Waiting room, experience

[sandramac]

I never felt the passion to share to much of my day, as its all usually normal hum drum.Today was diffrent , I t startd off me having my physical, found out I'm also diabetic. Great ! Asked my family doc for more pain meds as I suffer from sever pelvic pain from the IC. She is aware that she is the only one who will perscribe it for me, My husband has been home suffering from depression & anxiety since May 06, He is just empty of any movation etc,does not want to go ut etc.Sleeps most of the day etc.I have noticed my Tramacet has been missing some pills .He swears up & down he has not taken any.My concern is hes on efexxor Busbar, sleeping pillls & Robackescent perscription strength. I have asked him severl times if he has gone into them ,NO NO NO ! Well today doc wanted to know how I was going through so many pain meds.As my husband has gone in to see her and asked for more for me as I have lost my perscription. No I never lost one I told her! She has perscribed 120 since jan 18th on my behalf requested by my husband, I was blown away! He did just admit to me now he has taken some , So I had to promise her that if she gave me more it would go to my Moms house, And if I need any I will have to call her to get them for me.My Hubby also requested that I get him a repet fo rhis Robascet , for his neck pain.Doc has refusses she says he s self medacating and abusing.I had to come home a face him with the shock & denial that he has been hiding from me & our Doc. hes very upset!He got caught! And knows this is not my doing,I was backed into a corner not knowing all info.And at the end of the day his health comes 1st! I'm upset about the lies & him convincing me I must be taking more then i was.He allowed this to continue for several months now.I went out with my Mom to visit a sick aunt and get her groceries, came home got dinnner hes very distant & untalkative now.My mother had to have a heart test at 6 ;15 pm so I went with her so she was nto alone.There was 3 patients waiting and the Doc was behind so they told us it was going to be a wait.We meet a lovey couple in thier 70s who were making small talk,My Mom will chat to everyone & they will know my life story while I go to the bathroom ect We were all there for about 2 hour s They shared how his wife has had cancer 2 times . Its back 2 times this lovley lady has been told she has 8 weks to live , the whole time her hubby just sat and listened qiutely.My Mom told them all about me day & how poor the mess was I was in.* years of fiterlity drugs ,treatments sugeries No kids & now The IC and my husband off.My mon & the lady went in for thier tests ,Left me alone with this older gentelmen.Im 40 th so he s says you have to much for one so young,I say it Ok I have the love of my husband I love him & we will get throught this .Just like what you musyt of been throught hell & back with your wifes health.He looked at me with piercing blue eyes , with tears ,I said it ok ! Om not religious or my husband but I belive god is there and he would not give me what i can not handle.He Just quitely stared and nroped his head.His wife came out her test was done.I helped her with her coat wished her the best health in the future.And looked at him and we had the unsponed understanding of the supportive spouce in the background ! I told him it was a pleasure to meet them both & gave him a wink to keep staying strong.His wife them came up to me with tears in her eys and said I'm so sorry for you.I said please do not be sorry for me .I will be OK ! I will be there to hold my husband up as he me when I needed him! I then said god would not give this to me if I could not handle it! They both started crying tears and said what a pleasure it was to meet and talk with me, They both embraced me and kissed my cheeks and held me ! I could feel thier love & passion.I dont know thier names ,I hope to mabey cross thier path in the future,But they gave me the touch of caring for me & my family !And could see more in my eyes then my family or friends have ever had.It was very touching for me .And Im honoured to have had the chance to sit in the same waiting room with them both! I just wanted to share this with you all.I dont have to many days that You get the touch & caring from a completed strangers ,Who make you stop & think how lucky we are to have what we have! Hugs to all Sandra
Ps sorry to ramble but im not a great writer.Just hope you all got the message I was trying to send out!

[Janie Miranda]

Sandra,
You did a wonderful job with writing about what happened this afternoon. It brought tears to my eyes reading it. Thank you for sharing this inspiring story.

