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    Ugh, Well I posted alittle before about how 2 years ago, my husband and I had to move from NY to SC because of his job. We left our home, our family, our friends, our children and our grandchildren because we felt we had no choice other then to move with the company because we weren't having much luck finding another job in NY at the time. It was really tough for us to do, but after two years now, we were finally starting to adjust to life down here. Well last night my husband comes home and tells me that they laid him off! The company is going downhill and they can't make payroll, blah blah blah. They are giving him NOTHING. No compensation for moving, no moving expenses to move back, NOTHING. They begged us to move down here and leave everything and made him an offer that was too hard to refuse and now this. It is so wrong. Now we have to worry about medical insurance, etc, and as some of you may know from some of my recent posts, it couldn't come at a worse time because of my recent health problems. So it's very scarey. Of course now that we have no reason to stay here we are anxious to get back to NY, but to what? He has no job, we have no home, and the market for selling is not very great right now, so I'm worried about selling our home down here right away. The good news is that we will be together again with my family and friends, so I am happy about that, just nervous about all the changes and the unknown. Well he won't let me tell anyone, not even the kids yet about what happened until we sort it all out, so I had to come here to vent because I'm going out of my mind not being able to talk to anyone about it yet. So thanks for letting me vent about it and listening (reading, ha ha)......

    Kari
    Kari

    I'm 47 years old, married 27 years. I have two wonderful boys and two wonderful grandchildren. I was diagnosed in 1994. Life has certainly thrown me many many surprises, all of which I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful, and I try to think about my blessings not my misfortunes, when possible. Stay Strong!

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    • #3
      I am so very sorry this has happened to you and your husband. Hopefully back in New York your family can help you guys out until you get your feet on the ground again. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.



      Erika
      IC diagnosed officially via cysto/urodynamics 1/26/07

      Grade II Endometriosis diagnosed via lap 12/11/07

      "Fall down seven times, Stand up eight."

      "Life is a tragedy for those who feel and a comedy for those who think."

      Current Treatments:
      Interstim Since 5/25/07!
      Birth Control

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      • #4
        Thank you, all good thoughts sent my way are greatly appreciated......

        Kari
        Kari

        I'm 47 years old, married 27 years. I have two wonderful boys and two wonderful grandchildren. I was diagnosed in 1994. Life has certainly thrown me many many surprises, all of which I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful, and I try to think about my blessings not my misfortunes, when possible. Stay Strong!

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        • #5
          Oh no!!

          I know this is very hard for you right now, But please remember when one door shuts a new door will open..Things will get better. Right now though I understand its just very hard to take all of it in.. A few years ago I lost everything to Hurricane Katrina, I couldnt go to any of my family because they to lost everything to. I was very lost and felt hopeless but fortunately a new door did open. It took a little time but it did happen, so please dont let this get you down to much and think of all the positive things that will come from this like reuniting with your family and friends.. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your husband through this trying time..((((((((((hugs))))))))))

          Ronda
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          Ronda

          ONE Second, ONE Bite, ONE Breath, ONE Pill, ONE Minute, ONE Teardrop, ONE Hour, ONE Sip.. ONE DAY! I will Prevail from this disease! IC Hoping for a Cure!


          Link to Patient Handbook:
          http://www.ic-network.com/handbook/

          Diet Reference Sheet:
          http://www.ic-network.com/diet/icndi...tsheet0909.pdf

          Meds For IC: Lyrica-25mg Glucosamine-500 MSM-500mg, Prosed Ds -When Flaring

          Other Meds: Levlite- Continious Birtcontrol, Micardis-40mg for High Blood Pressure

          Meds I have Tried:
          Topamax,Tofranil, Elmiron, Atarax, Cymbalta, Elavil, Enablex, Detral La, Prydium.
          Lexapro< Bad reaction to this med!
          Intstills, could not continue them due to some kind of reaction after 3rd instill. Tasted the lidocaine in my mouth, tongue and lips went numb then went into what seemed like a panic attack. Shaking, racing heart, tingling face/head, blood pressure shot up..

          Dx With IC in Nov 2006 with Hydro/Cysto
          Hydro/Cysto Caused Bladder to Rupture.

          Other Dxs-Vulvodynia,Fibro, Endo, IBS, HPV, Migraines, Spastic Colon, Mild Dysplasia.



