Prayer for husband's job

[stacey79]

Please pray for my husband's job situation. Without going into a ton of detail, his work situation has gotten worse and worse. It's now causing him to phsyical get sick, which stinks. We are praying that God opens and closes the right doors. Part of the issue is that in order to find another job, we may end up having to move. Right now we live in the same town where we grew up and where both our families are. We enjoy that, but we also want to be in God's will.

Another issue is that we are both starting to feel that God's will is for us to take a step of faith and have my husband leave before another job is completely secured. Scary prospect, so we are praying about it a lot to make sure we're following God's will and nothing else.

Thanks so much!

[GriffsMommy]

I hope all works out for you two

[Claredale]

I am praying for your family. God definitely has a plan!

Tracey

[Babs RN]

Prayers headed your way. I have learned God always has a plan, it is letting him direct it that is hard.

Hugs,
Barb

[stacey79]

Thanks for all your prayers. I know God has a plan, too. We are waiting to see what it is. Change is always scary, though. And my husband quitting his job won't make sense to most people, but then again, faith doesn't really make sense sometimes. And that's Ok, too. Our timeframe may be moving up a little bit, which makes me nervous because that means I will have one and a half checks less to work with to prepare for time in between jobs. But, I trust God is in control. We had a nice break from everything over the weekend with a short trip away with my parents, but alas, now it's back to the "real world."

[dancemomof2]

[stacey79]

Well, just to give you an update, my husband lost his job last Friday. It was for pretty lame reasons. I know everyone says that, but it really was. Basically thanks to a kidney stone and then some other nasty things like bronchitis and the stomach flu, he used up all his paid days off. So, they let him go. It was a long time coming, though. Basically he was the last person left who was there before the current boss. Once the current boss took over, he got rid of everyone from before and started with new people. My hubby stayed longer than most.

All that said, I really do think it's what God had in mind. I know He has a plan. This way my husband can at least collect unemployment pay where he couldn't had he quit. In the meantime, though, things are a bit discouraging. One of those things where I know God is in control and leading, but it's still scary. Because I work on my own, I don't have any sort of insurance, so we are now stuck with paying around $900 a month to stay insured. We both have health issues that would be considered pre-existing conditions if we were without insurance, so we have to pay that. Of course, everything else, too.

I guess it's one of those good news, bad news things. The horrible stress of his job is over, which is such a relief. And we know God is working. Bad news for now is that things are difficult. The support on these boards means so much all the time, but especially in hard times. Thanks for being here to listen (and, even more importantly, to pray!), you guys!

[kari1980]

Stacy,
It's so weird how I came across your post just now. I am in a very similar situation to you. My husband and I grew up in the same town in NY and lived there all of our lives, raised our children there, all of our family are there etc...We never even imagined leaving. Well two years ago my husband's company was bought by a company in SC and made us an offer we just couldn't refuse to move down. It was really hard for me to leave my family, my life long friends and my kids and grandchildren, but I knew we really didn't have much of a choice, not a lot of job offers in NY were coming his way so we had to go. So to make a long story short, we have finally adjusted to life here now, (missing everyone terribly though) and now, my husband just came home tonight and tells me that they laid him off today!! The company isn't doing well and can't make payroll so they had to lay him off! SO, now what do we do? I am so upset and mad right now, they convinced us to leave everything and everyone and come here for them and now after not even two years they let him go. We of course now want to move back to NY to be with our family, but we now have the expense of moving back (of course moving down the company paid for). We have to try and sell our house and worry about finding a job now back in NY again. On top of that, our biggest worry is medical insurance. As you may have seen from some of my recent posts, I've been having lots of tests done and need further tests, I'm on lots of medication and don't know what we are going to do about that, Cobra is so expensive. The stress of this is not going to help my 2 month flare that I've been in! Dont' get me wrong, I'm happy to hopefully go back, but just don't know how things are going to work out. I guess everything happens for a reason and it will eventually work out, I'm just alittle freaked out right now because I just found this out a couple of hours ago, and we had no idea it was coming and they are not compensating us for anything.
SO, (sorry so long), I'm really sorry about your husband's situation also, but maybe it was better that you didn't have to go through all the trouble I did of moving, and finding a house, and leaving everyone, to just possibly do it all for nothing, as we did. I hope your husband finds something soon, I will pray for the best for you also. Good luck with everything.

Kari

[GriffsMommy]

I'm sorry that he got fired. That really does suck but you're right, at least he can get unemployment now. I hope that everything works out for the both of you, I will be thinking of you both.

[dg2901]

Hope things turn around for you very soon.

Take care, dear
Diana

[stacey79]

Thanks for all your kind words.

Kari, I understand some of your frustration and struggle, but you are right that your situation with being away from home makes everything more difficult. I will be praying for you and your family. It's hard not to be upset about these things. Friday and the weekend were pretty rough for us. The worst part was that I was writing a short profile article of my husband's employer as part of my freelance work with the local newspaper. Basically they advertise in one of the sections of the paper, so I had to write a glowing article for that same advertising section. On Friday, right after he came home and told me what had happened, I had to go meet with some people to get a photo and stuff for the article. It's a big corporation so they didn't even know who I was, but it still really sucked to have to be so nice to them. Bluh!

