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  • Please pray---I am losing my job

    I came back to work on the 5th after a 2+ month medical leave for my hysterectomy. Since I came back, I have been made to feel that I am walking on eggshells- like anything I might do wrong is reason for them to terminate me now that I am no longer under physician ordered medical leave.

    So today I get sat down and told what was expected of me at my job, which I commented that I currently do and have always done. I was basically balled out for no reason other than I think they are trying to break me down mentally and force me to quit. They brought up how good my job performance was prior to 12/05 when my medical problems began. And went on about how good they have been to me to let me off all this time but this was it and I guess I am on probation or something by the way they are acting. They don't want to know about my problems but don't understand why I act and feel the way I do .

    I have been so upset all day today. Last friday was the first paycheck I received in over 8 wks and it felt like hitting the lottery. Now I am afraid that while I thought things were going to get better it is just all getting worse. I can't just get another job with all my doctor appts and issues. I am going to call my long term disability insurance carrier after work and go ahead and file a claim. I have been afraid to do it before now fearing that my boss would fire me immediately after he caught wind of it, but now I feel like I am playing beat the clock. An attorney I spoke with back last summer said that I lose my coverage if I am terminated so file a claim if I think that time has come. Guess I am there.

    Please, Please.....everyone pray for God to give me the mental strength to endure all this right now. I am a complete and total emotional wreck. I cannot afford to go back to see my counselor so I am sort of alone in dealing with this. Pray that God will help provide for my family while I finish the elimination period before my disability payments would kick in. Pray that it is truly God's will that I am making the right decision and not my own.
    Pray that the insurance company will not deny my claim.

    Thank you all for being there for me.
    Wendi
    IC symptoms began in 1975; diagnosed in March 2006.
    Other conditions: PFD, Migraine, VV, Total Abd Hysterectormy on 12/27,06 for Cervical Cancer, Fibromyalgia.
    Current Daily Meds: Roxicet, Methadone, Flexoril, Flomax
    I use Prayer, Yoga, Relaxation Breathing and TENS to help relieve stress, anxiety and pain- LOTS of make up to hide my true identity!

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    Weni...I know how tough this is on you and I am sorry that you are going through this with your job on top of your health issues. (((hugs)))

    One thing that came into my tired brain when I read this post is...if they fire you, wouldn't you qualify for unemployment? I think you would although, in TN, the employer has to give reasons why you were fired. Then, if they say that it is because of your IC and since it is considered a disability, then wouldn't they be butting heads with the Disibility Act? Wouldn't that be good for your case for a Disability Claim?
    Sharon

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    • #3
      Wendi...Another thought...

      Unless you have already done this, it is probably a good time to get your ducks in a row. Do you have written records of evaluations of your job preformance? If so, make copies of them and put them in a file so you can get your hands on them. Document everything that has been and is being said to you about this situation by your boss and/or supervisors. Also by your coworkers.

      Oh, another thing. Don't let them make you quit. Don't give them that power over you. Hang in with everything you have. If they want to get rid of you, make it their decision, not yours.

      Last edited by SharonA; 03-05-2007, 11:32 AM.
      Sharon

      Shopping??? Did someone mention shopping? I'll get my hat... ;-)

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      • #4
        Oh, I'm so sorry about this I know how you feel; my employer knows about my condition, but they don't really "get it." As a result I was forced to come back to work WAY too early after my InterStim surgery -- and when I did no one even bothered to ask how I was. So far, nobody's complained about performance, but I bet I'll get lectured eventually because they seem to think getting a hunk of metal shoved in your butt cheek isn't "real" surgery.

        Anyway -- as for you, I think Sharon gave you great advice about keeping records of all this stuff if possible. That's important, in case you ever need to file a suit for wrongful termination.

        And she's also right about not letting them MAKE you quit. Do your best to relax and let it all roll off your back. I know it's hard, but they are the ones being jerks, not you.
        ****
        Jen

        *Diagnosed with severe IC in 2004
        *Also diagnosed with PFD, fibromyalgia, chronic myofascial pain, IBS, migraines, allergies/asthma, dermatographism
        *Kept trying a million different treatments for all these things until I found what works, and I am doing okay these days with the help of a cocktail of medications and the InterStim, which was first placed in 2007. [I have had 2 revisions - one in 2010 when my battery died and had to be replaced, and one complete replacement (lead and generator) in 2012 after a fall on my stairs caused my lead to move.]
        *Current meds include Atarax (50mg at night), Lyrica (150mg twice a day), Xanax (0.5mg at night and as needed), Zanaflex (4mg at night), hydrocodone (10/325, every 6 hours as needed), Advair, Nasonex, Singulair (10mg at night), oral contraceptives, home instills containing Elmiron and Marcaine (as often as I need to do them).

        **I am not a medical authority nor do I offer definitive medical advice. I strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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        • #5
          Also get with your doctor since I think you need to have something showing that you need to be on long term disability due to IC.

