policy. He's so ignorant, probably doesn't even know what a catheter is.

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        • #5
          Re: Public washrooms

          Reminds me of that Big Bang episode when they waited in line all night for a movie. Leonard kept going to 7/11 to use the bathroom, and the guy made him buy a Gatorade every time-which just led to...Then there is Howard's solution.

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          • #6
            Re: Public washrooms

            domv, I am not embarrassed easily, so believe me, that guy would be more embarrassed and uncomfortable than me!
            I thought I had read something about a similar act in Canada right before I submitted my first post, but unfortunately, now I am cannot find it.
            In my state, Ally's Law has fortunately been passed. If I experienced the same things as you but in my state and I knew where the bathroom was, I would just go right in to the bathroom (if I did not pee on the floor first). If the guy told me, "Stop. No, you cannot do that," I would tell him, "I know my rights! Call the cops if you want!" And if he tried to physically stop me, well, that is just another charge besides violating Ally's Law, discrimination, etc.
            Maybe some of the Canadian Crohns and ulcerative colitis organization would know about similar acts in Canada!
            Tierney
            Message me and add me http://facebook.com/tierneybrielle.

            Diagnosed with IC at 12-years-old, but have had IC much longer, now 24-years-old - fibromyalgia (diasnosed 07/30/12) - CFS - migraines - diagnosed with myofascial pelvic pain syndrome in January of '12 - scoliosis since ~12-years-old & s/p spinal fusion (06/21/10) T10-L3 w/ metal implants & nerve damage - post laminectomy syndrome - lumbar spondylosis - mild dextroscoliosis now - menorrhagia and dysmenorrhea (both controlled) - IBS - chemical sensitivity - allergies - chronic nose bleeds - heartburn - rosacea - and that is just the relevant stuff

            Do you have a question? Feel free to ask me anything; I am an open book!

            I am not a medical authority; I do not offer medical advice. Talk to your doctor, and if you are not comfortable talking to your doctor, find another one. It is OK to advocate for yourself as well as not be satisfied with your doctor! You deserve the best medical care.

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            • #7
              Re: Public washrooms

              Unfortunately they have the bathrooms locked there so I had to actually ask for them to let me in or I couldn't go, otherwise I would have just gone in. I'll keep trying to find out if we have any similar law in Canada. I filled out a customer service form on the A&W website but I doubt I'll get a response or that they'll think any differently than their employee.

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              • #8
                Re: Public washrooms

                While Ally's Law is a great start its not fool-proof. Each of the states that have the law (14 I believe) requires the person needing access to provide proof that immediate need for a bathroom is warranted by a medical condition. A card from the ICN, ICA, or from your Dr is sufficient. Also, the bathroom can still be denied if permitting access to the restoom could jeopardize the safety and/or security of the establishment and/or person in need.

                I have found that being polite and sincere will get you access to an otherwise off-limits restroom 99% of the time. Fortunately I've only been in a predicament, if you will, a couple of times....each time I was permitted to use the facilities after a brief explanation, and was provided an escort to/from the bathroom by an employee.

                Re the law being applied in Canada: check with your state dept of health, or ask your Dr.


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                • #9
                  Re: Public washrooms

                  Do you have a restroom access card? I haven't needed to use mine very frequently, but it has been very effective for me. You can get one from the ICN Shop. The Americans With Disabilities Act has some requirements in this area --- and this applies to us!

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                  Donna
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                  • #10
                    Re: Public washrooms

                    I don't have a card yet but I ordered some from the icn shop. I'm hoping I won't need to use them but I hope when I do that people will take me seriously.

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