          ICN Volunteers are not medical authorities nor do we offer medical advice. In all cases, we strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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          • #6
            Thanks Ronda,
            Gosh, I'm so sorry that you were one of the unfortunate many to lose everything to Hurrican Katrina. I can't even imagine recovering from that, so I give you a lot of credit for moving forward. I am trying to remain positive, my bladder really can't tolerate any more stress right now! I hope you and your family members are doing better now. Thanks for your well wishes.

            Kari
            Kari

            I'm 47 years old, married 27 years. I have two wonderful boys and two wonderful grandchildren. I was diagnosed in 1994. Life has certainly thrown me many many surprises, all of which I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful, and I try to think about my blessings not my misfortunes, when possible. Stay Strong!

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            • #7
              Oh, I am so sorry to hear that. What horrible timing for you. Not that any time is a good time to lose a job, but some times are worse than others.

              I hope things will fall back into place soon.
              Kim

              Diagnosed August 2001

              Current IC meds: Elmiron (since 2001), Levaquin (one pill after intercourse to prevent UTIs), Effexor (for depression & anxiety)


              Past IC meds: Amitriptyline (Elavil), Hydroxyzine (Vistaril), Detrol LA, Lexapro (for depression & anxiety, but also helped my IC) (They all helped, but I was able to discontinue them.)

              I've been virtually symptom free and able to eat & drink whatever I'd like for about 8 years now.

              *****************************

              “We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.” ~ Viktor Frankl

              “You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you.” ~ Brian Tracy

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              • #8
                Losing a job is so stressful for the whole family. Try to concentrate on the positives, like reuniting with family and friends. You'll be fine-sending tons of prayers your way! good luck

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                • #9
                  I hope things work out for you soon.

                  Sandy
                  *IC-- Summer 2004; PFD--October 2005
                  *Fibro--Fall 2000; CFS-- Fall 2000
                  *MPS--Fall 2000; Crohn's disease-- 1997*IBS,GERD, *Migraines, hypothyroidism, GYN problems *Degenerative Disc Disease/scoliosis

                  Total Abdominal Hysterectomy--adenomyosis--9\08

                  04/17/09 Crohn's disease almost killed me with a combo of extreme constipation from pain medications. My bowel ruptured, I almost died from peritonitis and spent several days in the ICU then more in a private room on the floor. If you have any questions about severe constipation from pain meds please don't hesitate to send me a message.

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                  • #10
                    May things turn around for you soon.

                    Diana
                    (\__/)
                    (o.O )
                    (> < ) This is Bunny. He's on his way to world domination.

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                    • #11
                      Kari...I hope everything works out for the better and that you are happier than you have ever been once you move back. (((hugs)))
                      Sharon

                      Shopping??? Did someone mention shopping? I'll get my hat... ;-)

                      Where I can be found most days.



                      Link to the ICN Patient Handbook:
                      http://www.ic-network.com/handbook/

                      Link to the IC Diet:
                      http://www.ic-network.com/diet/


                      IC Volunteers are not medical authorities nor do we offer medical advice. In all cases, we strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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                      • #12
                        Kari I am so sorry! We had a scare were my husband almost lost his job last month and I was freaking out over the "what ifs". I can't imagine how scary it must be. I'm glad Rhonda shared her story with you. She has such a great outlook on life!
                        I will be thinking of you both and I hope the move back here will bring great opportunities.
                        Last edited by RAS6; 06-07-2007, 09:44 AM. Reason: spelling
                        Rachel
                        DX's:
                        IC; PFD; possible Fibromyalgia; IBS;

                        Symptoms: Frequency, Urgency, pelvic and bladder pain, bladder and pelvic spasms, difficulty starting urination, weak stream, incontinence, vaginal and urethral pain

                        I've Tried:
                        three Hydrodistentions, various Rescue Installments; 6 DSMO treatments; Pyridium Plus; Proced; Detrol (patch); Elavil; Uricet K; Elmiron; Nortiptyline; Ultram; Allegra; Ditropan; Ditropan ER; Vesicare; regular Lidocain; Neurontin; Lyrica; and few more I can't remember!
                        Currently using:
                        Valium; Vicadin; Proced DS; Claritin; Buffered Lidocain; Cymbalta; Baclofen; Prazosin @ night (also on Prednisone and Adderall for my joint pain and severe fatigue)
                        Heating pads; frozen water bottles; A&D ointment; Poise pads; IC dieter since 8/06; yoga; imagery & relaxation CD, Mindfullness, self healing CD's; hot baths; seat cushion; prayer
                        I am 28 yrs old, dx'ed in '06, still trying to get my health undercontrol!!

