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I was not going to post any of this, for reasons I choose not to explain, but, I am really in desperate need for a lot of prayers. I know that sounds funny coming from me, but please if you love children you will keep my family in your prayers.
Here is a background of what has taken place.. this being the very short version…
Over a year ago, events took place that led my niece of losing her son to the state. My sister, her mother had custody of him, and now I do. I fought very hard for his safety. I had to jump thru all sorts of hoops and do a dog and pony act to get custody of him. My very close friends know what, why and how come. I choose to leave this part out too.
I got a lot of mixed feelings on all of this, she is my niece and I love her, and on a moms point of view, I just can't conceive what has taken place. Why she didn't try, why dose she choose her worthless domestic violence b/f and lie about it, why dose she refuse to tell foster care where she lives and give them a number to call her. (we know why tho, don't we) Just because I love her don't mean I have to like her. Why in 11 ½ months has she not complied with one court order?
If the courts don't follow thru on the permency hearing and the termination of parental rights, then they are no better then my niece..
All my friends and my family have asked me, can you do this, and be able to face the fact that they can take him and give him back at any given moment? I did not think that it would go this far. I thought my niece would make things right. She proved me wrong over and over again. I tried to help her, I offered to take her to get “court orders” completed and she always had an excuse as to why she could not.
The stress over this is unbelievable. It is like I am waiting on them to take my baby away.. The constant flair is unbelievable. I have learned in the last year of going thru this battle, I have a more self control then I thought imaginable. I could not begin to tell you the names I have been called at court dates, and the things I was accused of by my niece. . Not to mention the patience required you are forced into. The times I have nearly bitten my tongue off, and the times I crammed my hands in my pockets to keep from knocking the living hell out of her. This has taught me a valuable lesson in what you would do for the love and safety of a child.
I have a court hearing coming up on the 22nd. It’s a permanency hearing for Jake. This is where they will place him in my home, on a permanent basis and cannot be removed.
Then a formal court hearing will take place in 45 to 60 days to terminate parental rights. After this and so many days he will be put up for adoption. The people that get first choice on adoption, is the family, or the people that has had him in there custody for 6 conductive months. Which of course will be my husband and I. We have been told this. Jake calls us Mommy and Daddy; we are the only parents he has ever known.
During the last review my niece showed her true colors and Jakes atty asked for tpr immanently within 30 days. Foster Care agreed. She actually had the nerve tell the judge that if the quit f’ing screwing her she could get her s**t done, and how can she do it in the time allowed, the judge told her she had 11 months, now she has 6 weeks. Of course she didn’t let it go at that, she said she can’t do it because no one will help her. The judge told her if you need help doing these court orders how do you intend to raise this child. my niece still was cussing, and the judge said we are done here, slamed the folder shut, got up and said good day.
My niece also has not job and is living with he DV b/f in a motel.
Please say a prayer that this hearing will all go as planned, and the termination hearing will be set asap.
Thank you for taking the time for reading this.. it means more to me then you will ever know.
Here is a background of what has taken place.. this being the very short version…
Over a year ago, events took place that led my niece of losing her son to the state. My sister, her mother had custody of him, and now I do. I fought very hard for his safety. I had to jump thru all sorts of hoops and do a dog and pony act to get custody of him. My very close friends know what, why and how come. I choose to leave this part out too.
I got a lot of mixed feelings on all of this, she is my niece and I love her, and on a moms point of view, I just can't conceive what has taken place. Why she didn't try, why dose she choose her worthless domestic violence b/f and lie about it, why dose she refuse to tell foster care where she lives and give them a number to call her. (we know why tho, don't we) Just because I love her don't mean I have to like her. Why in 11 ½ months has she not complied with one court order?
If the courts don't follow thru on the permency hearing and the termination of parental rights, then they are no better then my niece..
All my friends and my family have asked me, can you do this, and be able to face the fact that they can take him and give him back at any given moment? I did not think that it would go this far. I thought my niece would make things right. She proved me wrong over and over again. I tried to help her, I offered to take her to get “court orders” completed and she always had an excuse as to why she could not.
The stress over this is unbelievable. It is like I am waiting on them to take my baby away.. The constant flair is unbelievable. I have learned in the last year of going thru this battle, I have a more self control then I thought imaginable. I could not begin to tell you the names I have been called at court dates, and the things I was accused of by my niece. . Not to mention the patience required you are forced into. The times I have nearly bitten my tongue off, and the times I crammed my hands in my pockets to keep from knocking the living hell out of her. This has taught me a valuable lesson in what you would do for the love and safety of a child.
I have a court hearing coming up on the 22nd. It’s a permanency hearing for Jake. This is where they will place him in my home, on a permanent basis and cannot be removed.
Then a formal court hearing will take place in 45 to 60 days to terminate parental rights. After this and so many days he will be put up for adoption. The people that get first choice on adoption, is the family, or the people that has had him in there custody for 6 conductive months. Which of course will be my husband and I. We have been told this. Jake calls us Mommy and Daddy; we are the only parents he has ever known.
During the last review my niece showed her true colors and Jakes atty asked for tpr immanently within 30 days. Foster Care agreed. She actually had the nerve tell the judge that if the quit f’ing screwing her she could get her s**t done, and how can she do it in the time allowed, the judge told her she had 11 months, now she has 6 weeks. Of course she didn’t let it go at that, she said she can’t do it because no one will help her. The judge told her if you need help doing these court orders how do you intend to raise this child. my niece still was cussing, and the judge said we are done here, slamed the folder shut, got up and said good day.
My niece also has not job and is living with he DV b/f in a motel.
Please say a prayer that this hearing will all go as planned, and the termination hearing will be set asap.
Thank you for taking the time for reading this.. it means more to me then you will ever know.
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