          Hang in there! I went through that same thing shortly after my surgery in 2002. I wasn't the same employee after my surgery,but I was trying my best. Who can with all the meds I was on. I ended up quitting, just cause I didn't want the stigma of being fired, but I wish I could have had that unemployment.

          Hugs!

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          • #6
            I am so sorry that you are going thru this.. sending out big hugs and prayers
            'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'

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              • #8
                I have been there... I was out of work for 4 months and when I went back they treated me like I was a dog... I have been with the company for 4 years doing whatever they needed..Now days most work places just do not care. Its sad to say but its true..
                I will be sending lots of prayers your way, I hope everything works out..
                Hugs
                Ronda

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                • #9
                  Sending lots of hugs and lots of prayers your way........

                  God Bless,
                  MARY


                  Serenity isn't freedom from the storm.....it's peace within the storm.....I had my sick bladder removed Jan 7th 2010.....Even though I had many complications.......I would do it again in a moment.....I have no regrets......Sunflowers in memory of my sister who passed March 14th 2010......they were her favorite....

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                  • #10
                    If you work for a small firm, it's more difficult to deal with. Many laws apply only to places with 50 or more employees. I'll be thinking of you and am sending encouraging hugs.

                    Donna
                    Stay safe


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                    • #11
                      Dear Wendi,

                      I am so, so sorry that they are treating you this way. However, I do believe with all my heart that everything happens for a reason...even the bad stuff. Sometimes the reason is easy to see, other times, we never know what the reason is, but thankfully it is all in God's hands anyway.

                      In this instance, I think that God is taking care of you and doing what is best for you, even if it doesnt look like it right now. If this had not happened, you would have waited even longer before you applied for disability, even though you have been struggling to keep working thru everything you have going on. You have said already that it has been very difficult for you and you worry no one else would hire you. Why? Because you dont need to be working! Yes, other employers would notice that you are sick all the time and have to go to the Dr. all the time too. That is because you are truly sick and not faking. So, think about it, if it is that obvious to people, you WILL get disability. I just know it!

                      I know that you have been pressing on because you are worried about the loss of income. But, God will provide for you. The door may be closing, but the window is opening! The window is disability.

                      I know you have prayed about doing this for a while now, and I join my prayers to yours. I pray that God will give you peace in your heart that this is the right decision. I pray that God will clear the obstacles from your path, if this is his will. I pray that your needs will met, and that you will have money left over to show the bountifulness of the blessings you are given. I pray that God will give you the courage to face the days ahead. I pray that time will hold out for you. I pray that all the burdens are lifted from you and your family. I pray that your husband will support your decison. I pray that your claim will be approved swiftly. And above all else, I join you in prayer that God's will be done in this and all things. In Jesus name I pray. Amen.

                      Wendi, we will be here to support you every step of the way. I know that this is scary. Change is always scary, even the good changes. But, if you need anything at all, I am a phone call or pm away. I will keep you in my prayers.

                      Hugs,
                      Amy

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                      • #12
                        I am so sorry you are going through this. I will keep you in my prayers
                        Miss Bessie

                        Galatians 6:2 - Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.

                        Hebrews 13:2 - Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by doing so some people have entertained angels without knowing it.

                        Proverbs 4:23 - Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life

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                        • #13
                          Wendi I am so sorry. Praying and sending many hugs.

                          HUGS, Trishann

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                          • #14
                            Sending prayers and hugs - I hope everything will be okay.

                            Blessings,
                            Lori

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                            • #15
                              Thank you

                              Thank you all so much for you kind and uplifting words. I so desperatley need to hear these things right now when I feel such evil in the world pressing down around me.

                              I do know that God has HIS purpose for what I am going through and that HE will never let us endure more than we can take. It is just so hard to try and heal mentally and physically then begin to be beaten down again and again and then feel the pain physically in my body from all the mental anxiety this is causing me.

                              My husband and I spoke for along time last night and alot of emotions were on the table. I was so upset that of course after yesterday's fiasco and last nights weeping my pelvis is on fire today. But he knows now how the anxiety physically affects my body. I called my insurance company and had claim papers faxed to me last night. I am going to complete my portion today and stop by my doctor's office during my lunchbreak to leave his portion. I want to get all of this done before presenting my employer with their portion to complete as I know that will be the end of things here.

                              Amy, what you said is true. I really hadn't thought about it that way before. I don't know if this will be a permanent resolution or temporary but for now it seems to be best.

                              Thank you all again for your support and prayers. I feel much better today with some decisions made.
                              Wendi
                              IC symptoms began in 1975; diagnosed in March 2006.
                              Other conditions: PFD, Migraine, VV, Total Abd Hysterectormy on 12/27,06 for Cervical Cancer, Fibromyalgia.
                              Current Daily Meds: Roxicet, Methadone, Flexoril, Flomax
                              I use Prayer, Yoga, Relaxation Breathing and TENS to help relieve stress, anxiety and pain- LOTS of make up to hide my true identity!

                              myspace page:www.myspace.com/armslee

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