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                        • #13
                          Thanks so much everyone for the well wishes, I guess what's meant to be will be. Rachel, I'm glad your husband didn't lose his job and hopefully your still not having to worry about that. It's so stressful. I'll keep you guys posted as to what we decide to do and what is going on. Thanks so much, as I said, he won't let me tell anyone yet, (you know how men are) so I'm going crazy keeping it in, and I'm thankful to have you guys to talk to about it.

                          Kari
                          Kari

                          I'm 47 years old, married 27 years. I have two wonderful boys and two wonderful grandchildren. I was diagnosed in 1994. Life has certainly thrown me many many surprises, all of which I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful, and I try to think about my blessings not my misfortunes, when possible. Stay Strong!

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                          • #14
                            Kari,
                            I hope you are doing a little better today now that you have had a chance to really take it all in..I will be keeping you in my prayers and praying that God will help you and your husband find the strenght that you both need to make this change..(((((((((hugs))))))))) again and God Bless You Both

                            Ronda
                            Hugs
                            Ronda

                            ONE Second, ONE Bite, ONE Breath, ONE Pill, ONE Minute, ONE Teardrop, ONE Hour, ONE Sip.. ONE DAY! I will Prevail from this disease! IC Hoping for a Cure!


                            Link to Patient Handbook:
                            http://www.ic-network.com/handbook/

                            Diet Reference Sheet:
                            http://www.ic-network.com/diet/icndi...tsheet0909.pdf

                            Meds For IC: Lyrica-25mg Glucosamine-500 MSM-500mg, Prosed Ds -When Flaring

                            Other Meds: Levlite- Continious Birtcontrol, Micardis-40mg for High Blood Pressure

                            Meds I have Tried:
                            Topamax,Tofranil, Elmiron, Atarax, Cymbalta, Elavil, Enablex, Detral La, Prydium.
                            Lexapro< Bad reaction to this med!
                            Intstills, could not continue them due to some kind of reaction after 3rd instill. Tasted the lidocaine in my mouth, tongue and lips went numb then went into what seemed like a panic attack. Shaking, racing heart, tingling face/head, blood pressure shot up..

                            Dx With IC in Nov 2006 with Hydro/Cysto
                            Hydro/Cysto Caused Bladder to Rupture.

                            Other Dxs-Vulvodynia,Fibro, Endo, IBS, HPV, Migraines, Spastic Colon, Mild Dysplasia.



                            ICN Volunteers are not medical authorities nor do we offer medical advice. In all cases, we strongly encourage you to discuss your medical treatment with your personal medical care provider. Only they can, and should, give medical recommendations to you.

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                            • #15
                              Thanks Ronda,
                              I've absorbed it alittle more today, but my head is just swimming about making the right decisions, and what the best decisions are for us you know? And of course all the thoughts of what if my house doesn't sell quickly and what if our insurance runs out before he finds another job, blah blah blah. But I'm trying to stay positive and not let it stress me too much (if that's possible) because my bladder really can't handle it right now. I've already been in so much pain for the past two months, that I think that is really just adding to my stress of being able to make decisions right now you know? The thought of being here all alone and knowing no one to help me with all the packing and moving and stuff when I'm in such pain I think is bothering me to. I know it could be worse and I know so many people are going through so many worse things then this, so I'm trying to remember that and stay positive. Being able to express these feelings here is really helping to, because I don't want to burden my husband with my stress because I feel so bad for him, he feels like such a loser and is really down on himself right now about it and I feel bad because it's not his fault and I keep trying to tell him that. He feels like he's having to go back home with his tail between his legs (or whatever that saying is,LOL) and I keep telling him that no he's not, and no one is going to think that way. But you know how men are and that's how they feel and I understand that, so I'm trying to be supportive to him and not freak out at the same time. So I appreciate being able to vent here, I really do. Thanks again,

                              Kari
                              Kari

                              I'm 47 years old, married 27 years. I have two wonderful boys and two wonderful grandchildren. I was diagnosed in 1994. Life has certainly thrown me many many surprises, all of which I'm trying to stay positive and hopeful, and I try to think about my blessings not my misfortunes, when possible. Stay Strong!

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