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[tigger_gal]

you know when you feel at your worst and have so many things on your mind, it creates this unbelievable stress that creates a total body flair.
I am grateful, for my family and friends that have supported me every step of the way during this very emotional time in my life.

I posted and continue to post about my never ending battle about what it right for Jacob. If I continue my story about my hardships I am going thru, and the emotional roller coaster it involves, if it helps just one child in an abusive relationship I will be satisfied. I have learned I am stronger then what I thought possible, and you will do anything for the love of a child. I jeopardized my relationship with my niece, to save this innocent child from a life of hell.

The best thing you can do for a child in an abused relationship is to call Child protective services. Do you know only 5 in thousands will report abuse of a child that is kin? They are afraid to get involved.

After last night class, and hearing a voice recorded abuse case, completely unnerved me. Being a participant in a lesson last night made me realize every single abused child is resentful, angry at there abusers, god, But the worse part is they think it is there fault, and deserve it, if they behaved better the abuse would stop.. I was placed in a scenario setting that all my family walked out of my life, and I had to describe how I felt with each person in my life that left me. I was the hurt angry foster child at the end, because I had nobody .The sad part is, each one of these children want to go home to there abusers, because it is drummed in there head that this is what life is all about and normal. They want to go back home.

Please if you know of a child being abused, please call 1-800-4-AChild
don't wait and see if things change, they won't, they will only get worse.

[Roxie2007]

HI!
I SO totally applaud you for this post! I too had to step in when a neighbor boy was being physically abused. I never gave it a 2nd thought when I picked up the phone and reported what I knew was going on. Now that young man is 25 yrs old and has a family of his own. He doesn't know I'm the one who called in to CPS......but he knows someone did and he told my son he's SO glad someone stood up for him. Roxie

[tigger_gal]

thanks roxie, I am so happy that you helped that little boy, who grew up to be a fine young man.

why are people afraid to help. you can call and be anonymous. Being a family member it is a bit more difficult, because you want involve and you know first hand whats taking place, so its not hard for them to figure out.
Especially when the DHS worker tells the parents. Yep iy happened during a team determination meeting. She even went so far as to tell me not to call her office any more I was not reliable, my niece had bad parenting skills. I told her if something happened again I would have her job, out of anger of course. It took 1 month and 1 week to the day, 27 police visits to there home and 6 more cps calls from neighbors in there new residents, and Jake being left alone in a hot trailer while mom went off on her bike and dad was down the road getting stoned. Between the time he was arrested and my niece showing up at my house cps had been called and unmarked cars were parked in the trailer park supervising the house while cps went and got a court order. My niece left here telling me her and james were leaving the state with jake. she left because he was released from jail. I called this worker and told her that he was arrested fo child abuse, and abandonment, are they removing Jake know or am I still unreliable? If she didn't have some one go get him, I was going. long story short I had mad a formal complaint against this women, and later found out she no long works for DHS.

[Roxie2007]

Good Morning!
I'm sure lots of people worry that if they call CPS it won't be annonomus and the word will get out to the abusers.....and like in your case...that did happen. It would be very scary knowing that the abuser might come after you after they'd find out you were the one who turned them in. I can't imagine!
I can't imagine what all you have gone through with your niece and her husband and that poor little child! So will you get custody of Jake or is it still up in the air? Custody can take such a long time. We have friends going through a similar situation and they get their nephew every other weekend......and on the opposite weekends he goes with the crazy mother! What a mess our system is! Take care......Roxie

[SandyRN]

Cindy,

I haven't been around much but have tried to keep up with your posts. I think what you are doing is absolutely wonderful and totally selfless! Just wanted to make sure you know that I've noticed what a great thing you're doing, even if I don't always get a chance to tell you!

Hugs, Sandy

[tigger_gal]

thaks girls.. rights have been terminated. So no visits to worry about. The adoption forms have been submitted.

[SharonA]

Cindy...In my eyes, you are a true hero for everything you have done to protect Jake. And let's not leave out David and Ashley. It takes a wonderful family like yours to take in a small child and totally change your lives around for that wee one. *She says this as she is getting up from her desk and applauding you*

I do hope that all of you who are reading Cindy's post right now will take her words and keep them in your heart and head so that, if by chance, you do come across a child who is being hurt by those who should only love him/her, you do report this to the authorities. You could be saving a child from a life of horrible circumstances.

Cindy...

[tigger_gal]

(((((((Sharon)))))
I just got off the phone with my foster care worker, she is sucha great lady. We talked about the new baby in great detail. It will be a different county and they will have to remove the child, but she will flag the hospital, and cps will come and check things out. Most likley will remove the baby. She asked me several questions on if I was up to taking the baby on but most importantly, is Jake. Thats a whole other story, I will get in to later.

[leelee88]

Cindy,

I just read your post..

And just thinking of all the kids out there who are being abused just brought tears to my eyes..You are such a special person...((((hugs))))))))

Your friend
Ronda

[tigger_gal]

thanks ((((((((hugs)))))))))))))