Along with paying for insurance and, of course, finding another job, we are also understanding that we may have to move elsewhere. Both of us were born and raised in this town. I even went to college here. We bought our first home at the end of 2003 and really like it. It's an ideal first home for us. We're just praying about it all. It's hard to think of leaving our families, but there's just not much around here. Our economy is in the dumps. Last fall, my dad got let go from his job of 38 years! My uncle, who worked at the same company, beat them to it and found a job about nine hours away, so they had to move. Just not a good place to be looking for work.

Lots of scary thoughts. WE're going to see our accountant tonight (because I have my own business, we have to have one). Basically, the beginning of this year, we had to unexpectedly replace our furnace for $3,000 and my hubby had at least $2,000 (our copay; more like $10,000 total) in medical bills from a kidney stone problem. Our savings is pretty low. We think between savings and unemployment we have enough for one month definitely and most of the second month, but after that we're tapped out. I think, unfortunately, we're going to have to tap into his 401(k). We don't want to, but we have to survive. At least we're still young enough we'll have some time to rebuild. (He's 30 and I'm 28.)

[kari1980]

Hi Stacey,
I really do feel for. It's so hard, and it is scary having to think about moving away from everything you know and love. But unfortunately, as I had to, you have to do what you have to do to survive. If you do have to move, hopefully it won't be too far, and you will have better opportunities before you. Its' really scary thinking about the medical bills and issues, our healthcare system is so messed up. I'm praying the best for you and hoping everything works out for the best for you. Please keep me updated on your situation..If you need to talk PM me anytime.

Kari

[ansamnaoum]

I'll be praying for you, and please keep us posted.

I think that since you're asking God for his guidance and telling him you want His will, then whatever you'll decide, it will be His will.
In Proverbs 16 it says"The preparations of the heart belong to man, But the answer of the tongue is from the LORD...
Commit your works to the LORD, And your thoughts will be established...
A man’s heart plans his way, But the LORD directs his steps.."

I think I had only one time when I was praying for a big decision, and I did experince the feeling that my thougths were really settled. Other times I asked the Lord and I didn't feel I got any answer, but then I think, since I did my part, committing my work to Him, telling Him I want to do His will, then He'll do His part, that's making me choose what He wants for me.

There were times when I didn't ask the Lord, and there were many times when I made wrong decisions, but when it says in Romans "all things work together for good to those who love God", this "all things" includes our mistakes and it includes also bad things other people do to us, remember Joseph when he says Genesis 50:20 "you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good, in order to bring it about as it is this day, to save many people alive".

I hope this helps. I'm not claiming I have that much faith, things have going bad for me for a long time, and many times I feel so hopeless, but all I can do it to wait for the Lord. He is faithful.

Ansam

[stacey79]

Thank you all for your responses and for the Bible verses. FUnny you shoudl send those right now, actually.

I lead a Bible study at my church for people with chronic health issues. We meet the first THursday of each month. Last night was our meeting. So, I was preparing the lesson from our book and it was about hope. It was exactly what I needed this week. I've been feeling pretty hopeless lately with numerous things going on. It was a good reminder that we have GOd's promises of hope we can cling to even when everything else is falling apart. We talked a little bit about Joseph and that exact verse you listed. We talked about Paul and Job. So many examples! One of the things I pulled from the book was the author saying that we have hope in SomeOne, not in something. She also made the point that when we are down to nothing, the only thing we can have hope in is in God. It's hard, but it's true.

So we did go to meet with our accountant last night. Basically he's encouraging us to do everything we can to not tap into our 401(k). We don't really want to rack up credit card debt, but he thinks for us, using the credit card for now then getting it paid off later really would be the best option. Along with that he had a job lead for my husband to check into. I don't know if it will pan out, but so far that's one of the only leads he's had that is actually in the city where we live.

This is getting long, but I have to throw in one more thing that's crossing my mind. When we were praying about what to do before he lost his job, my husband got out of the shower one day and was telling me that he sort of felt like God had reminded him that he has money in his 401(k). NOw that makes me wonder if the whole point of that was so that we'd end up talking with our accountant who woudl give us this lead. It may not be GOd's plan, but I"m just thinking. The hardest thing with stuff like this is keeping my hope in GOd and not in job prospects. I have found that with IC. Early on my focus of hope was in treatments. Once I realized what I was doing and shifted that back to God, then my attitude changed and I emotionally felt better about things even though it still took a while to get things under control.

The whole point of my responding was just to say thanks for the prayers and uplifting words. They are really hitting the spot!

[ansamnaoum]

Thanks for writing again.

Hearing about that job possibility for your husband feels little better, though I know it's all still very difficult.

I'll keep praying for you, the job and the decision, till I hear things got better.

on a separate note may be, when you mentioned you lead that meeting, oh I wished I could move right now and live somewhere near your church so I can come to that meeting.. I'll try to always remember to pray for your meeting and everyone there.

Ansam