[Trishann]

A soft spoken word and a listening ear sometimes is the only thing a person need. That is amazing what a touch can do. Glad your day had a happy ending.
Hope the Best for you and your hubby.

Trishann

[Berkshire Road]

Sandra,

That was two stories, in a way. The first story of the problem with your husband taking your pain meds, and the second story of the beautiful couple that you met in the waiting room. They both made me want to cry, for different reasons.

Your husband's story is so sad. If he is completely disabled by depression and now experimenting with narcotics, it's probably time for him to be in a treatment program. Maybe you can take him to his doctor and explain what's going on?

That lovely story of the couple in the doctor's office -- thank you for sharing that. There are so many nasty people around, or people who are totally indifferent, that encountering people that caring is a gift. I wish them good fortune too, wherever they are.

Good luck to you and your husband. It's my opinion, based on some experiences in my own family, that the two of you are unlikely to be able to work this out on your own, bc. your husband is not in control of his actions. I'm sure he loves you very much, as you do him, and you'll stand by him, but I really think he's going to need professional help.

[Sarojini]

I am also so sorry for what you've been going through.... I agree with Carolyn though. I think it is time your husband discussed this with his doctor. I am assuming he is seeing a psychiatrist already for his disabling depression? That's good, because you can discuss this narcotic use with the psychiatrist, and he/she will know where a treatment program can be found. He/she can also counsel your poor husband too.

I am glad that you met such a wonderful couple in a waiting room. That sure sounds exactly what you needed at that point!!!

[ihurttoo]

Thanks you for sharing your beautiful waiting room story. That is such a lovely story.

I am sorry to hear about your husband. I hope that he will let you help him thru this. I also hope that he will agree to get professional help. I really think it will make all the difference in a successful recovery.

My thoughts and prayers are with you both.

Hugs,
Amy

[sandramac]

Thanks all for your advise, Our family Doc is aware of everything, Im just waiting, for them to do somthing ! If they dont I will ! Thanks again!
Hugs Sandra

[sandramac]

I can't belive it ,I woke up this morning & noticed 4 more pills gone ,He found my other hiding spot during the night, Im in a flare & in pain. I can't belive he will do this to me again,After our long talk.He did call the Doc to see ,I heard him on the phone, Told him I should be able to have 4 Tramacet on me if I need them.I never belived he would get up during the night & take them.He swore he would not ! I see our Doc on Wed, We will be having a very long talk. He says hes taking it for neck pain.But he will not go and get the scan the Doc ordered, Easier to stay home & steal my meds.Then have to try to go out with the depression. Nice Valentines Day I had.
Hugs Sandra

[Bessie]

for both of you.

[Moonheart]

I can't belive it ,I woke up this morning & noticed 4 more pills gone ,He found my other hiding spot during the night, Im in a flare & in pain. I can't belive he will do this to me again,After our long talk.He did call the Doc to see ,I heard him on the phone, Told him I should be able to have 4 Tramacet on me if I need them.I never belived he would get up during the night & take them.He swore he would not ! I see our Doc on Wed, We will be having a very long talk. He says hes taking it for neck pain.But he will not go and get the scan the Doc ordered, Easier to stay home & steal my meds.Then have to try to go out with the depression. Nice Valentines Day I had.
Hugs Sandra

I'm so sorry you are going through this. How awful for you.
I hope you don't mind me suggesting that the reason your husband doesn't want to get the test, is because there isn't anything wrong with his neck. That's hard to deal with but doesn't it seem like if he had genuine pain he'd be anxious to go to the doctor and the doc could prescribe his own pain meds?
It's sad because he's setting himself up for the future if he ever does need pain meds. They won't give them to him because it will be on record that he abused them.

[Trishann]

Sandra, I am so sorry, I hope your husband find the help he need. He won't be able to do this alone.

Sandra this is so hard on families and my prayers are with you.